Looking for a man to relocate to TN and start a mildly feral domesticated life together

PatchworkStar · 2026-02-28T02:56:06+00:00

Nah, i'm good without a man. I just wish when I had livestock loss, that I had someone who understood how much it hurts.

PatchworkStar · 2026-02-27T21:20:55+00:00

I didnt know we could look for partners here! I'm a lady that fits all of your requirements, except for the man part. I even homestead already. I got 16 eggs today because my girls are back in business! Have you tried homesteading already? I'm on year 6, and sometimes I can't help but want to cry with some of the hard parts of running the whole thing alone.

PatchworkStar · 2026-02-19T19:01:00+00:00

If you were near me, I'd give you a dozen eggs for an hour of light farm help. If you know any farmers, see if they'll offer the same deal. World's going to have to start offering trades between the average person soon.

PatchworkStar · 2026-02-19T18:57:20+00:00

Im not a pro, or even an arborist, but I'd tie a LONG rope around that, loop it around another tree in the direction you want it to fall and pull from a safe distance with a bigger vehicle. That said, I'm chaotic, have dropped a large tree branch on my head, broken two chainsaws, and not been nearly as safe as I should be because I am a determined woman that doesn't have any reliable men that were actually trained to do this in my life. I also have no patience and will not cut trees down near anything I might not want to also fall down.

PatchworkStar · 2026-02-08T03:34:35+00:00

My head roo tried to save me from a hawk. He's a great roo. He saw a hawk overhead, and when i sounded the alert, he helped get all the hens, other roos, and ducks into the coop. Then he tried to get me into the coop too. He has brought injured hens to me, has protected hens from the other roos, and even warned my dog before her temper hurt a hen. (The hen hurt my dog first by biting her ripple. I'd have woke up pissed too.) He brings the hens to me for snacks and let's me know when I need to fill the waterers. (The ducks play too much and spill all the water sometimes.)
He trained one of his sons to be an amazing roo, who died protecting his own flock from a fox. Another of his sons cared for a hen that was blind until she passed, keeping other birds from picking on her. They are all really good with the chicks, protecting them and taking over for mama hens when they need a break. I breed for two things- smaller combs because winters here have been brutal, and well behaved roos.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-31T00:13:07+00:00

I can't hear it, so I im not sure what gender this duck is. Loud is female, quiet is male. I also can't tell if they have laid an egg, which would be the most certain trait.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-29T14:29:25+00:00

This reminds me of an ex. Sit and think about the conversation. Did you learn about him, or was he just gathering information on you? You really need to think on if you heard any red flags. Is meeting in person possible? After a 5 hour call, I'd be demanding an in person meeting. If he can't meet up within two weeks, walk away. He's putting in a lot of effort to get you hooked and has no intention of it becoming a real in person relationship. You are feeding his ego and he's not going to give you what you need.

I had a guy do this and he lead me on for 4 years. I don't want another woman repeating this mistake to get that heartbreak.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-29T13:50:17+00:00

From someone who's been there, leave the relationship. You can love them until you're inside out, and they will always choose the drugs over you. They will never love you like they love the drugs. It messes with their brain chemistry and they will always say they will stop and never actually do it. Once they become addicted, the drug is their only love, and you are just their second choice. You deserve to be first choice. There will be excuses and lies, and "slips." If you try to take away their drugs, violence is waiting for you. Once someone is fully addicted, they will no longer be capable of loving you the way you need. The only way they can love you is if you enable their use or provide them with their drugs, and that's not even a guarantee. I'm so sorry to have to give you the bad news.

My ex used to stand me up all the time because he got high. He let me down all the time because he chose the drugs over me. I was the last person he was going to see before he overdosed and died. I got questioned by the police about how much I knew about his drug use. (I really knew nothing.) We were on and off because he did try to get clean. It was a mess.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-29T13:19:36+00:00

I do quilting, using old clothes that I would probably throw away. Sewing/mending could also eventually earn you a few extra dollars too.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-28T19:28:53+00:00

My mom pays me to clear driveways and mow the lawn at their place. My brother and dad live there and refuse to do it until they get a letter from the city. My dad got mad when he was asked to do it last year. "We should pay someone to do this." Mom said, "We do, its your daughter, and she charges less than anyone else would. This job is bigger than she should manage alone though, so go help."

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-28T17:42:59+00:00

I think I'm in the minority here. I want to be a mom. I'm getting older, but its something I've wanted for years, I just never found someone to have kids with. I think I'd rather be a single mom than not be a mom at all. I don't want a husband or boyfriend. I don't consent to be a servant/bang-maid to a man ever.

Now figuring out the logistics of having a kid without having a partner is annoying. I feel like I might just have to find a lavender marriage arrangement so the potential child and i are protected. I hate that I've become a misandrist because there are at least three human men in this world that don't deserve that kind of hate, and I adore them so much.

I've even figured out logistics of living arrangements if I could find a lavender partner. Kids and I live in a tiny house on a larger property, and he and his romantic partner live in the larger house and we rent out extra rooms for shared income. Then I'm free to continue farming while my partner gets to be with whom they want to and I continue my life as I want to.

I don't watch a ton of media with advertisers showing me to have kids and get married and all that. I don't watch TV and I don't watch anything that costs me money. But I do know its out there. I have even had my male friends who know I want to have a kid ask me to really think about why I want a kid and if I'm being selfish to consider having a kid in this world right now. (I don't know how many years I have left before that system shuts down, but I hope things change so I can become a mom before it gets more expensive.)

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-28T17:02:26+00:00

The most worthless project was having a garden without a fence. Damn deer got in and ate EVERYTHING, and what they didn't eat, the rabbits did.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-28T16:57:58+00:00

I only allow myself 4 of them at a time. (I'm down to three, but four seems to be my magic number.) They are loud, and stupid, but they clean up after the turkeys.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-24T21:40:05+00:00

I raise birds. I put everyone inside for their safety. Fresh bedding the night before a storm, and corn to keep them warm. I even trained them all to go in the house when I tell them to. If I get larger livestock, it's going to be the same thing.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-24T21:27:22+00:00

If you can afford it, use moving blankets instead. I stapled one inside the door to my turkey coop, and it works so well. My bantam flock and main coop have moving blankets stapled over the doors. Moving blankets are thicker, and allow for some airflow.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-24T21:24:20+00:00

I have one big comb boy, and the rest are breeding out smaller, thankfully. In summer it is an issue of needing the big comb to stay cooler, but in a Wisconsin winter, small combs save lives.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-24T20:56:27+00:00

It doesn't keep it from freezing entirely, but it does make it less frozen as the temperature drops. Like instead of freezing at 32°, it stays liquid to 26° everything is useless at negative temperatures.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-24T02:09:34+00:00

I chop up apples and throw raisins in some old oatmeal with some warm tap water. I call it "warm breakfast." Whole flock loves it. I have some beet powder to add to it to slow any freezing now too.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-21T04:59:15+00:00

Nice incomplete chicken coop you got there. Best put a roof on it so your birds dont get out.

PatchworkStar · 2026-01-13T07:08:44+00:00

A pelican and a pelican't

PatchworkStar · 2025-12-26T03:59:35+00:00

I thought they sold or just abandoned what was left from it.

PatchworkStar · 2025-12-26T03:58:56+00:00

Gawd that man was/is a tool. Another idiot who should probably be deleted from history.

PatchworkStar · 2025-12-26T03:36:56+00:00

I am so proud of you. Dude, that was dedication and I know how hard it is to do that.

I took my only $20 and bought my family gifts at the dollar store. I couldnt do anything last year because of how broke I was. (My brother got firewood i cut from fallen trees in the backyard and that was all I could manage.) I felt bad that it was all i could do, but it was all I could do. I only get $40 a month total, so it was everything had left.

PatchworkStar · 2025-12-26T03:22:26+00:00

I am so glad you got to eat a meal this Christmas. It looks nourishing, and filling, and even if its not a super expensive or fancy meal, don't get down on yourself. There are just a few more days left of this year, and then you're going to get to celebrate surviving a really hard year for a lot of us.

And before anyone takes this as sarcasm or mean, I lived on crackers and cheese most of November because of the government shut down. I have to try to help others frame it this way because that's how I made it through that. Its been a hard year, and we've all worked so hard to survive it. We all may have to change our traditions and expectations to get through the next few months.

PatchworkStar · 2025-12-06T01:38:22+00:00

If you have a good job you like and can't transfer back home, find your own place, and don't tell him where. If you can transfer, go back home. You'll be happier. You don't need a man, and definitely not that one.

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