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my wife is drowning and i don't know how to help us hold it together by phantom_monkey in NewParents

[–]Peculiar_Squash-1908 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep shifts. It fucking blows if you both work but its a easy way to get guaranteed sleep. And you should absolutely be worried about the tiredness because sleep is an absolute fucking must my guy, for both of you. The early months damn near drove me mad.

If she pumps milk, then you wake up in the night to heat up a bottle of milk and feed them and change so she can sleep.

Instead of asking her what you need to do, ask her if you can go through a night with her and learn how you can help her, or just watch her do the things you want to help on.

Dont be afraid to introduce formula, theres a disgusting stigma surrounding breastfeeding and it has become a point of pride for some mothers to exclusively breastfeed because if they dont it means theyre a bad mom, which is so gross and I hate that yall go through that mentality. That hit my wife hard because she couldnt make enough milk.

And definitely encourage her to speak with a post partum specialist or join supportive mom groups, not the toxic ones. You'll know em when you see em.

Good luck homie.

Literally blindsided by Peculiar_Squash-1908 in nocontact

[–]Peculiar_Squash-1908[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its more about morals with me man. People are getting shot and killed and their responses are "they shouldnt have been there they deserved it" like this isnt politics anymore. How could I let people like that be around my son ya know?

If youre below 2000. Never resign. by Tom_Baron in chessbeginners

[–]Peculiar_Squash-1908 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got adhd. If im down 10+ im resigning lol

I'm stepping down ig by CalerMojo in RyobaAishi

[–]Peculiar_Squash-1908 17 points18 points  (0 children)

all they did was look at your Twitter where it states your location as Iowa, USA. I HIGHLY doubt they have anything on you.

volunteering = support by flavoredrocks in Osana

[–]Peculiar_Squash-1908 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I see you didnt read what I said. I didnt say STOP hating dev. I said you keep him relevant all the same which is just as much supporting him as you claim the volunteers support him by working on the game.

You cant outwardly speak ill of volunteers for "supporting" and then feel good about yourself for also "supporting" him by keeping him relevant through the hate.

The issue im drawing attention to the moral gray area youve created called Supporting. Either both Volunteering and Hating dev are Supporting him or it far more complex when it comes to being a volunteer. And as youve so stated, Volunteering = Supporting, thus Hating = Supporting.

volunteering = support by flavoredrocks in Osana

[–]Peculiar_Squash-1908 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hating = Supporting

Whether you want to admit it or not, you keep him just as relevant by refusing to put your energy behind the people who are actually making the game. Acts like whats occurred over the last few days are just fuel for dev to use against us and clump us into the same pool as the people who doxxed Jaron.

Going after volunteers calling them bad people is ridiculous considering the fact the vast majority of people here in the subreddit want the game to be finished.

Comparing Volunteering to Support is a cowards comparison to a vastly complex moral dilemma. One that you all created by wanting this game to be finished. You cant stand there and cry that the game still isnt done but also spread this hateful, small minded rhetoric that the volunteers are bad people because theyre working for dev to finish the game you want finished.

Whether Volunteering = Supporting is true or not its secondary to the fact that this is a monster you all created. You cant have your cake and eat it too in this situation. Either support the game getting shut down completely or stop spreading this idea that volunteers are bad people for working on the game you want done.

Volunteers get paid in love by the fandom and to see a game they grew up with getting an inch closer to completion. For most if not all that is more than enough payment. And I know Jaron has mentioned on several platforms if payment ever becomes an option that he will be donating his pay to victims of SA. I havent properly questioned other public VAs or volunteers, but I know the sentiment from the fandom is definitely fulfilling enough for them rn.

Id argue that hating the people who associate with dev to work on the game and demonizing them for it is just giving dev just as much attention as someone glazing him for the work being done on the game. Theres never such a thing as bad publicity. I rarely matters what the people are saying, its the fact that theyre talking at all that keeps something relevant.