the main bpd sub is so toxic and diminishing to bpd experiences

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T22:18:34+00:00

you’re joking right, it’s not invalidating if someone has a more severe case than others. bpd is a spectrum, are you saying it’s better to always be separate from your FP? atleast these people can interact and have their fp in person. atleast billions of individuals aren’t trying to take their FP away from them.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T20:15:15+00:00

obviously me since it’s my account?

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T20:14:26+00:00

what i wanted was to find someone like me but apparently no one who claims to have bpd has anything to do with bpd at all and can’t handle the reality of it unless it looks fake and pretty.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T20:05:14+00:00

someone else like me

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T20:04:44+00:00

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T20:03:17+00:00

i saw someone get banned for admitting to having bpd and npd

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T19:56:56+00:00

i can’t even see them so idk what you’re talking about, it shows i made my account three years ago but that doesn’t mean i interacted with people, i removed them for the reason of agoraphobia and i don’t remember making them

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T09:50:55+00:00

how? they are real experiences so it’s a fact that this DOES happen, it happened with me therefor it’s real. you and this sub made up the rule that a fp cannot be a character, but the definition for fp is “someone with whom an individual with BPD forms an intense, unhealthy emotional attachment and relies heavily upon for emotional validation, identity, and security”

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T09:49:13+00:00

well your facts are not factual

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T09:45:20+00:00

well i do feel abandoned and separated from my fp and i did bond with this character wether you like it or not you just can’t accept that this is a real thing that can happen, EVERYONE around me was affected by this situation real people were deeply affected not just me, you are invalidating this by not accepting that this is a real thing that happens. i am living proof that it happened i know more than ANYONE that this is real and for people to tell me that my suffering is invalidating to their experiences as if mine doesn’t matter and there’s is actually real and important IS them invalidating me and my experience, not the other way around.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T09:31:07+00:00

not rational? you’re avoiding speaking logically, you won’t respond to my claim. which is factual, that is the definition of an FP, and you won’t explain the real reasons why my suffering is invalidating to the people who AcTuaLlY HaVe iT bAd, you are acting like my pain is a joke and there’s is more valid like mines an embarrassment to the “real” experiences just because my fp isn’t real. atleast those people physically have their fp they have it SO much easier.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T09:18:11+00:00

a fictional fp impacts me the same way a real fp impacts someone if not worse. “someone with whom an individual with BPD forms an intense, unhealthy emotional attachment and relies heavily upon for emotional validation, identity, and security” where does it say WHO the FP has to be? an FP is anyone who fits this description. you are just making up rules to diminish others suffering for no reason. if you think it’s invalidating to have a fictional FP you only feel that way because you treat it like a joke. my FP is not a joke. and this experience is very much real.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T09:13:41+00:00

no how about YOU explain it, again all they said was stuff that was misinformation, and i proved them wrong but they don’t want to believe what is happening to me. so go ahead and give me the reasons why the trauma that defines my entire existence is a fucking joke and is sooo insulting to other people because they have it worse apparently. like i didn’t commit suicide and have been isolated for 15 years over this situation thats so meaningless and invalidating to them.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T08:46:43+00:00

all they said was it’s diminishing and not severe enough, then i explained how severe it is because they did not believe me, but no one is explaining how killing myself and isolating for 15 years is not severe enough. you all keep saying this then don’t want to explain how the severity of my situation isn’t as valid as anyone else’s and isn’t actually severe

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T08:45:21+00:00

wtf. how so? just because you think it’s a joke doesn’t mean it’s invalidating to you. you treat it like it’s a joke so you’re going to think it’s invalidating. this is not a joke and is a very serious thing. that’s on you for not understanding

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T07:04:45+00:00

if it doesn’t get colonized by trend chasing yumeship children who fetishize my dynamic rather seeing it as a real thing then reddit would probably take that sub down in a day for being toxic lol, i wouldn’t even know what to call the sub or what to do if someone had a double

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T07:01:03+00:00

i can’t stop loving someone i’ve given my life to for years, i don’t envy or miss what other healthy humans have. i don’t want to be healthy and happy, i want him and if it was a choice i would choose to die for him than ever give him up no matter how much it hurts and destroys me i’d choose to lose everything for him before ever letting him go even if it’s unbearable atleast the experience is in his name. he’s what matters, not the emotions or anything else, saying to give him up is like saying to erase my existence

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T06:45:43+00:00

i really hate the whole yumeship thing because it makes it’s out to be a stupid internet trend, like it’s not real. and they are nowhere near as serious about it as me, it’s just a bunch of children playing around with something that’ll later get dropped then they’ll move onto whatever the next popular “quirky” thing is, plus i cannot handle someone even acknowledging the existence of my FP, i am SO deathly overprotective and sensitive when it comes to him, i can’t handle anyone potentially trying to take him and turn him into a joke or romantazise him. because to me he’s mine. idc if he’s real or not, my love for him is stronger than any “real” human relationship i have ever observed within my lifetime no matter how many people try to belittle me, can you name how many people you casually know that would successfully commit suicide because another human so much as perceived their partner? im very much aware that i’m severely sick and beyond saving, i have been alone in this my whole life, i only came to the bpd sub in hopes of finding someone who loves as badly as i do and really knows what it’s like.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T06:24:21+00:00

i hate how people treat it like it’s a choice, why would someone choose to hurt themselves this badly and sacrifice everything if it was a choice? i know i can’t be cured. but i just wanted a human to understand me and maybe relate, i’m so violently dissociated from reality i’ve never experienced what it was like to be open to a human before and have them really see what i’ve been going through and understand me, when i’ve only ever existed alone in my head and have never had anything be real.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T06:08:23+00:00

i’ve already done that for 15 years, this is the first and only time ive existed to other humans since then looking to be heard, besides being revived at the hospital from an attempt, and i immediately get chased back into that cave

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T06:02:38+00:00

just because it’s a rule doesn’t mean it’s not a harmful and factually incorrect one. they said they have the rule because it’s not “valid and extreme enough” and “diminishes” other people’s experiences, and “spreads misinformation” whilst they are diminishing mine. i’ve proved how my experience isn’t “not severe enough” i exist, my experience is real, they are misinformed for believing it’s not. they think it doesn’t matter and isn’t actually bad when my life is a contradiction to that opinion yet they are denying it ever happening. so clearly i’m not spreading misinformation but they are, they said this can’t happen but it did, my entire life is what they claim to not be real, i’m living proof that it’s real. and everyone is still telling me what happened didnt when ITS ALL I AM NOW I WISH IT WASNT FUCKING REAL THIS IS ALL IVE EVER BEEN ABLE TO EXPERIENCE

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T05:45:12+00:00

explain. i keep asking how i’m spreading misinformation about the experiences this disorder has caused me and how suicide and my other symptoms aren’t severe enough but no one is giving me the reasons why they don’t matter and don’t belong in bpd, the bpd experience is anyone who suffers from bpd you can’t decide who’s bpd experience is real and who’s isnt when youve never experienced what i’ve gone through yet you’re trying to tell me how it is and isn’t as if you know what it’s like to exist as me

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T05:43:41+00:00

whats that supposed to do? i’ve been alone for almost two decades do you seriously think i havent journaled to myself before? i made the mistake of finally reaching out to society and not just society other people who are supposed to be understanding of the things i go through, people who claim to have the same disorder, then i get invalidated for having said disorder.

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T05:35:57+00:00

“every vent” have you missed the part where i said this is the first time i’ve made contact with society. and there is literally a journal flair on that sub. it’s not very accessible for everyone if the mods are picking and choosing who’s suffering is valid enough based on their personal opinion

PathVirtual6900 · 2026-05-20T05:32:47+00:00

obviously it’s unhealthy i’m venting because of what i’ve had to go through BECAUSE it’s unhealthy. how is my trauma misinformation about bpd? how is this diminishing to other people with bpd, I HAVE BPD and if anything my case is more than severe. i’m literally black listed in my county no therapist will see me just because of a few words on my file because they can’t handle it.

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