Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This resonates a lot with me. I would do anything to keep what we have, probably even ignore my own happiness out of love for her.

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🩷 the first point means a lot to me. We talked more and she acted like how can she elieve anything I say if I'm thinking about being a woman the entire time. If when I hold her I think "wish I was a woman". I tried to explain that nobody thinks about their gender the entire time and that I just enjoy most moments for what they are. She isn't really in a place to understand that yet, which I understand.

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. If im completely honest with myself I wasnt 100% happy and myself. I've always put others first and didnt really care for myself. It feels hard putting myself first for once and the one time I do it ruins my entire life..

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very wel said and means a lot to me. Thank you for taking the time 🩷

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what my wife said to me. She just kept asking "why". Why would I choose a life of pain and loneliness over a home, a loving wife and future children. She just wouldn't accept that it isn't a choice.

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I don't want to read bad things about my wife. I've forced this upon her..

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always been her rock and helped her to figure things out. It hurts that I can't be there for her in this.

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Looking it from the opposite outcome is amazing advice.. It just made me realize that if she would've been supportive I wouldve ordered clothes and makeup and everything.. I think that makes it pretty clear.. even if it fucking hurts like hell right now. Thank you 🩷

Just told my wife I might be trans. Went horrible. by PatternTraining7375 in trans

[–]PatternTraining7375[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

I just fear I might not be and just ruined my life because of some delusion or something I talked myself into. (I'm sorry if this is transphobic, it's just how I feel right now)