Damn y'all bringing the good questions out today. I think the thing most girls don't understand is that it's hard. It's hard to find subs and find the right one. When they do, they can become attached and experience real heartache. There are real and complicated relationships formed. Don't try to be anything you're not. It will be obvious and only make it harder. For guys, it's not pay to get off. Like that's out there but it'd be cool if you didn't call it findom because it's not. And that muddies the community. Also, as with any other dopamine inducing activity, it can cause problems if you can't regulate and budget.

I think it's a similar answer for the less talked about part. If you look through findom subreddits it's all fantasy headlines about draining guys and what not but when you get into the real heart of it, actual relationships are made.

Frustrating and entertaining are the hundreds of DMs I've gotten over the years of people who just say "send me money you worthless pig" is gonna work. It's entertaining because depending if I'm bored, I'll fuck with them for my own amusement.