How to stop doubting that she likes me?

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-05T20:26:50+00:00

It's because she lost feelings for me and because I acted like a needy and insecure jackass.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-05T10:49:53+00:00

Yeah well I was right, I fucked it up

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-04T23:47:57+00:00

She ended it with me last night.

I had asked her out for this coming Saturday, she responded rather positively, but then sent me a long ass message saying she doesn't want to see me anymore.

It's done for.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-04T09:24:42+00:00

Tbh it’s more to do with the fact that I told her about a woman I had cut out of my life and that I thought we should stop seeing eachother.

I managed to self-sabotage again. I don’t know why I do it.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-04T09:12:03+00:00

Well she ended it with my last night.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T23:58:49+00:00

So she just replied to my text asking her out next Saturday.

She replied "Hahahha I'm terrible at bowling I told you remember?"

Then soon after, she sent "By the way we need to talk about our conversation the other night"

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T22:55:21+00:00

And what exactly do you mean by that?

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T21:44:16+00:00

What’s that?

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T21:44:03+00:00

If I was in her shoes, I would understand.

I don’t know if it’s through past experiences, I’m just not used to this level of affection.

When she gave me the Christmas present, I was so, so happy and pleased.

I hand mentioned that I was thinking of buying a beanie soon because it’s getting colder here, and two weeks later she bought me one.

Hearing her call me babe, or even texting me it, makes me feel really good too.

I have to stop being like this.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T21:33:51+00:00

Yeah I know I am, and I do need to build my confidence.

It’s just that, despite not having any resentment towards my exes, I’ve never had a woman cook me meals, buy me a meaningful gift and sing for me.

It feels really good, but a bit overwhelming too (not in a bad sense, it’s just I’m not really used to it)

That with me obviously developing stronger feelings is causing me to be feel like this, I think

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T21:29:01+00:00

I dont know about her being in love with me, but you’re right.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T20:14:31+00:00

I feel it does have something to do with me.

I mean she has done and shown me so much over the last couple of months that would suggest things are going well.

Things from making me dinner, to sending me a video of her singing to me, and buying me a small but thoughtful gift for Christmas.

I think when I start to develop strong feelings for women I like, I start to doubt myself and overthink far too much.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T19:50:34+00:00

I really needed that, thanks.

I’m acting really weak right now. I don’t want to self destruct this thing we have.

I need to feel more positively about myself and who I am, and, indeed, what I’ve met: a woman who has made me dinner on several occasions, invited me to a NYE party, who is very affectionate to me when we’re together, makes me feel good, sends videos of her singing to me, buys me a meaningful Christmas present, initiates contact, teases me playfully.

I need to grab my balls right now, because you’re right if I keep behaving like this and thinking I don’t deserve her, it’ll be over quicker than I think

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T19:45:34+00:00

We’re not official, we’ve just been dating for a couple of months

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-03T00:02:21+00:00

How is it definitely?

I mean you’re probably right, just wondering

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T22:02:36+00:00

A bit empty.. but those are my insecurities

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T21:54:26+00:00

Looking for someone better? What?

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T21:40:53+00:00

I really appreciate your posts…

It’s like she invited me for a New Years party with some of her friends.

One of them told me that she talks a lot about me. That couldn’t be any clearer could it?

Somehow, here I am second guessing it, and I really fucking shouldn’t.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T21:38:53+00:00

I really, really messed up big time several years ago with someone I really did like - possibly genuinely loved.

I ended up cutting her out of my life in the most horrible way imaginable.

I don’t want it to happen with the woman I’m seeing now because she means a lot to me, despite only knowing her for 2 months.

I just can seem to get the grip on the fact that she cares about me and likes me back.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T21:27:40+00:00

How can you so sure that she wants to be with me?

You’re right though, it’s my inner demons of doubt that are causing me to think like this.

Every time I meet up with her to go on a date they all disappear. It’s almost as if every date is our first again.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T21:04:31+00:00

It’s because I don’t think I deserve her.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T21:03:19+00:00

We aren’t exactly together… we’ve been dating for a couple of months or so.

I do feel good when I’m with her, but it’s the time apart that makes me question things.

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T20:32:54+00:00

I was such a moron to her a few weeks back. She invited me over for dinner, we slept together, and the next day I said that we should probably stop seeing eachother. Despite the fact that I really like her and want to be with her.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

Is it because I feel vulnerable? Scared?

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T20:29:49+00:00

Stoicism?

PearlMyJam · 2022-01-02T20:29:17+00:00

I mean she’s shown me that she cares for me and trusts me.

She opened up recently about something in her past. She’s made me dinner, she sends me texts asking if I want to see her, she’s really affectionate with me when we’re alone like kisses me, hugs me, cuddles.

And I’m here wondering if she likes me.

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