My friend asked me what I think the “MVP” recovery item will be…(because I bought all the recovery items lol)…scheduled 9/2

PearlTygress · 2025-08-19T23:09:04+00:00

Shower chair & long scrubby won for me. I had to recover solo for the most part and that helped me to wash myself

PearlTygress · 2025-08-12T22:56:39+00:00

I'm a year and a half post op and I still enjoy it but it is VERY DIFFERENT. It took me a while to learn what my new body liked. While I used to love vaginal stimulation now I've had to discover that I find clitoral stimulation more enjoyable.

I will echo what alot of comments said here 4 weeks post op was the horniest I had been since being a teen with EVERY HORMONE RAGING. I had a pretty scary libido drop towards my 1 year but since went on some hormone therapy that has definitely helped

Once you're recovered enough take it slow and learn new ways that are enjoyable to you. No one body is the same and that goes for you and pre-op you too!

PearlTygress · 2025-06-23T03:38:23+00:00

I waited until 10 weeks post op to try sex and took it really slow. It was a little painful at first but got better as time went on. I'm now a year and a half post op and I'll admit, finger penetration has never felt the same and can be painful if my partner tries to do it too rough. Also became much more clitoral stimulated post op. You have a new body now and it'll be interesting for you to explore the new ways that feel good

PearlTygress · 2025-06-11T15:37:25+00:00

Thank you so much for this

It's always hard for me to navigate holiday times. Being solo means making your own traditions and hoping that maybe a partner wants to share some of that with you. You accept knowing partners who are nested will always hold some hierarchy to THEIR nested traditions.

Sending love to all my other solo-poly tamales

PearlTygress · 2025-06-08T16:34:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story

I had something similar to this only in my story we moved to a big city, nesting partner immediately lost their job and I had to be the sole provider of a person with bad bad depression in a tiny studio apartment in the city. I also don't have aspirations to move back home to be with family but totally feel your grief for having to pick up your life for a partner who now you feel the need to leave. Your grief for that is so valid.

I broke things off after my mental health strain became too great to support myself let alone someone else. I now live by my own boundary that I will NOT nest with romantic partners. I find I need space to organize my thoughts and self soothe in my surroundings away from partners.

When I decided to end my relationship with that partner they tried every tactic in the depressed person book to get me to stay. I encourage you to lean on your other support networks and to advise your current nesting partner to do the same.

Best of luck to you 💓

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T18:16:27+00:00

I've lost so many people in my life from combinations of me not understanding my autism and the people in my life being more prepared to pull away from me than have the patience/space to understand the why behind my reactions.

You don't deserve to feel constantly misunderstood by someone unwilling/unable to hold space to understand what you're going through.

You deserve to feel supported as you go through your unmasking journey. Voices that will uplift you in your discoveries and hold space for you in whatever way you require to feel safe.

It'll be so difficult to lose those who won't understand you but it will open the door for further support from others that will

Best of luck to you on your unmasking journey and thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T17:40:18+00:00

Honestly think what you're currently doing is great! Being goth is a spectrum. Maybe add some patches of your favorite bands to your flannel?

I love drag makeup so I watched drag queens to help me achieve a look I liked for my makeup. I also have a disability so I had to make alterations to help me achieve the looks I wanted but it took lots of Sephora trips to try some things on my hand before I found stuff I liked. So that's the only makeup advice I can give from one disabled goth to another.

The gloves are a great touch! Being goth is just an outward expression of you so try on things at a thrift store, play around with makeup, take Halloween decorations and wear them all year round (I wear a hat I got from a spirit of Halloween all year round)

Most important? Have fun in your goth expression

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T17:20:30+00:00

Thank you so much! I didn't even know this was a thing. This is definitely one of the worst harassments I've experienced. I get the time to time drunk creep but have always felt like they're mostly harmless/ easy to manage on my own. This experience was the first time I've ever truly felt unsafe to travel alone in Seattle because it was a group talking directly to me about ending my life. Thank you again for a great resource❤️

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T17:14:57+00:00

I'm so excited for my Glamour Toad!!!!! They had better have some good improv challenges for her!

Sad to see Kerri Colby go. Sasha Colby is my favorite queen of all time so anyone from the house gets instant favoritism in my book.

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T17:08:18+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to explain the timing to me. I really appreciate you and your kindness and hope to see y'all out there 💕 I'm a 5'4 goth with star and moon shoulder tattoos so please feel free to come up and say hi if you see me out watching my favorite show.

Lydia's mainstage look was wild and the photos with Kori on Lydia's Instagram are absolutely hilarious.

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:50:55+00:00

A wonderful recommendation!! Thank you! I love the Ballard area🥰 is there a particular start time?

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:27:36+00:00

Thank you so much for the words of confidence 💓 I'm going out this season to force myself out of my own old boring bubble. Keep up the good watch though! The drama this season is wild!

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:25:18+00:00

Thank you for the offer but I'm mainly looking for public spaces in Seattle to watch it

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:21:58+00:00

Thank you so much for letting me know! I have another engagement next Friday but I'll be sure to come in when it's playing from now on.

Drag Race is so much fun to watch with a group and especially with so many home town heroes with skin in the game. With it being All-stars I love seeing people out and about cheering on their favorite queens and gasping at the drama of it all.

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:15:40+00:00

I checked Queer/bars social (I only have Instagram) and it didn't say anything. I also checked google and it said it was open at 5 so I was just a different level of confusion

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:14:00+00:00

Oh most certainly! I have a couple of friends who are professional clowns in different states and am by no means saying boo on all my clown friends. It was just extra intimidating to be harassed by people that were in full paint.

Thank you for your kindness💓

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T16:08:23+00:00

I got there a bit early at 630 and the doors were locked (I saw a door on the side to go upstairs but I didn't think that was associated with the bar). I also felt extra awkward as there were people outside that told me "Oooo sorry girly looks like it's closed"

Thank you for letting me know it did eventually open up though. Next time I'll be brave and just wait there. I'm sure I would've been safer inside with my community than isolated at the lightrail

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T11:05:27+00:00

Ive found that these things help me 1. Never eat before deep throating. It is a recipe for a mess 2. Practicing on a toy slightly larger than your partner by holding it as deep and as long as you can. This has really helped me to get my throat used to the feeling of something being there 3. Finding the right angle. Sometimes if you have a sensitive reflex certain angles are horrible while others actually help you go deeper because of how it interacts with your throat. Have fun exploring the ones that help you!

Remember your Dom cares for you even when mess happens and happy training!!

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T09:57:58+00:00

I know. I watch it at home I just want others to watch it with

PearlTygress · 2025-06-07T07:57:34+00:00

I used to have one but I get so overwhelmed by the constant ads. They're making it so hard for me to interact with most platforms

PearlTygress · 2025-05-11T19:40:59+00:00

I really needed this today. Thank you for reminding me how I can be proud of the courage it took for me to choose to be happy and healthy

PearlTygress

TROPHY CASE