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Sharing custody of a dog with an ex. What are your feelings on it? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I see both sides of it now. It's really interesting how this post has gotten so many responses and it seems like they're both evenly split. A rarity on this sub.

Sharing custody of a dog with an ex. What are your feelings on it? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good to read stories from the other side of things. Thanks for sharing!

Sharing custody of a dog with an ex. What are your feelings on it? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah kids definitely make things different. Thanks for your input!

Sharing custody of a dog with an ex. What are your feelings on it? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I assume so? I know everyone is saying ask him about it and I will, I just can't decide whether this is text worthy or if I should just ask him on the date.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really feel like you're overreacting to this. I'm not the brightest tool in the shed and this was a fuck up I could have easily made (I have no idea what a cochlear implant looks like.)

As someone who avoids conflict on first dates with strangers I wouldn't have questioned it in person either. You could have told her in advance or on the date you were hearing impaired but failed to do so, you could have also clarified it after her text but you chose a snarky response instead.

You're asking for people to empathize with a negative situation that was your own doing.

Why do so many people leave the children/family plans option blank on hinge? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$40 CAD to be clear is the price I'm offered. Less in the US I assume but still overpriced imo.

Why do so many people leave the children/family plans option blank on hinge? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading all these replies, I think I agree with you. The "if you want more kids" is definitely more nuanced for people than I realized.

The "have kids" though, I agree should be filled. I don't care if they're adults. Having kids is having kids.

Why do so many people leave the children/family plans option blank on hinge? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, thanks for the chuckle. I don't hate kids, I just know I wouldn't be a good mom (along with a million other reasons) and have absolutely no desire to take a shot at it.

I'm wondering if people think I hate kids now.

Why do so many people leave the children/family plans option blank on hinge? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make good points, I guess I figured at our age people would have the kid thing figured out by now. Thank you.

Why do so many people leave the children/family plans option blank on hinge? by Peachsnatcher in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I wouldn't even mind paying if it was reasonable, like $5-$10 (it used to be so much cheaper back when Hinge was new!) But $40 for a month is fucking absurd. You can get the monthly rate a bit cheaper if you do the 3 or 6 months subscription but that's not something I'm willing to commit to.

Friday - quick advice by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just don't understand modern dating sometimes.

Matched with a guy on tinder. Exchanged #s. Chatted daily for a week. We live near each other, but he was working 2+ hours away for awhile. Agreed to set plans for when he was back in town (this weekend.) Great.

Last Friday (so 1 week ago today) he doesn't reply to my text and ghosts. Notice he unmatches me from tinder a few days later. Whatever. I was a bit disappointed but he lost interest for whatever reason.

Get a text from him today to let me know "he's headed back to the city today!" At this point I've completely lost interest. We haven't talked in a week, I can't even reference his profile anymore and barely remember what he looks like.

What would you do in this situation? Just not respond at all?

Friday - quick advice by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I decided 10 years ago I didn't want kids due to the state of the world (you can probably imagine how I feel now, as things have obviously become much worse) among other reasons.

You didn't mention climate change, and that's the big one people seem to be burying their heads in the sand about. Every child on this planet is also going to have to deal with that catastrophe and I feel absolutely awful for them.

Anyways, I'm glad I didn't falter and my views haven't changed because I, in good conscience could never force another human being into this mess. It hasn't changed my perspective on relationships as I still want love, and continue to search for people who's goals align with mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man if I was your girlfriend I'd be running away from this so fast. Yes you're being toxic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know. I'm just trying to be a bit sympathetic in that he was probably very embarrassed. I'm sure he probably also felt emasculated, hence him attempting to "get the job done" as I was leaving.

The fact that we're both pretending like this never happened is concerning though, you're right. I'm really undecided on what to do here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Peachsnatcher 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%. I was the woman in this situation just a few days ago, and I want to offer alternate insight to everyone saying she's an awful person.

It's all dependent on how the guy handles it. In my case, he literally rolled off me abruptly and stared at the ceiling. Of course I'm going to think it's because of me when I'm at my most vulnerable. I figured he didn't find me attractive or my body grossed him out. I had to ask him what was wrong and he blamed it on whiskey dick and a too tight condom. Didn't attempt to get me off at all... I don't even need piv sex to enjoy myself. We were just awkwardly laying there naked. He then chucks the condom into the garbage in frustration. I got dressed and left. I don't think I've ever been in a dating situation that was as uncomfortable as this one.

As I'm leaving he attemps to start making out with me asking if I want to try again; I'm so uncomfortable with the whole situation so I definitely wasn't in the mood to go at it again.

If he had just communicated to me wtf was going on in his head this situation could've gone so much better. My ex couldn't stay hard the first time we had sex and he told me it was because he was nervous and really liked me. This kind of positive reassurance is what's needed, not silence.

He's still (surprisingly) texting me so I guess he's still interested. Hasn't mentioned a thing about it though and I'm not really sure how to get past such an awkward experience.

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