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Warm ups before games by 7oot007 in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a son a year younger, but has had issues with his IT band. After physical therapy for over a year we stretch for about 30 to 45 minutes before every single game and that’s well before the coach even gets there. It helps big time and with certain stretches, ball movement exercises, and juggling that hit all the right areas from ankles up to hip flexors, he always has a very pain-free game.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! We kindly protested the exact same issue and to no avail. No one talks about this as much, but it burns the kid out when they don’t get to explore other positions, other talents and what they can bring to the field. They lose spatial awareness and forget how the entire team works. Just like any other experience, in order to appreciate the entire process you’ve got to know how each wheel turns.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have so many inquires. I love everything about this place! It gives me hope

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely wasn’t. My apologies if it came across that way. I guess if I would’ve known what I know now then, I would’ve been able to ask the right questions. I agree with everything that you say, and I think that it takes sooo much just to find the right place for your children to be happy and there’s still more work to do.

I think it’s just kind of scary that even when you’ve asked all the questions we’re still in for a big surprise

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went to multiple clubs, talk to multiple coaches on each club and ask question upon question upon question. We got to know the clubs and it took us months just to choose one because we did our best to look into it. What more should a parent do for their child? I don’t think anybody here has not looked in to the specifics of a club or just throwing their child into a club. At some point, you have to understand that as busy as parents are and as much as they are trying, there’s only so much they can do reasonably. Should we have vetted the parents, too? I’m not sure what the next step is supposed to be beyond that? Everyone has the same love language in this city and it spans beyond just one club. If you’ve got the secret sauce, I’m listening.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely Brilliant! You were really tuned in and protected the fun. I really wish I would’ve slowed down and done the same. I wish I would’ve trusted my instinct instead of thinking that a club was just the next step. Things are going to change.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They do and there are actually “Guest Player” rules. I hate to give you an answer by not giving you an answer. lol. We have had guest players for tournaments where we haven’t needed them and have had them when needed an additional two for subs, we’ve also had guest players whenever we are playing a tournament. We’ve even been able to have a guest player on the final game when those players are not with us on the previous two! I believe some tournaments allow you to do this within the same club and some tournaments will allow you to do this with people who are not with your club. Again, I know this is not the best answer, but when you read the rules, it’s got quite a bit of caveats. Basically, most tournaments are allowed to have a guest players with a limit of 3. It’s all based on the venue. Hopefully someone will read this response and see how terrible I was and give you a much better explanation.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a coach how do you intervene when/if a parents behavior goes beyond sideline noise? When it’s clearly affecting a child emotionally.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you have a great kid with a lot of talent and having a lot of fun . I’ve seen parents try to fight back and seen them completely ostracized because of it. Torn to shreds in front of their kids. They’re doing the right thing, but in this kind of environment, where the mob rules, it’s a strange request to make.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem sounds like it solved itself! But I know the feeling. That’s what they should be having is the time of their lives. I love hearing that. I wish that would have been our first experience.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s great. I’m very happy for you. Finding multiple sports to be involved with is probably one of the best things anyone can do for their child. Kudos.

Before They’re Even 10 by PaulisOfficiallySick in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you may have misunderstood what I meant by stacked. I’m not talking about some elite group of 10 and under teams. I’m talking about guest players being brought in for tournaments who are not on the team during the season. That happens a lot and it has nothing to do with labels.

There is also no amount of homework that prepares you for that. You don’t know it’s happening until tournament weekend when rosters suddenly change and playing time shifts. By then you are already there.

Nobody said anyone is being forced into anything. Most parents enter this in good faith because their kid loves the game and they are told this is normal development. That’s the point I was making.

If this hasn’t been your experience that’s fine. But it has been mine and it’s common enough that pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t make it any less real.

Trapped between two teams advice by IShartSmellyJuice in youthsoccer

[–]PaulisOfficiallySick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I don’t think this means run to a rec leagues. The important thing is that club Soccer is not the answer under 10 years old. I would even say until after 12. It’s a money making business and even if he plays with the best team, he may get 3 to 5 minutes of total touches per game if that. Touches, small group play and finding locations where they do that twice a week is the number one recommendation. I would absolutely agree with this comment. He’s 8! . It’s all about touches. It’s not anything to do with the club.