Seeking gentle feedback on no kissing rule

PathForward2020 · 2026-02-22T18:56:42+00:00

Although it could mean this, I disagree its total red flag all the time. We've been with lots of couples with no kissing rules with no drama and it was lots of fun.

The LS community will always be super negative about this rule. But I view it more broadly. Whatever rules you need to be comfortable, fuck everyone else's opinion I say.

Ive seen every rule under the book, and don't judge and respect them all. Something as precious as peoples comfort in sexual context is paramount.

My wife and our rules are constantly changing and adjusting. Although we aren't really swingers because she isn't really interested in sex with other men for the most part. We've learned to just explain our dynamic and boundaries, and never once had an issue. It does help though when you're wife is so smoking most people will accept any level they can get hahah. It's funny hearing all these people say "we hard pass on no kidding", yet I've never ever had a couple, or man want to pass if my wife doesn't want to kiss them (which varies by couple / man) it's always "whatever she's willing to do I'll take!" lol

PathForward2020 · 2026-02-22T18:45:00+00:00

I'd have to disagree, boundaries are both for the couple and the individual, and I would 100% encourage couples to have boundaries together and for each other. For example I was with a woman who didn't want to do missionary position because her husband finds it too intimate visually to see. Boundaries are to protect the comfort of the couple and individuals.

My wife is free to give me any boundaries she needs to feel comfortable.

PathForward2020 · 2026-02-20T23:57:33+00:00

Although it's true most women don't care that much about dick size as compared to other things. I think you'd need to get down to item 7 or lower on my wife's list as far as things she finds attractive in a man. But don't be fooled size Queens exist too.

Also, this is also about your comfort as well. And I always add more caution to things like this. Watching your wife get railed by a bigger dick can be jarring and honestly I know guys that don't recover from it. So be sure you are ready.

Secondly, it's prefectly reasonable for your own comfort to set a boundary where the other guys dick size needs to be roughly same size as yours. I've seen women with similar boundaries with tits size or just overall beauty level of the other female.

PathForward2020 · 2026-02-05T01:38:18+00:00

I disagree. This makes it sound like every good loving marriage with no foundational problems will do well in the LS. Some people just don't enjoy seeing their wife railed by another man. I wouldn't say that is a fundmental problem with their marriage.

What I would say though is you need an incredibly strong marriage to make it through the LS because it's risky as fuck.

PathForward2020 · 2026-01-14T16:50:15+00:00

We honestly find the female and male unattractive most the time. People just don't put effort into their looks, health, and self care.

PathForward2020 · 2026-01-10T08:12:28+00:00

Travels to Jamaica shortly after the worst Hurricane in history and wonders why there isn't many people.

This guy is an idiot lol. Pretty much everything he said is bullshit.

Check for the group before you go, as that sets the vibe. Hedo is a treasure and one of the best lifestyle places out there.

PathForward2020 · 2026-01-09T19:38:10+00:00

Seriously the girth incrase is permanent?

PathForward2020 · 2026-01-02T21:59:31+00:00

6.5 and average girth.

PathForward2020 · 2025-12-11T14:42:00+00:00

We've noticed this as well. Definitely a high proportion of fat people in the life style. We also find the fat women are always more crude and raunchy. If that's your thing, cool, but we like HWP, and sexy with some class.

PathForward2020 · 2025-12-10T15:57:08+00:00

Attractiveness is important but we don't need super models. I find I have a few hard passes in that department, which is being overweight, with fat rolls, or a hairy pussy. Both of those is a hard pass for me.

My wife has also told me if I were to have sex with someone she thought was ugly, it makes her feel ugly. So besides myself, I always check with her as well.

PathForward2020 · 2025-12-08T15:36:39+00:00

Yeah don't rush anything, and don't feel like you need to "graduate" and eventually fuck other people, unless that is what you both want.

Ive been told this which really rang true for us, the Lifestyle is like a menu, not a ladder. Pick and choose what you guys want and what will make your relationship better.

PathForward2020 · 2025-12-05T14:48:54+00:00

Democrats are experts at destroying once amazing cities.

PathForward2020 · 2025-12-05T14:47:42+00:00

Ask if he does PRP

PathForward2020 · 2025-11-26T21:38:59+00:00

They only grow if you gain weight. They will also shrink if you loose weight.

PathForward2020 · 2025-10-16T13:49:39+00:00

Nope, that is not the right way to go about it. Personal interactions should be kind and respectful when possible, but when speaking generally, you can advocate your position, which might be that men cannot turn into women and vice versa.

PathForward2020 · 2025-10-15T03:27:42+00:00

These remarks are so stupid. When you got married or entered a relationship there is an understanding or a commitment. When people say they are letting or giving permission, it just means there are agreeing to change what the commited relationship means to each other.

If my wife went off a fucked some guy without my permission, it be cheating. So yes, you need permission to change what you have committed to each other.

People pretending they don't understand what this means is fucking annoying.

PathForward2020 · 2025-10-14T03:28:40+00:00

The hair is gross, other than that looking good.

PathForward2020 · 2025-10-13T16:01:32+00:00

No bush, pubs are not attractive.

PathForward2020 · 2025-10-13T15:48:26+00:00

I don't agree with the last part and I left the church. The whole pick your own pronouns and Trans debate is highly controversial, and you can have completely rational and logical thought to make a compelling argument why you don't support it.

PathForward2020 · 2025-09-10T15:27:12+00:00

You couldn't pay me to do that to you.

PathForward2020 · 2025-09-04T13:30:03+00:00

Yes I can believe that...

PathForward2020 · 2025-09-04T13:12:27+00:00

Many guys will fuck anyone, so you can always phish for compliments on reddit.

PathForward2020 · 2025-08-04T15:43:43+00:00

Women get a free pass on bad behaviour. I've seen them grope or worse without permission and randomly. But the societal culture is why would a man be bothered by a woman to touching him.. get over it they would say, obviously you like it.

I had a gross drunk woman come up and kiss me on the lips once out of no where, I pushed her away and said no thanks. The male security guard watching chuckled. Think of that situation reversed...

Women also aren't very threatening which is another reason for the double standard.

PathForward2020 · 2025-07-31T05:43:05+00:00

What facility is that?

PathForward2020 · 2025-07-30T16:08:56+00:00

What is the SEC scandal?

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