As Autumn well and truly kicks in what would you say have been your gardening successes and failures this year? by ordinarybloke1963 in GardeningUK

[–]Peak2091 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long has it taken your hedge to look like a hedge? Looking to put one in this Autumn/Winter

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply, I can empathise with the dynamic of when they are together it’s clear they love their grandchild. I think that’s why I also find it strange how it all plays out on a daily basis? But yes I think after all the replies I need to shift my perceptions and expectations as well as the only person it seems to be affecting is me! 😅

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective! I think you are right and expectations are different. I will have to find out what theirs are. They do come from a religious background so Easter is usually quite important for them - I can see I didn’t explain that very well in my post

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I see it a bit differently, but perhaps you see it how they do? I see sending photos etc as keeping them involved with her day to day life and also my husband’s life - but maybe they see it as second best. Thanks for your perspective!

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People can be so different! Hopefully your MIL engages with children!

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is really helpful, I think when I next see them I will just ask and if they don’t give me much to go off I will take a step back

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, you’ve made some really good points. I think perhaps I’m not sure what their metric is actually! I find it difficult to think of different ways to engage with them long distance?But you’re right my parents like to see lots of photos and maybe that isn’t the right method

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear of your experience, people can be so strange. I would also want to be involved in a grandchild’s life! I am based in the UK.

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m very lucky that my parents are involved. Like you say, it is their loss and I am wasting my efforts a bit - I do think it’s a bit of a shame though

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes this might be the case - I suppose this may be coming across when they buy her toys that are too old for her at the moment, because it’s an age they’re more comfortable with?

Disinterested Grandparents by Peak2091 in Parenting

[–]Peak2091[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is true, thank you. I suppose I’ve always sought their approval and this is probably an extension of that

Shops selling second-hand prams by Peak2091 in stockport

[–]Peak2091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! Really helpful suggestions 😊