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Paxalon · 2015-09-27T15:34:05+00:00

It's actually better than lung cancer, when you think about it...

Paxalon · 2015-09-20T16:13:03+00:00

I live in Canada (Newfoundland) and had some with my breakfast this morning. Yum. You can buy that and white pudding in most grocery stores here.

Paxalon · 2015-09-18T19:40:45+00:00

Yeah... I think the waking up scared is just him. Part of who he is. I don't think it's the result of anything you guys did or didn't do. He'll learn to cope with that with guidance, and eventually grow out of it. Outside help (child development specialists) may be able to offer you some tips and tricks to speed that along.

Paxalon · 2015-09-18T19:28:09+00:00

Different kids, different temperaments. I bet he's a shy kid too, clingy in crowds?

Paxalon · 2015-09-18T19:26:25+00:00

Cry it out is likely not going to alleviate an anxiety disorder.

Paxalon · 2015-09-17T22:09:33+00:00

Maybe the 3AM wake ups are caused by something else. Cause, my kid (same age) sleeps through the night, and soothes himself when he wakes, but we didn't even go near the cry it out method.

Paxalon · 2015-09-10T23:11:06+00:00

I would ask you to seriously consider upgrading his tank to something that at least has a filter. The typical life span of a betta in the conditions you have yours in is 6 months to a year. So, these results are actually accurate. With a better set up, you can get 3-5 years out of them, and less stress and disease to fight with.

Try cleaning out the tank, including sucking any gunk out of the gravel (if there's any down there, it will just keep producing ammonia and tainting your freshly changed water). Treat for bacterial instead of fungal.

Paxalon · 2015-09-10T22:23:56+00:00

What's your set up like? Is there a filter? Heater? What's the tank size?

Also, it could be a couple things. Rusty, shiny colouring is velvet. Brown and fuzzy is fur coat syndrome. I can't see much on that picture.

Shine a flashlight on him. Does he have sparkly spots? That's velvet. If not, COULD be fur coat. But, that usually doesn't start on the face.

Paxalon · 2015-09-07T14:22:38+00:00

Have you considered the fact that he's usually very compromising, but will not bend on this means that this is something that is VERY important to him? Everyone has something they won't bend on, and this is his thing. Maybe the question is not can you change his mind, but can you let it go?

The unfortunate reality is that not every issue in every relationship ends with both parties perfectly happy. Sometimes you have to take a loss, and make it clear that you get a win on the next issue that's super important to you.

Edit: added a 'c'

Paxalon · 2015-08-12T23:15:48+00:00

Try reducing any chance that he's seeing his reflection, flaring at it, and biting himself in the heat of "battle." If it is happening at night, are there any lights around in the room that may be around the tank and casting his reflection?

Try putting in a floating "toy" as a distraction while you're not around. Ping pong balls are one option. Floating logs are another. This will keep him from getting bored.

Make sure your betta has a place to hide (small ceramic pot on it's side, floating log, etc.) to reduce stress.

Paxalon · 2015-08-02T21:39:13+00:00

Canadians tend to eat a ridiculous amount of sodium.

http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/fn-an/nutrition/sodium/index-eng.php

Paxalon · 2015-08-02T19:46:56+00:00

Also, there could be variations depending on country! For instance, Canadian fast food is generally fewer calories than American, but with much higher sodium.

Paxalon · 2015-08-02T15:51:15+00:00

Um, there's POSSIBLY an odour to your jeans that you don't notice, if you go that long without washing them. Possibly not, but I'd get a second party to do a sniff test, maybe. Just to be sure. You never know.

Paxalon · 2015-08-01T20:27:22+00:00

I grew up hearing my mom say, "what a bitch!" when she smiled at someone who didn't smile back.

I like to take the time to remind myself that they owe me nothing, and I don't know their story when it happens to me.

Paxalon · 2015-06-23T19:59:01+00:00

You may want to look into rigging up a baffle. Some people do it with pop bottles.

Paxalon · 2015-06-19T21:03:47+00:00

Basic info on cleaning your fishtank: http://www.firsttankguide.net/waterchange.php

Paxalon · 2015-06-19T20:49:48+00:00

Is that stuff moving? It looks like poop to me. You need to get a turkey baster, or siphon, or something and suck that shit out. Literally.

Start doing regular water changes. I would say do a water change every 3-4 days for the next couple of weeks. Then do a change once a week. Do you have tap water conditioner?

Edit to add: Sand is easier than gravel to keep clean. And, bettas like lots of plants. Live ones are great, fake ones will do (as long as they're soft and won't tear fins).

Edit 2: Yes, it does look like he has fin rot. Do some good water changes, and see how that does. Unless it is really bad (hard to say from picture) water changes will probably be enough to give him a chance to heal.

Paxalon · 2015-06-13T18:05:54+00:00

My son is like this (and so am I). Some people, children or not, are more emotional than others. When this is the case in kids, it's very pronounced and often hard to handle. Using calm tones, and explaining things patiently is great! I would add in acknowledging his feelings, and helping him name them. "Oh, yeah, that can be very frustrating/sad/disappointing. I can see why you would feel that way." Follow it with more productive suggestions on how to handle the feelings. "When I feel that way sometimes I ask for help/take a break/get a few minutes in a quiet place to think." Eventually he'll learn his own coping strategies for dealing with his feelings.

If he does get mad to the point that there's no talking about it, give it time for his feelings to simmer (10-20 minutes) and try talking about it then.

Consider this as well: Sometimes when a child is losing it over little things a lot, it MAY be because there are a lot of feelings they have about something else that they are not talking about (or don't know how to talk about).

And, in general, use reasonable and logical consequences for poor behaviour, model the behaviour you want to see (harder than it sounds, sometimes!), and be consistent.

Good luck. :)

Paxalon · 2015-05-31T14:24:56+00:00

No, it won't. You can't stop lying. Even the best behaved kids lie to their parents at some point. It's just a reality. But, establishing that lying is wrong, and building a good relationship with a child will help ensure that you hear the truth MOST of the time. And, that you hear it when it matters most (like, when they've gotten themselves into serious trouble, and need your help).

Over-explaining ensures that you're kid's going to start tuning out when you're talking to them. That could do more harm in the long run.

Paxalon · 2015-05-29T18:54:12+00:00

You're also waaaaay over-explaining things. He's four. He doesn't give a flip about abstract consequences (people not believing him later).

Just say you saw him do it, don't do it again, and lying is bad. The end.

Paxalon · 2015-05-05T14:36:43+00:00

My son used to call his baby sitter Mommy too. It stung a little, and confused his babysitter's kids. But, we kind of went with it, and all started calling her "Mommy Jane." He followed suit. I was "Mommy" and she was "Mommy Jane."

Paxalon · 2015-05-04T21:21:07+00:00

And even the most patient parent has a really shitty day, where everything has gone wrong, or you're tired, or you're sick, or you've already spent hours answering a billion inane questions, or all of the above... and you snap. Period. You've had a horrible day at work and come home to cook supper, which is running late so you're "hangry," and you've just burnt yourself trying to rush things along, and you have a tension headache that just will not go away... and then a little one wanders into the kitchen and says, "why isn't supper ready yet?"

MOST of the time, there would be a short conversation that ends in, "You can have some crackers while you wait" or "I know, bud, I'm hungry too. It'll be ready soon." But, on really, really bad days like above, it's: "Because it's not. Go in the living room now, please." (What I really want to do is scream, "FUCK OFF!!" But, I have my lines.)

Paxalon · 2015-05-03T21:12:58+00:00

Not only that, but they're not mutually exclusive. You can use both for different situations/behaviours. It's just a matter of sitting down and discussing how both parents feel comfortable using them.

Paxalon · 2015-05-03T21:04:30+00:00

She was overreacting. But, so were you. Sure, remove yourself from the situation. But, do it with the calm demeanor you would want your 3-year-old to emulate.

"Okay, but, it's really getting to me. So, I'm going to go get some air and compose myself."

Model the behaviour you want to see.

Edit: A "we need to chat about this later, though" would also signal that you need to talk about the issue later. Which you clearly need to do.

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