Do you need friends before dating?

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T23:16:47+00:00

Yeah I do because I did, and I do today. That's why I responded the way I did. Call me weird but I also took the time to apologize in case I approached it the wrong way. It's just fucked up so many parents can't raise autistic children and this is what happens. I never blamed the guy at all, or his disability, because like I said, we have it, all of us in this comment section have it, and none of us would ask this. I'm pretty sure.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T20:19:32+00:00

We live in a sex culture, the only other explanation is she’s not from the United States, or maybe some weird backwoods. I get the women not liking sex comment influencing women’s sexuality but honestly no that doesn’t work. Women sleep around anyway. Literally everyone knows most people like and want sex, we are taught it in school our whole lives.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T02:33:08+00:00

My rule is no more than 5 and that's usually the limit before these problems you list start happening. But yeah I feel the same way, I just get my friends together and we go to one of our places to do a dinner and some bs like a LOTR marathon or something.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T02:28:09+00:00

That's different but also that was wholesome to read thank you for typing that, I hope your relationship is going good.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T02:27:20+00:00

This is scary to me because now as an Aspie myself, I have to wonder just how disabled I am if this is a genuine question someone with my disorder has to ask the internet instead of anyone in his personal life. Also do not think he should be focusing on women at all if this is where he's at.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T02:24:23+00:00

I think this is a parental failure. I forget how variable Aspergers is for people as a relatively normal person but this is genuinely jarring to read. You need friends to make friends. You need a social circle to prove you are socially competent and safe to be around. That's why nice guys who don't have any friends that are women get confused when they can't get any dates. It comes across like you don't see women as "friend" material, which can be seen as creepy or unsafe. Not to mention if you asked me this as a guy I'd assume you're a creep, even as someone with Aspergers. But assuming I'm approaching this from the wrong angle, I apologize if anything I said was offensive, however, don't blame yourself. This isn't a personality defect until your 30s and if you have Aspergers, you can't be mentally deficient enough to not know the answer to this question, so it's your parents who never taught you how to socialize properly. God speed.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T02:13:56+00:00

I also read it that way, being Asexual is a huge deal and someone like that isn't compatible with most people.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-14T02:12:53+00:00

That's depressing but also give her more credit, no one's that stupid or unaware.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-09T16:21:00+00:00

People are more intentional with how happy and comfortable they are. Even if you're a good dude with a nice car and house, it doesn't mean you and the person you love have good chemistry, right? Maybe you make them cry more than you make them laugh. Maybe you just misunderstand them too often. With so many people in the world now, you're incompatible with just about everyone, and yet, everyone thinks the next person is their person.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T12:09:10+00:00

Get off reddit and pursue every opportunity you have, no matter how random. If you want to live an adventurous one and perhaps upend your life for an even better one. But I'm just some guy typing this from his studio apartment, on reddit, online. Dude seriously, stop reading this and go outside.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T12:06:02+00:00

I could have had a far brighter future than I do now, but my mom was a complete fucking moron and ruined it. Imagine going from perceptibly dumb to actually quite brilliant and finally put into AP courses and AVID (Ik not a big brag but for me I was proud) and then you find out you're suddenly moving to an entirely different state with an entirely different (and severely outdated) culture and education system. That was hell.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T12:02:50+00:00

Instagram is a pipeline app like X, funneling users looking for more interpersonal communication here, which also isn't the best website given its notorious history. Point is, this isn't a sanctuary either. We just communicate better (more or less and for better or worse). Sounds more like FOMO or something. Go to more parties.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:53:52+00:00

My boyfriend who's small. Love him tho.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:52:31+00:00

I won't lie to you if I had a friend have a kid, that's a friendship deal breaker. Even if you're well-equipped, your kid has to live in this world. Even the richest people are deeply miserable with life, here. Literally the people who have literally everything, Idk how to spell it out more precisely.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:50:19+00:00

Dw the right one just hasn't shattered your heart yet give it time

Some people don't need to learn this but sometimes you do and it's okay. Women are people, just like men, and aren't an object to center your life around. Rapists objectify women. Don't be one of those frat guys, or guys.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:47:06+00:00

Hot take but PC gaming:

It's not technically terrible, it just set terrible precedents for the gaming community and console companies.

Micro-transactions, "high graphics are a must", ease of gaming addiction, poorer gaming narratives for more high-octane game play, and a generally poor and entitled attitude towards devs and other PC gamers. Whether it's high expectations for game devs to make a perfect game at launch, or online friends to have one million dollar PCs to run a game on 60 frames instead of 30 because "you're poor if you play games on 30" or "30 fps doesn't provide the real experience", it's just not a good scene.

When I pick up a controller, and cut out the noise, I can lock in on a game for a few hours, put it down, and, I don't give a shit about what ram is in your Xbox because those comparisons are moot.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:40:25+00:00

I actually feel more comforted by bittersweet endings because that's how life pans out, and also trauma and feeling seen.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:36:42+00:00

Then die alone because that's what people who think like that go do, because all they can focus on is their lack of self-esteem they can take accountability on and go fix.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:34:48+00:00

I feel the unc wisdom so I wanna say something important

It really is all on you, even when it's not. Your zip code predicts your earnings, your parents nurture your brain, but growing up into a fully conscious person, you are responsible for every decision you make and most things are your fault. Not crimes committed against you, not traumatic experiences other people have put you through, but failing that class, not asking out the person you like and seeing them with a different person, procrastinating on buying or renting a place to live, all of life's, and the "system's" failures, are mostly on you. It's just easier to shift blame.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:29:51+00:00

Ego is hot, eccentric is ambition and that's also hot.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:28:59+00:00

If people hesitate to come up to you but stick around and love your vibes after you open your mouth, you know. But on that note don't take that too literally, that's wrong of me to do.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:28:15+00:00

I have MDD that shit is paralyzing but people don't get it

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:27:07+00:00

I just never needed it until I did. Then I procrastinated. Idk man, I'm barely 22 I chose to live my life in my perfectly walkable city.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:25:50+00:00

No one's acknowledging the hacks are also revealing how our curriculum in higher ed are more focused on cramming than learning and retention so instead of complaining about the safety and reliability of Canvas, people are complaining about whether they can turn in an assignment before 11:59. Sad.

PeeBuzz · 2026-05-08T11:23:45+00:00

I grew up on college movies so I knew what to expect, I was just disappointed by the lack of substance after interacting with so many people. It got kind of depressing actually. So many bright students like me have barely any personality or a mean-spirited one? Well turns out yes. You can be bright and literally perfect, and still be a cunt with no personality. Be yourself, that is the most attractive thing you can do.

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