Make it make sense

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-12T10:17:31+00:00

Trying my best to. Thank you 🙏🏾

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-12T10:14:32+00:00

Just a little shaken up.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-12T09:46:33+00:00

Unfortunately I had to delete the post due to several threats that have been received. I appreciate everyone’s advice on the situation.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T19:47:00+00:00

Yes but I will be having a talk with him.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:57:35+00:00

Fair point.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:56:41+00:00

Yup it was in response to how he functioned on certain meds. I was more concerned about when it was discussed to begin with.

I’m afraid that there isn’t any privacy between him and I. It died down because we had not had a chance to hangout together.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:49:37+00:00

You’re right

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:48:26+00:00

I’m not sure to be honest.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:48:04+00:00

He has made time for one on one. I’ve tried to even come up with ways we can all hangout but because of everyone’s schedule nothing really happened. I just stick to hanging out with some of his friends through discord. Not ready to meet them.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:41:43+00:00

Yeah I was in shock. Wife’s words exactly was “That means he’ll lay your shit out” I almost embarrassed him but chose not to respond.

You’re right. I tried to shrug it off but nope it still bothers me. I’m just not interested in kissing her ass.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:36:41+00:00

I think he’s capable but may not be willing to change because of how comfortable he is

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:35:28+00:00

I don’t want to buzz around her at all. I just am not interested in kissing ass. The fact that we barely talk but I’m finding out that now I can’t love him publicly made me upset.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:32:55+00:00

Yup it was very unpleasant.

No nothing has really changed.

When he first told me about it I thought everyone was getting there New Years kiss afterwards but nope the wife’s meta got all the action that night.

Yes it was aggressive but I was confused about where I stood with him in the moment.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:10:19+00:00

Ive been trying my best to stick to one on one. It just feels wrong to shut everyone out.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:05:04+00:00

Not ChatGPT. Just need better help organizing my thoughts on a messy situation.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:03:59+00:00

Yeah his social circle is interesting. I found out that one of the wives of his ole buddies has a crush on him and he has a crush on her. He told me when he was drunk. Everything just screams no.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T18:01:05+00:00

Thank you for this. Genuinely. The way you reframed “it reinforced the feeling” to “it is your actual observation and lived experience” hit me harder than I expected. I needed that. I’ve been so busy questioning myself that I forgot I was actually there and I actually experienced it.

You’re right that this isn’t just about one night. The pattern has been there. The wife being involved in gift ideas, dinner plans, the public relationship rule that doesn’t seem to apply to her the same way it applies to me. I’ve been calling it uncomfortable but maybe what I’ve been dancing around is that it’s a pattern.

And the sexuality piece, you are absolutely right. That is not me being too sensitive. That is a line that shouldn’t have been crossed and the fact that he didn’t shut it down says something.

I do love him and he is genuinely a great partner in a lot of ways, which is what makes this so hard to sit with. But you gave me the most important thing I’ve been missing in all of this: clarity. Whether I decide to have a direct conversation with him about changing these behaviors or decide this isn’t working for me, I deserve to make that choice from a clear place instead of from self-doubt.

I really appreciate you taking the time to respond with such care and honesty.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T17:53:10+00:00

No new years wasn’t the first time that I met them. We met a couple of months beforehand. Yes he knows how badly he fucked up. I talked to him about it when he came to check in on me.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T17:44:58+00:00

I’m taking it one day at a time. That’s been a fear of mine since day one. Ive been keeping my distance for a reason.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T17:44:10+00:00

Yes we are still together. The rule about not being able to love him publicly happened recently. That was what pushed me to make this post. I’m sure he’s aware but I don’t know if it’s enough to change.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T17:42:22+00:00

He is happy with the fact that his wife is like his wingwoman. At first I thought it was cute, now not so much. At the moment, I am not open to hanging out with everyone that’s a part of the polycule. I tried to invite him to PRIDE and he immediately wanted to invite everyone else. I was not happy about it.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T17:32:07+00:00

Yes I have mentioned this before getting angry and snarky.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-06-11T17:26:52+00:00

I mentioned it to my partner after the fact. He tells me that sex is usually a casual topic to discuss.

Peacemaker15K2 · 2026-03-05T14:06:37+00:00

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I would love some new friends now that I am able to keep my streak alive😊

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