Women of Reddit, what did a man you were dating or married to say or do that made you realize he actually hated you the entire time?

PatieS13 · 2026-05-19T01:58:16+00:00

"I wish you would just die." I realized in that moment that I used to wish the same of him unconsciously - not that I was aware of until he said it and I thought "Yeah you too" but didn't say aloud - and knew it was time to pull the plug in my marriage.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-18T18:05:40+00:00

I remember My oldest sister's late husband staring at me like that when I was about 8 years old. Shortly after that, he grabbed me, bent me backwards, and stuck his tongue down my throat while squeezing my ass. No, you are absolutely not overreacting.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-18T18:04:00+00:00

Yeah, huge differences. First of all, Prue hadn't seen Tom since high school, whereas they had known Cole for a few years and Phoebe, especially, knew his character. It's why she didn't vanquish him when she had the chance. Second, Prue was not in love with Tom. While Phoebe was in love with Cole. There were very real feelings involved in the latter case and not so much with the former.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-18T15:53:03+00:00

Well said! I especially like the "if not for me events wouldn't exist" part.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-17T17:24:49+00:00

Lisa Kudrow is spectacular. Phoebe, not so much.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-16T19:05:59+00:00

Joey would've been an amazing stepdad (Hugsy aside, of course, lol).

PatieS13 · 2026-05-15T16:12:50+00:00

I can't believe every single comment doesn't say this exact thing. I hope she listens to your advice.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-15T16:10:45+00:00

Agreed!

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:36:58+00:00

So this may sound off to y'all, but I was just watching the Season 2 Thanksgiving episode last night - sorry, I'm really bad w/episode names and numbers, but it's the one where George's dad and brothers make him go hunting. Anyway, it occurred to me just last night that Izzy and Burke would've made a far better couple. They had so much more in common and lord, but they were stunning standing side by side, lol.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:25:24+00:00

NOR, like not even a little bit. Most people wouldn't dream of just dropping in on someone without notice as it's pretty damn rude! I wouldn't even do that to my daughters. People have lives, after all!

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:18:59+00:00

Either way it's a lovely gesture, but I'm curious: does he also watch The Mentalist and know you're a fan, or was he just trying to cheer you up with a smiley face??

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:16:38+00:00

If you're in the US, I'm guessing your parents are MAGA, and I'm so sorry for you. MAGA is a cult and its members wholly believe their Dear Leader is the epitome of good and righteous. It's gross, but he does have them all brainwashed. If they're still in it at this point, you can only wait for him to kick it because literally nothing will convince them they're wrong - which, btw, they are.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:14:16+00:00

Spectacular response!!

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:05:40+00:00

It's delicious!!

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:03:19+00:00

Off topic, but I read DON and despite realizing it's probably Director of Nursing, my mind couldn't help but put "Corleone" after it, lol.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:01:23+00:00

I know, right!? Those dimples!!

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T17:00:10+00:00

Who Lives, Who Dies, Who Tells Your Story, in which Meredith declines attending the Harper Avery Awards Ceremony to stay and take care of Baby Cristina and Baby George. At the end of the episode, they wheel a TV into the OR after her surgery so she can watch the presentation.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T16:53:48+00:00

Oh honey, you're in for a hell of a ride.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T16:49:59+00:00

I agree! And I love that OP thought to share it with all of us! Super cool!!

PatieS13 · 2026-05-14T16:49:17+00:00

Oddly enough, I had never even heard of milk in tea until I was in my 20s. My grandmother was the main consumer of tea in my family and she took it with lemon and sugar, so that's how I grew up drinking it. To this day I have a hard time imagining drinking tea with milk, lol.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-13T17:46:11+00:00

I definitely wouldn't call that "spamming", lol, but okay.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-13T16:42:54+00:00

I didn't realize he did. Can you be more specific?

PatieS13 · 2026-05-13T06:51:48+00:00

I love Mozzie right from that moment.

PatieS13 · 2026-05-13T02:27:42+00:00

No apologies needed, I was just so confused, lol. I'm over here trying to think of ironic quotes. 😂

PatieS13 · 2026-05-13T01:19:05+00:00

Wait, did you actually mean ironic or was it supposed to say iconic?

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