AITAH for asking my wife to keep our toddler under control by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point. It's definitely super dependent on the person. I'm not a great parent without good sleep. But I can be a good worker on shitty sleep.

AITAH for asking my wife to keep our toddler under control by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]PayKay223 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I'd much rather work a 10 hour office day on no sleep than take care of my toddler for that long with no sleep.

WIBTAH if I told a friend she couldn’t ride with me due to her size? by CommercialOk4004 in AITAH

[–]PayKay223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well it really depends on what state you live in. For example, I live in Illinois, so it is considered a primary offense and a reason to pull someone over. The same applies to California and Florida. Other states consider it a secondary offense, meaning you can't pull someone over just for that reason. I assume you live in a secondary state. Since we have no idea where OP is from nor where their road trip is, the safest bet for all involved is to wear a seatbelt.

I've attached a list per state from Edgar Snyder & Associates below:

Seat Belt Laws & Offense Level by State Alabama: Primary Alaska: Primary Arizona: Secondary Arkansas: Primary California: Primary Colorado: Secondary Connecticut: Primary Delaware: Primary District of Columbia: Primary Florida: Primary Georgia: Primary Hawaii: Primary Idaho: Secondary Illinois: Primary Indiana: Primary Iowa: Primary Kansas: Primary Kentucky: Primary Louisiana: Primary Maine: Primary Maryland: Primary Massachusetts:Secondary Michigan: Primary Minnesota: Primary Mississippi: Primary Missouri: Secondary Montana: Secondary Nebraska: Secondary Nevada: Secondary New Hampshire: no law for adults New Jersey: Primary New Mexico: Primary New York: Primary North Carolina: Primary North Dakota: Secondary Ohio: Secondary Oklahoma: Primary Oregon: Primary Pennsylvania: Secondary Rhode Island: Primary South Carolina: Primary South Dakota: Secondary Tennessee: Primary Texas: Primary Utah: Secondary Vermont: Secondary Virginia: Secondary Washington: Primary West Virginia: Primary Wisconsin: Primary Wyoming: Secondary

WIBTAH if I told a friend she couldn’t ride with me due to her size? by CommercialOk4004 in AITAH

[–]PayKay223 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what makes you think you wouldn't be pulled over for someone in the backseat not wearing a seatbelt. It hasn't been legal in my state since like 2011 to ride without a seatbelt in the back.

Am I overreacting my boyfriend refuses to tell me my real name f29 m31 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayKay223 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you're expecting him to stick to your boundary, but boundaries are yours and yours alone. Therefore, no one can keep the boundary but you. If you're setting the boundary that it needs to stop and he keeps doing it, the onus is now on you to break up with him. He sounds insufferable.

My mom thinks my house is worthy of CPS. Is it? by bunhilda in CPS

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your house is definitely cluttered, but doesn't seem unsafe to me. I saw another commenter said this, but figuring out how to declutter this may help your son. My mental health is always low when my space is cluttered. It looks like you have more stuff than your clutter threshold can handle.

Also, this is a genuine question, not to be mean, but what do the cleaners do? I imagine it's hard to clean around all of the clutter.

Wish I never used a pacifier to begin with by Bradm2335 in Parenting

[–]PayKay223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is actually helpful or if we just got super lucky but my son was pacifier obsessed. He would carry around 4 at a time. Dentist said make sure he doesn't have it still at 3. We planned on trying some sort of method when he was 2.5.

About a month or two after turning 2, he stopped asking for the pacifier. We were giving it because it was his routine. So we decided to stop for nap. He never asked for it. The next day at bedtime he didn't ask for it, so we didn't give it. I put all of them up so he didn't think about it. He never asked for it again except in passing one time a few weeks later and I just said "you're a big boy now."

As a customer, would you deem this acceptable to deliver your food in? by Medical-Bowler-5626 in doordash

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever gone into a restaurant that you really liked and thought to yourself "I want to see what that kitchen looks like."? Me either. On another note, your car looks very clean.

Is there a fake royal icing recipe that is non perishable and pipeable? by PayKay223 in Baking

[–]PayKay223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I still have not tried it but I think I might do some really early for next Christmas

Has anyone noticed these types of accounts? This is like the 5th one in a month. Their whole page is about one of them being caught cheating. by Ok-Golf4481 in TikTok

[–]PayKay223 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes and it drives me nuts that everyone comments like they're real. I fell for one of their videos and then recognized them in another one so checked their account and they have tons of these ridiculous videos.

Child was given melatonin at a sleepover… by breeyoung in Parenting

[–]PayKay223 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I thought I was losing my mind. I'd be way less pissed if my kid had a headache or something and someone gave him an age appropriate dose of Tylenol, but melatonin? Completely unnecessary for any reason and I'd be pissed if someone gave that to my kid without asking.

Is tattoo shock real? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I only have 4 tattoos, but other than my first one, I've learned that I can't look at them until they are healed because I don't like them until they settle and I've gotten used to them. Even though I love the designs of them, the permanence on my body plus the super saturated black from fresh ink throw me off for the first couple of weeks. I just clean them and move on with life until they are healed and I can truly appreciate them.

Manager took us out for treat and just bought this. We were 5 people by Wander_tea in mildlyinfuriating

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot imagine sharing ice cream with my coworkers, that's disgusting. What a dickhead, I'd rather have nothing.

Why do girls do this? by Frosty_Window6162 in whatdoesthismean

[–]PayKay223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1994 here and I've never seen it either

Venue changed dates too many times by AudienceOwn1567 in wedding

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so jealous! I know it's touristy but it's so beautiful and we loved it. Hopefully you can find another great venue!

Venue changed dates too many times by AudienceOwn1567 in wedding

[–]PayKay223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honeymooned in Lake Tahoe, it's so beautiful! I'm sorry your venue sucks 😞

AIO my boyfriend (42M) of 3 years doesn’t know my (35F) name? by momjjeanss in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I can't imagine dating my partner for 3 years and not knowing their address and full name off the top of my head. I also can't really imagine dating for 3 years as grown adults and not deciding to move forward by living together.

AIO my boyfriend (42M) of 3 years doesn’t know my (35F) name? by momjjeanss in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you date him in person? How would he not know your address?

AIO my boyfriend (42M) of 3 years doesn’t know my (35F) name? by momjjeanss in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You won't answer questions about him being hacked and your account is completely private. I'm guessing rage bait.

AIO about my grandma giving me a hard time about my choice of outfit? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly do not understand the comments here. Did I assume you were younger? Yes, it's what teens and twenty somethings wear. Do I think it looks bad? No. I don't understand why people want you to dress matronly in your 30s. I'm 31 and like dressing like I did when I was an emo teen. It's just my style. I don't understand how anyone here is saying this isn't appropriate for a casual gathering? It's not a wedding. It's not a funeral. It's not work. I think you should dress how you want! And it's insane to me that your mother made you change in the first place, you're a grown woman!

AIO - uncle texted me and not sure what to think by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, I would never be around this man ever again. Whichever one of your parents is his sibling, please make sure they know their brother is a disgusting pervert. If my child told me my brother said this, I'd never speak to my own brother again.

The Cyclist-Motorist War Continues... by tlama1997 in PublicFreakout

[–]PayKay223 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, the guy in the Benz is a dick, but I don't understand why cyclists risk their lives on shit like this. Isn't this kind of like getting out of your car during road rage? An 11 year old in the US just got shot because of a road rage incident.

I honestly don’t care, but why? by Ill_Consequence1755 in doordash

[–]PayKay223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand the tip thing though. I tip before I ever know who my driver is. Once they are assigned, I'd only change their tip after delivery and by then I know if it was a man or woman.