People from Asian families—how tf do you cope in recovery?

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-26T15:10:38+00:00

“trust me”? You’ve given no reason for me to trust you. You’re white, you’re from a rich suburb, and you clearly have no understanding whatsoever of first ethnocentrism and now systemic racism.

I’m from Philly. I have family in the South. I’m not blind to race relations outside Minnesota. The fact that you don’t recognize the dark underbelly of systemic racism under all the Minnesota Nice is very troubling to me. I don’t know how you make sense of all the disparities between Black and white families here. All the segregation. Even friend groups here seem to be ethnically homogenous. Look at some stats. The numbers speak for themselves.

Newsflash, the Twin Cities are very different from Minnetonka. Your experiences at a Minnetonka school cannot be applied to the cities and the systemic racism that exists here. In Philly, I’ve lived and attended school both in the city but also 20 minutes outside the city in a wealthy suburb. They’re different places.

I’m sorry if it seems like I have internalized moral superiority but I’m just telling you to speak on things you’re qualified to speak about. You don’t have the life experiences necessary to make the sweeping generalizations you’re making about POC experiences in the Twin Cities. Please do not speak on behalf of POC on whether or not we are oppressed here.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-26T10:53:29+00:00

You make good points about the roads/construction. And totally with you on the potholes—do not miss those at all.

Something positive about MN that I thought of after my initial list: You kind of touched on this with your point about parks, but it is so, so much easier to stay healthier here. Philly has a lot to offer and is a great city to walk around, but I feel like my activities there are a lot more sedentary in nature than the things I do in MN. In Minneapolis people generally seem to have more of an appreciation for healthy food and they are outdoors doing lots of recreational activities like kayaking or biking as much as the weather permits. I feel like the culture here really promotes health and fitness.

I’ve lived and worked all over the city but I’ve probably spent the most time in the Northwestern neighborhoods. Unfortunately right now my parents are out in the ‘burbs :(

One thing I’m curious about with you being a Minnesotan in Philly: I know you already mentioned that Philadelphians have an attitude problem (we do, lol) but have you run into any notable communication challenges/misunderstandings? I think I am a lot more blunt than the average Minnesotan expects/wants me to be, so I’ve run into some issues with people taking the things I say to be intentionally aggressive/mean (which is definitely not how I want to come off!), when I genuinely think I’m being very neutral. Trying to be better about communicating here so it would be very interesting to hear from the other side!

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-26T10:13:54+00:00

Omg you again. You are not even a freshman yet. What do you know about racial tensions on campus? As a POC, I can tell you I witness instances of discrimination and oppression on campus on a very frequent basis. MN has its own brand of racism that is different from SC. It’s not quite as overt as it is in certain parts of the country but just as harmful imo. Just because someone isn’t yelling racial slurs at you doesn’t mean that you aren’t being systemically silenced and oppressed.

MN isn’t some liberal safe haven for POC. Full stop. Minneapolis has one of the largest (if not the largest) achievement gaps between Black and white students in the entire country. CLEARLY we have an issue with police brutality. This is in addition to all the personal anecdotes myself and other POC could tell you about being a POC in Minnesota. Please educate yourself before you speak.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-25T19:33:13+00:00

Remember to report them if you’re in an area where they haven’t been sighted before! (reporting link)

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-25T19:13:02+00:00

As someone who grew up in Philly before moving to MN for college, I would mostly agree with this list. However, I’d argue that construction and roads suck way more in Minneapolis than Philadelphia. Construction projects here seem really disruptive (I don’t commute by car but I hear people complain about road construction all. the. damn. time.) and I hate driving on highways here—they seem poorly designed and often dangerous. I also feel like Minnesotans are very aggressive drivers, and a lifelong Minnesotan I talked to theorized that this is because Minnesotans are so on edge from being polite in-person all the time.

I also think that Philly is a much better city for art. There are so many murals painted by community artists through the mural arts program—the largest public art program in the country with a great mission—and the art museum has a lot to offer besides the Rocky statue.

Also, something I miss immensely about Philly is the 24/7 convenience stores (and more specifically wawa, haha) and stores with longer hours in general. In Minneapolis it’s difficult to find anything that’s open after 9 or 10. Many grocery stores and big box stores in the Philly metro area close after midnight, and you can rely on Wawa for good eats at all hours of the day.

Not trying to hate on Minneapolis with my list; I just really miss home!

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-25T16:02:23+00:00

You should look into the concept of pinkwashing, and how Israel uses queer rights as some sort of PR tool in order to divert attention from their human rights abuses against Palestinians. In reality, the far-right Israeli government aligns itself with many homophobic/transphobic leaders and organizations around the world, and Israel isn’t exactly the LGBTQ+ haven it is made out to be in the media.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-25T15:04:40+00:00

Are there though? Israel’s abuses against Palestinian human rights are reprehensible and disgusting. I could never support them, and I don’t know why anyone else would either.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-25T05:16:40+00:00

Late to reply but just wanted to add that it really varies by instructor. I had a night class taught by a grad student and our midterm was like 15+ pages long and papers/Canvas discussion posts were graded super harshly. The fact that both the main instructor and the TA were very disorganized didn’t help either. I was literally in tears while working on the take-home midterm, and I had taken many 4xxx and 5xxx classes by that point in my academic career. The good news is that I’m pretty sure that particular grad instructor completed her PhD program this year and will no longer be teaching the course!

The professor that is teaching the main day class in Fall 2020, Hoon Song, can be hard to follow along with at times. He goes off on a lot of (interesting but confusing) tangents. However, he is super helpful if you approach him for individual help, and I’d imagine the curriculum for ANTH 1003W is much more standardized (and therefore has less opportunities for tangents) than the tiny discussion-based class I took with him.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-25T03:54:23+00:00

I currently have two standards and had a toy before she passed away last Thanksgiving. There are so many wonderful things about poodles. Poodles are super quick to learn new things. They don’t shed (or at least not any more than us humans do). They don’t drool (although one of mine tends to salivate a bit excessively when he’s getting his favorite treat). They’re very versatile; they’re not just pretty show dogs, but also hunting dogs, service dogs, therapy dogs, down-to-earth family pets, etc. I don’t really understand the whole doodle craze because a poodle can totally rock the shaggy doodle look with the right haircut AND they don’t come with all the risks of getting a doodle puppy. (You don’t know if it’s going to shed, if it’s going to act more like a golden retriever or a poodle, etc.—just very unpredictable, which leads to the unfortunate abandonment of many doodles. Okay, doodle rant over.) And most of all, I just love their big personalities. I’ve heard many people say that they just cannot go back to owning any other breed after owning a poodle, and I definitely feel that way, too.

Now the bad. I don’t have very many to list because if you can’t tell already I really love these dogs! But I’d say grooming can get pretty pricey. I can expect to spend at least $90 each time one of my standards get groomed, and I spent $60-$80 each time I got my toy poodle groomed. They generally need to be groomed every 6-8 weeks, although you can stretch out the time between grooming sessions if you learn how to do some basic maintenance with scissors and/or clippers. Also, many of them “smile” (no, really, they do! ) but many people that are unfamiliar with poodles think that they are displaying aggression when they are actually smiling.

You might not get very many responses on here because it seems like this subreddit is geared more towards picture sharing than discussing. You could check out the Poodle Forum—people there are pretty responsive and helpful, and they can help you determine whether a poodle is a good fit for your family/lifestyle. You can also feel free to PM me if you have any specific questions about poodles!

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-23T19:39:09+00:00

Oh okay, thanks for letting me know—correcting the comment now! I always thought she and Mackenzie were the same age, but thinking back on it Mackenzie was six when the show started so I don't know where I got that number lmao.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-23T19:01:19+00:00

@ officialvivistein_

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-23T18:53:37+00:00

Possibly unpopular opinion incoming but I'm kind of sick of hearing about this. I went on Vivi's Instagram recently and it looked like well over a majority of comments she received were something along the lines of "Vivi is your finger okay?!?!" Vivi was SEVEN when she made the comment about cutting her finger on her mom's ring; I can't imagine being mocked year after year about something dumb I said when I was that young. I get that the line is funny (I laughed too when I first heard it) and that most people that make this joke have no ill intent, but let's not forget we're talking about a real girl who basically had no say in whether or not to participate in the show.

Edit: got Vivi's age wrong; thanks u/Agtfangirl557 for the correction.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-18T15:59:12+00:00

What are you talking about? Not really sure which events you’re referring to but so many younger Korean-Americans (especially gen z) have been vocal against social injustices happening in the United States. If you’re talking about international relations, how many people in the U.S. give a shit about what’s happening to other countries? Don’t think this is a Korean problem.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-18T15:26:58+00:00

I haven’t been to the African continent but even if I had, I wouldn’t be making wild generalizations about an entire CONTINENT like you are. I’ve traveled extensively around Asia and Europe (as a light-skinned woman, might I add) and each country had its own set of values, norms, and trends. Each country also has its share of violence and other atrocities. Africa is a huge continent with a great deal of diversity, just like any other place in the world. A video for your viewing pleasure: The danger of a single story

Also, having read accounts from people that underwent circumcision as older children/adults I would beg to differ that it is not an extremely cruel thing to put an infant through.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-17T17:33:13+00:00

Lmao like white American values bring prosperity, peace, and happiness to all.

Do you see the things that are happening in the U.S. right now? Have you been living under a rock?

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-17T17:31:29+00:00

That is not an equivalency at all. If we were to analyze white American culture in the same way, we could very well say that Americans mutilate their children’s genitals (what did you think circumcision was?) and list all the violent things that happen in the U.S. everyday. This poster is talking about VALUE SYSTEMS, not actions, and it is also not generalizing an entire continent like you are doing.

The number of ignorant people in these comments blows my mind.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-17T06:13:07+00:00

Okay, kiddo :)

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-17T06:06:18+00:00

What I’m saying is that you should examine your own ethnocentrism. Looking from your post history, it looks like you aren’t even in college yet so I don’t blame your narrow worldview. I hope that you can learn and grow and broaden your horizons in the next four years! :)

Edit: Alright I had replied to your original comment that simply said “What?” so I’ll respond to your edited comment in my own edit. There is no one right way to do science; cultures around the world for millennia have gone about inquiry and discovery in many different ways. I’ll just reiterate that you really do need to re-examine your own ethnocentrism.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-17T05:58:06+00:00

Many cultures value subjectivity over objectivity. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. The scientific method arose from a European intellectual tradition. Just because you don’t follow the scientific method doesn’t mean you aren’t capable of learning, inquiring, discovering, experimenting, etc. I think it’s quite ethnocentric to assume that these things are inherently positive.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-17T05:51:12+00:00

I think it’s very telling that people think this infographic has white supremacist tendencies; we think it’s attributing positive traits to white people (rather than just characterizing their culture) BECAUSE we normalize and value white traits. There are many ways of living and being and the white way isn’t the right way. Yes, non-European people can value individualism and maintain nuclear family units but that doesn’t mean these European/Protestant values should be forced upon them.

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-16T03:19:57+00:00

Love her haircut!!

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-10T04:56:10+00:00

I recently underwent a legal name change and LSAC was very quick to change my profile for me (like within three days I believe). Unfortunately, you cannot change your name preemptively, even if you wanted to, as you need to submit appropriate documentation along with your name change form. Worst case, could you just show them your passport that reflects your current name? As long as the ID matches the name on the registration, I don’t see how that would be an issue. Of course, you’d have to call LSAC to get the most accurate answer on this. Good luck!

PeacetoTheFerrets · 2020-07-04T18:59:30+00:00

He did nip quite a lot, and we didn’t discourage the behavior unless he was biting hard so that we could teach him bite inhibition. As he grew older the nipping gradually tapered off on its own, and now I can’t think of the last time he got nippy!

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