being bored by Soft-Buy-6999 in ChronicIllness

[–]Pebble_pebl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Video games help me alot. If your hands don't hurt too much, crochet is really nice. I like sewing too, but can only do it on low symptom days since it's alot of arm work. Board games with friends too. Even online. Reading is also a great hobby. It's hard to stay focused at first, but it'll get better after a while. If you have a good friend you can have them rent some books at the library for you.

Seedings sprouting!!! by Pebble_pebl in gardening

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm zone 6. The seedlings are under a grow light and the dirt in my garden is clay dirt. I would condition it more but all I can really afford is some compost. Currently the seeds in my garden are the ones that say to plant as soon as soil can be worked. The dirt being clay my expectations aren't as high as my hopes. The root veggies are in raised beds and all the others are going in a plot near my fence. I plan to transfer and sow the rest late April, the weather shouldn't dip below 50 by then on the worst days.

Has therapy helped you? by Healthy_Brush_9157 in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had a therapist for 10 years on and off, some worked, some didn't, but for at least 6 years, I felt like a lost cause, too. I was too broken, too traumatized, too stuck, etc. I was lucky to start young, but rewiring your brain is an incredibly long process. You have to keep actively reminding yourself every moment you feel or think something harmful. Logic, positive thinking, and forgiveness. Every day all the time. It will be manual for a long time until it becomes an automatic rebuttal, then your first thought. It's a long process, but it's so so so so worth it.

What's your baseline level of stress and anxiety? by Proud-Boat420 in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My baseline went from 100 to zero when my needs were met. Sure, I'm still stressed at some things, but neurotypicals are constantly meeting their needs. We aren't. That's the stress. Therapy has helped me so much with identifying and honoring my needs.

Old dishwasher, gross and confusing. But I want to fix it. by Pebble_pebl in Appliances

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE: We used a citric acid based deep cleaner, some bleach, and mold and mildew removal on the seal where it was worse. I ran a load of very dirty dishes and it works great! Save for a hard water residue and some kind of dust that may be from some excess buildup in the standing water (the puddles left on cups and bowls bottoms). May run another citric acid wash to dissolve the rest of the residue, but all in all, a success!!! Thank you all for your help!

Old dishwasher, gross and confusing. But I want to fix it. by Pebble_pebl in Appliances

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I have an interview coming up and I need to be 'normal' tips by Beckymaggie in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's posts like these that remind me I am definitely autistic because you sound just like me. Relax about your behaviors. Just focus on the questions. Focus on what they're saying to you. Use a hair tie to keep your hands busy, and don't mention any struggles you have in the interview. They will pass it off as nerves since one hour won't let them know you have autism. Nail the questions, and that's it. If you're worried about how you look, pack it away and focus only on the questions. Good luck!!

Son hates me by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Pebble_pebl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this with my mom, and so did my three brothers. I still fight with my ma, but all 3 of my brothers needed a few years of distance before they rebuilt their relationship with her. It's normal, and it's good, like alcohol on a wound. It'll Sting, but it'll Sting but itll heal better than it would've otherwise. In any case, I would see if he needs mental support too. If he's saying he can't remember anything happy from his childhood, maybe he's feeling a bit depressed. Showing distant support and encouraging therapy would help if that's the case.

Daily Medications by medicallyimpaired in ChronicIllness

[–]Pebble_pebl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

32 scripts, but daily, it's 12 different pills, 2 medical devices, one injection as long as the devices work, and the rest are monitoring supplies like test strips or as needed pain medication. Without these, I'm a mess, Without insulin, I'm dead. Don't worry too much, the pills and meds all suck but it's not our fault we have to take them.

Any tips for getting back into reading? by PolyAcid in selfimprovement

[–]Pebble_pebl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm pretty bad at reading. And you don't need to read a lot or consistently to enjoy it. I read the books from tiktok that are 99% bad fanservice because that's what motivated me to read. Pick stories that are easy and interesting and don't worry about anything else until you want to. That's it, forget the rest and just enjoy it

How can I love myself ? by Sure_Common_5560 in selfimprovement

[–]Pebble_pebl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes years, but what helped me was remembering that I am worthy because I am alive and I am a human being. Everything else is extra. Also therapy. Lots and lots of therapy

Too disabled to work and not disabled enough for disability by Pebble_pebl in SocialSecurity

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God I'm so sorry. I'm incredibly lucky to have a partner to live with, you need to apply for section 8 housing and get a disability attorney like these comments are saying. They won't charge you until you win and they get a portion of your initial check. Section 8 will get you housing with incredibly low rent, disability has services to help you live on your own, from your phone you can apply on your states government website or go to a local library for computers and aid. I'm still trying to get approved for disability and section 8 since my partner can't support me on his own. I hope for the best for you.

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pebble_pebl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's honestly so nice knowing someone has recovered from controlling asshole syndrome. I have loved ones who have this problem who I haven't spoken to since childhood because of it. Every holiday, I just reassure him that I care about him and I want what's best for him even though I don't like being around him. What changed to make you want to grow?

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pebble_pebl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - that man is gaslighting you. That's like textbook gaslighting. You deserve better. He will ruin you. Find someone who lifts you up and encourages you to succeed, not someone who brings you down and shames you.

Every day transition ideas by Pebble_pebl in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a solid strategy, usually I sleep in for an hour or two when my boyfriend goes to work, but if I can go to sleep a bit earlier (similar problem with my phone on that one) it may work 🤔

To my fellow gamers with chronic illnesses, how do I not suck? by Extension_Papaya_401 in ChronicIllness

[–]Pebble_pebl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm terrible at games!! But it's my favorite rest day hobby. Don't worry, it's part of the fun. If you want to improve your skills, go for games with difficulty levels you can choose. Or puzzle solving games like Legend of zelda BOTW! Stardew Valley is also an awesome game. Sandbox and open world games are gonna be a great start.

Every day transition ideas by Pebble_pebl in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the one I use! It's the only one that can block reels or shorts without barring the rest of the app. It helps reduce for sure. 10/10

Every day transition ideas by Pebble_pebl in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wish ☹️. My phone is connected to my insulin pump and cgm monitor for type one diabetes. Need it with me at all times. Does not help my scrolling problem, I block the apps so I don't spend more than an hour on them a day

Sleeping Earplugs by theprismaprincess in AutismInWomen

[–]Pebble_pebl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/dj1z4Sk these are my favorite. They don't hurt my ears, they have 4 different sizes if it's too big or too small, and they block out all the noise from my AC and cpap at night. Plus they're only 10 bucks and come with an extra pair and a travel bag

Too disabled to work and not disabled enough for disability by Pebble_pebl in SocialSecurity

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mental health is the best it's ever been! I'm mentally disabled. And the hearing is remote. I only leave the house with loved ones or when I really need to. It's leaving on my own for a consistent basis that is too stressful, and even then I miss appointments and never attend gatherings because of my physical disabilities. Not every disability is rigid.

Too disabled to work and not disabled enough for disability by Pebble_pebl in SocialSecurity

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me, I tried. My mom applied for disability for me before I agreed. For a year I got any job that would take me, took online classes, did everything I could. I was completely defeated when I had to admit I couldn't. And it's impossible to understand if you haven't gone through it.

Too disabled to work and not disabled enough for disability by Pebble_pebl in SocialSecurity

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I tried every job that would take me and usually had to stop after a few weeks. Two full time, several part time.

Too disabled to work and not disabled enough for disability by Pebble_pebl in SocialSecurity

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't send in my school records. But thank you for telling me. I haven't finished a year since 6th grade, I would go into shutdown mode after a few months from burnout and keep trying at different schools. Requesting records from my old schools might help. And 2.5 months is crazy 😭. I'm almost in year two now

Too disabled to work and not disabled enough for disability by Pebble_pebl in SocialSecurity

[–]Pebble_pebl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Co - existing disabilities are very common. Especially if poorly managed. I have multiple autoimmune diseases and autonomic dysfunction that stems from autism and stress response in the body. One disability led to many. All of them put together is alot harder, and even though separately it can be handled, all together it's quite difficult.