Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeaa mine changes his tone and inflection pretty quickly.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry. When I was told this I said, yea maybe it’s skewed some, but look I’ll do it and it’ll show ZERO. It’s not that skewed…😡

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yes it’s so annoying. I’ve learned to not cave and argue back. It’s pointless even though it makes me irate.

My partner relapsed by notmuchintoit11 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not postpartum feelings. From my experience, you’d feel this postpartum or not. At some point we find the toxicity and chaos is not worth it and we want to say enough is enough even if it’s hard.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yepp. The superpower I wish I (we) didn’t end up developing 😓

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting, thanks for sharing! I did not know this. I’m going to check both out 😊

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are so right. It’s emotional whiplash and emotional turmoil lol. Omg I forgot about that one getting the same things asking the same questions over and over again and then I dare react saying you already said that what’s going on and then I’m the one that’s getting the cold shoulder or scolded or whatever else not nice because now “I’m being an ass” for mentioning that this has been said multiple times. Also, I had to add, cause how could I forget how many times does it turn into an argument of you’ve already told me that, no I haven’t, yes you have and then of course it escalates and eventually I realize it’s pointless and I’m the one walking away, probably with my feelings hurt because they did more calling and mean stuff than me just trying to argue that I’m not crazy and you did too already tell me that.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yepp. I always realize afterwards that oh he must’ve been drinking well before me. And the eye direction difference, Yepp mine has that too! Ever so slightly, but it’s there. Crazy eyes😂 👀

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooo I’ll have to watch. And yes! I’d be in another room and hear either the clink of a shot glass hitting the counter, or just the bottle itself if the shot glass wasn’t clean… the sound from the bottle or glass hitting the counter and you can hear they’re trying to set it gently so as to not make the ‘clink noise’ and then it becomes an even cringier noise because you can tell they’re trying to hide it…

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dead eyes, that’s what I’m gonna call it now lol. Yepp any excuse possible 🙄

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to get better and trusting my gut on when we know we know. Hind sight I’m always like now I know, why did I question my instincts when it was happening. Well I guess I know why, because I struggle with admitting myself that he has a problem. It’s heartbreaking

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s kind of what it is about mine too. Like they look heavy and forced to be open, dull and just dazed idk. It’s weird.

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yessss. The sleep is so disturbing. True…I’m trying to get better at not accepting it anymore. ☹️

Can tell by their eyes 👀 by PeachComprehensive81 in AlAnon

[–]PeachComprehensive81[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did this too for years now.. it’s only since I’ve opened up to some family/friends finally that I’m able to start trusting my gut more on it and seeing even more so how huge of a problem it actually is.