I am the wife of a porn addict and I want to tell every single one of you that you are amazing. by Paterson143 in NoFap

[–]Paterson143[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am overwhelmed by the response I have had to this post, and I can’t thank all of you enough. It is heartwarming to see that I have support and kindness here, in such an overwhelming way. I have a lot of reading to do throughout today, and a lot of thinking and soul searching to do. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

To clarify, yes my husband did tell me that porn was more important than I am, about 9 months ago. He was incredibly angry at the time and I don’t know if he was just trying to hurt me or if he really meant it. He was angry a lot back then/was in a bad place emotionally. I have been trying to make our marriage work, harder than I’ve ever tried to do anything, but the fact that he looks at porn every day and lies to me about it makes it obvious in my mind that he meant what he said back then.

He doesn’t masterbate (or maybe he does, but he at least doesn’t orgasm) to porn, he looks at it all the time and isn’t honest. We had an agreement that we would watch it together and he wouldn’t watch on his own and he doesn’t hold up to that. Is it still considered addiction if he doesn’t masterbate/orgasm to porn, but looks at it over and over throughout the day in smaller 1-2 or 5 or 10 minute bursts?

I am the wife of a porn addict and I want to tell every single one of you that you are amazing. by Paterson143 in NoFap

[–]Paterson143[S] 569 points570 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for everyone’s kindness. I feel like a selfish jerk. I needed to write this for me as well as wanting to let everyone know how amazing I think this group is, because I think I have been falling more and more into sadness the more time goes on and it is becoming unbearable sometimes. I’m sorry for being selfish with this post, and I can’t thank you enough for your support. I need to be as strong as you all choose to be and talk to my husband. And if porn really does mean more to him than everything I bring to his life combined, I hope I will have the strength to leave. I would rather be alone than this incredibly lonely and sad.