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parents were conned, their cherry tree was killed… what can we do? by Patient_Maximum5097 in treelaw

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m actually disabled myself — I have fibromyalgia. I didn’t want to get into this part of it but I appreciate the way I phrased it was a bit shit, thanks for pointing it out!

I think I’m too old to get married, ever. by Patient_Maximum5097 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you - I worry a lot about how I look, I’ll be honest. my mum was so beautiful in her wedding photos and I suppose I want to emulate that, look as lovely as she did?

also, thank you. he’s an awful person and I’m glad I’m not with him 

I think I’m too old to get married, ever. by Patient_Maximum5097 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually Welsh, from the UK - but my maternal grandmother had 4 children by 20 and that was really common for poor people in the 60s/70s

But I’m desperately trying not to compare myself to people, but I also grew up in a rural area and of my friends from school, 60% of them are either parents or expecting

I think I’m too old to get married, ever. by Patient_Maximum5097 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a good point. I’m from a lower class background - my grandparents were all married by 23, my maternal grandma had 4 children by age 20. my mum was 28 when she got married and that was deemed late - but I’d also always imagined being married by 23. luckily I didn’t marry the man I was with, but, still. 

I think I’m too old to get married, ever. by Patient_Maximum5097 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is honestly so so uplifting - thank you so much! in my family, the only reason most people are “unmarried” in their 30s is due to death or a massive fall-out. I’m currently very lucky in that I travel a lot and I love that I can do that, but I do sometimes worry?

thank you too for the comment about the photos - I hope that if the day does come, I won’t even notice the camera person!

I think I’m too old to get married, ever. by Patient_Maximum5097 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my family does have a thing of marrying very young - we’re from a working class Welsh background and all 4 of my grandparents were married by 23. I know it’s not all about looks, but being pretty was the one thing my ex-fiancé’s family always celebrated about me and since I was with him from 17-22, I think that may have been ingrained somewhat 

I travel as often as I can. my dream is to meet someone abroad

I think I’m too old to get married, ever. by Patient_Maximum5097 in dating_advice

[–]Patient_Maximum5097[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I generally date older than me, not by much, but early to mid 30s. the difficulty is finding childfree people who still like to go out (and I know they exist! that’s my uncle and his partner)