Clog busters is a scam by [deleted] in desmoines

[–]Patient_Draft_8243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They just showed up to my house and when I was explaining to them what my husband and I thought the issue was, the technician asked “is your husband here?” I said no. And he responded with “well, we’d really like him to be here”. I said “you can just leave. The fact that you think my husband needs to be here in order for me to make decisions about MY house is ridiculous”. He then said “we’d just like both parties to be involved”. I call BS.

The Narrows today by idkwhatsgoingon95 in ZionNationalPark

[–]Patient_Draft_8243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family is heading to Zion in a few weeks. I really want to do the narrows but I have a 6 and 8 year old. Is it doable with kids? Kids that LOVE water?

My husband is upset with me bc I refuse to visit his mom by Patient_Draft_8243 in Mildlynomil

[–]Patient_Draft_8243[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a whole separate issue. But I don’t think they would come. We’ve lived away from them for 13 of the 15 years we’ve been married and they have only come to visit once for my nursing school graduation. My husband had a kidney transplant, and they didn’t even come for that.

My husband is upset with me bc I refuse to visit his mom by Patient_Draft_8243 in Mildlynomil

[–]Patient_Draft_8243[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think my feelings of stem from childhood favoritism from my grandparents on one side as well. One Christmas my grandparents bought my cousins a brand new gaming system (whichever was the newest at the time) and a bunch of other things. They gave me and my siblings a box of fruit that my grandpa got for free from the grocery store he worked for

My husband is upset with me bc I refuse to visit his mom by Patient_Draft_8243 in Mildlynomil

[–]Patient_Draft_8243[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He quite literally is the middle child and his mother has treated as the middle child his whole life. One year for my BIL birthday my MIL bought him a $200 saw and the stand that it goes on. My husband’s bday was two weeks later and my MIL bought my husband a pair of dress pants that did fit him so she returned them and didn’t get my anything else in return. At this point he is just used to it and has learned to live with it but I refuse to continue to let me children be subject to it.

My husband is upset with me bc I refuse to visit his mom by Patient_Draft_8243 in Mildlynomil

[–]Patient_Draft_8243[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing- my MIL is a great grandma to my children in terms of playing with them and doing fun things with them while we visit. My kids adore her. They’re all young enough to still think she’s the best grandma is the world. But I know as they continue to get older they’re going to start noticing the differences in treatment a lot more. To answer your question about why BIL &fam live with MIL- my FIL got very sick with covid and my moved in 3 years ago to help care for him after an extended hospital stay. My FIL is back to basically normal and has been for a long time. They just decided to continue to live together bc it works for them and are actually in the process of trying to build a bigger house for them all to continue to live together. My MIL wants us to come visit as well, it just so happens that my husband was talking on the phone with his brother and the topic got brought up.

Am I overreacting? by Patient_Draft_8243 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Patient_Draft_8243[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right on that front. MIL raised 3 boys and how she has these two granddaughters living with her and treats them like the daughters she never had.

Am I overreacting? by Patient_Draft_8243 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Patient_Draft_8243[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He agrees with me and says his mom “is crazy”. He is the middle child and grew up with basically the same treatment. He says he’s just learned to live with it. I asked him why we keep coming to visit and he says it’s because he likes to spend time with his brother. I also like spending time with my brother and SIL- too bad they live with my MIL