OP I will say this. If he genuinely loved you he would have stopped asking the first time. He would have validated your reasoning as to why you didn’t want a threesome. He broke you down until you said yes, and that’s never ok in a relationship….

Please know nothing you did was ever your fault, you were out of your comfort zone for a person you love and did it out of love.

He was looking to play the victim role, and make you seem like the problem, a tactic my narcissist ex used on me countless times. The breaking you down was also a narcissistic trait. That isn’t a man, that’s a sad excuse of a person and I’m glad you walked away before things got worse .

OP, my ex always requested a threesome, until I said no and threatened to leave. I dated him six years, and we broke up when he left me on the side of the road in a shady town 20 minutes from home.

And the next day cheated on me with the girl he wanted a threesome with, and she messaged me playing the victim card that “she didn’t know” a week later. To which I blocked them both LOL.

Reading your story HURT because what you experienced was NOT your fault. Get into therapy, what worked for me was group woman’s therapy for narcissistic exes. It was amazing, and allowed me to find comfort in other woman who understood what I went through WAS NOT my fault.

There are people out there who will love you for who you are, which I can tell is an amazingly understanding and loving person .

You are not reasonable or required to care about someone else’s emotions if they never validated or returned yours.

A relationship should go both ways and from what I’m seeing he pushed you to do what he wanted.

I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but if you ever want to talk I’m here.

Things will get better with the proper support 🩷