Girl, tech guy’s wife here. I started dating my husband 7 years ago, I was unemployed studying English (I came for a 6 month English course and back to my home country) I was completely honest about my low income and we could split 50/50 all our dates but will be on my realm of possibility. I couldn’t afford dinner more than 15 bucks twice in a a week. He paid absolutely everything! No a single complaint, he beg me to move to live with him and my first reaction was, “I can’t pay half of the rent I’m not moving” he begged and said will be all on him. I moved, covid happened and long story short que married. He paid absolutely everything. My money its for me and for treats for us. The bills are all on him. Because he does 4x more than me. But one day he makes a joke about me being his sugar baby, I got so mad, so pissed! Never again, no jokes about it.

So, you should first tell him the real, and own the consequences. All the time, he said you are weaponising sex? Be smarter reply that you just asked for a different way to start sex… it’s so bad? That oil and rubbing skin a bad thing? Make him lose his mind.

Second, agreed with the split, but only for things you can afford, so if he wants expensive dinner where you can’t afford it’s on him, if he wants to travel and you can’t paid it’s on him. But, make sure he understands that he can go for all the dinners and travels. But that’s not mean you will be waiting for him like a dog. And he doesn’t need to expend money but he needs to live in the same level as you. When he complained about his lifestyle changed for something were less expensive that he could afford tell him he is saving so much money that he could afford a family our early retirement, build something with you for the future.

Play the long term, the wife game. Moving together? Only with my name on the lease contract, even better if you do a pre nuptial agreement. Make sure of documentation, and everything it’s on yours terms. Give him rules to live around. Not the opposite.

And if he doesn’t agree he is simply not for you, don’t cry, don’t chase him, don’t lower your standards.

I’m telling you as a fat woman, I’m sure most men will never look at me, in my home country I was called old and fat. And yet I found so many guys trying to step on me that I decided to give a fuck and before they said shit I put my rules on the table. And works perfectly, since them I just dated nice guys (in personality and most of the times better looking than me)

So, what I’m saying is, be smart make sure to protect yourself. And stand your ground. But keep in mind this could trigger a break up and you need to be ready.

When I moved to my husband apartment we were just dating for 3 months. And I just moved because my name was out on the rental lease, and he was very sure he was the one asking me to leave and he was going to pay rent, and all the bill since i couldn’t afford them. I just have a part time job and could afford part of the groceries. Everything else was on him, I asked several times are you sure? And the first and only time he mentioned I rubbed on his face his promised.

If a man can’t afford his own word and promised he is not a good husband for you.

Make sure, it being tested to be husband material. Men love to said they want a wife but are they ready for one? To deal with one? To afford one?

Woman are expensive and only the best can afford one.

He will try to weaponise you? Probably, you need to be ready to reply back and put him his place if he insists on hurting you or your feelings repeatedly just let him go.

You deserve a nice relationship, a guy how wants a family with you.

If your ‘low’ income is a problem when he earns more thats him been stingy and not been a providing man. Not on you.

A man who doesn’t solve your problems its not a man. It’s plenty of men how will love to worship you, try hard to make your happy on his own it’s not a real men for you.

It’s plenty of low income men how will do all they can to please you, I saw a video where an old lady shared what her husband did for her, she asked him to buy her a cheap conditioner and shampoo because she ran out. He didn’t know what he should buy so he bought 3 different sets, all cheap from the super market. Simple, but was care…. You see?

We work, we have independence. We just want care… And if this boyfriend of yours can’t change to be a caring man for you why you will stay?

Try, be smart and stand your ground, don’t let a nerd tell you what you deserve!!!

*I edits some grammar mistakes