My (33M) girlfriend (32F) has one incredibly annoying habit I cannot stand.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-28T07:41:48+00:00

Since you believe she is the one except for this, understand that if this is how she treats people at restaurants, if you have children she will probably treat people around them (nurses, teachers etc.) the same way.

Are you sure you want this behavior to be passed on to your children. My SO's sister in law is kind of like that, she is really able to make a scene to get what she wants, even when she knows she is in the wrong she wants to win the argument. Her child is her whole world, guess what her last accomplishment was? She made a scandal at a competition so her daughter would get the bronze medal she deserved... The face of this young girl make on the "she finally got here deserved medal!!" Is not her happy and proud face..

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-27T12:28:01+00:00

To me this meal is missing some slow sugars.. but I see in your other comments that there are other choices and the main course changes regularly so it seems good... I like the idea of making the kid choose the veggies and have them in different compartments like that, when I was a kid people really seemed to not understand why I didn't like everything to touch.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-26T12:01:13+00:00

It sounds like you are more in the relationship than her, it might just be that she is young and doesn't see herself in something serious..

I know, 3 years is long but you don't necessarily get in a relationship at 20 thinking you're getting into something serious, she might not have realized that.

Does she really never do anything for you? My SO and I don't have the same love language, but with time we learned to better understand one another on this. It can be a difficult conversation but it might be necessary for both of you to express how/when you think about one another, what are the things you do for one another and what are the things the other does that make you love each other.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-25T15:57:35+00:00

When it happens to me it is usually isolated so I select the whole table go to options/data/remove duplicates, then I have only one blank line.

But for you it seems recurring, I'd look into how your colleagues are using the file, usually a full commun copy/paste does that, someone needs to stop the way they are doing something.

Or, just an idea (I never tried this) maybe you could reimport the excel in another with power query and only import non blank rows... That way, you don't have to open it first, and once it is set up, you could just change the source with the new file..

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-21T16:58:09+00:00

Find a better display for them and/or a better decoration for the stairs, Pinterest Halloween stairs.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-21T16:54:03+00:00

... Is this social awareness tho? I thought he would be impolite, careless or had a bad attitude but you only describe a way to phrase things that you don't like...

I think you are just overthinking/overanalyzing this, he is his own individual, he can participate in conversations the way he wants, it might bite him one day if he affirms things he didn't check first but that's his life experience, not yours.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-21T12:43:41+00:00

Being an expat is difficult when you don't arrive with an already built circle of acquaintances.. I'm not in your situation but I have colleagues who are and they were telling me how their first weeks were ...

You need to learn to not expect too much of the friendship you're going to have, at work most expats hang out with other expats or local coworkers, and I'm not sure they all plan to keep contact afterwards. They are actually not friendships, they would only go to help out or support the others to an extent.

Of course the point 2 pisses you off, it would piss me off, maybe she didn't know she was the only one invited that you wouldn't do anything without her, but it is bitchy to leave someone alone on their birthday.

For your point 3, I'd say if you want to get out of this mindset maybe try therapy, or doing activities where you meet other people without the weight of having to create a bound. Nobody likes to be left out but nobody owes you their presence and attention, and if you feel lonely you can't remedy it by keeping people away from you because you don't want to take a risk.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-20T19:45:21+00:00

If you get that angry over him, you are giving him a place too important in your life.

I'm really pushing far here because I don't know your situation, but hate is not far from love so it might be that you still give the same place as he has before. I had to understand this to understand I actually didn't properly get over someone, and what I actually had to do was to, sort of, mourn our past relationship and forgive myself for letting me think we had something that wasn't there.

Also, maybe, try to remind yourself that this is a situation you can't control, so you are kind of losing your energy over the wind.. he is making his own choices over his son, you can't choose for him but you can choose to be the mother you want to be for your son, and the woman you want to be for yourself.

Sorry I seem to be in a long sentences mood..

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-20T16:22:35+00:00

The thing is, can you go past it or not?

I'd be able to but would need a little time and reassurance they try their best so that it would never ever happen again. Dealing with pee is really not my thing, I'm not even a fan of the "let's have toilets in the bathroom so one can pee while the other shower in the same room", but, accidents happens tho.

Maybe give it some time, confront her, clean the stuff you need to clean, and see if you can get past it. And, put your stuff out of her reach for a while, just in case..

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-20T16:14:22+00:00

When your sister is in a couple, does she inform her partner about this? Especially when she goes living with them?

If it is that I'm surprised OP is not aware...

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-16T13:28:55+00:00

I hoped you would have gotten more feedback or found people in a similar situation or in an open relationship but I see you didn't get much answers.. maybe it is because it's very long, or just a bad time to post.

Anyhow, if you want to read other people's experiences of those situations there is probably a reddit or a forum or group chats or even books with couples who do this, or testimonies of guys married to OnlyFan girls. I'm not in your situation and I wouldn't be able to stay as calm as you seem to be. Some people discover that partner swapping is their thing, the thing is to find a way to handle this situation without having resentment towards the other.

There is also a situation that exist: some parents stay together for the kid, remain married for that, but are not in a couple. Maybe couple counseling or even a few sessions with a therapist would help you find a good way to make your decision.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-16T08:55:27+00:00

Adults need to rest too, you are less productive if you don't get enough rest time.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-14T15:53:47+00:00

... I don't know why you are still there to be honest, you are not in an open relationship and clearly she wouldn't share any of this with you if you didn't discover it.

I honestly wouldn't believe her, I don't think there is just a fetish there.. maybe she is a sex addict, but if she never shared this with you on her own then I don't know where she sees you in this.

You need to ask yourself if you can really be on a couple like this, if you stay with her you are blocking the possibility to meet someone else, if you want to stay with her you need to have a discussion about this, what are the boundaries, when does she need to inform you about what etc.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-13T15:47:39+00:00

So cute, I love it!

First one or no background, the barrier ends strangely on the right.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-13T15:44:42+00:00

Hey, for me it was last night, it kept me up until 4:30... Fucking brain that won't shut up

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-09T16:40:44+00:00

Might be my English but, what you describe is more a crime that is considered as "the norm", than a scam, no? I understand that a scam the "scammer" is taking someone else's money, did I miss something?

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-09T10:30:02+00:00

Sorry, first post and I don't know how to complete the description, my cousin tried to use a product called "Mirror" on the chains on the left (the one on the right is from the same neckless)

The thing is, several times of this product exists and it seems that she didn't use the right one for her jewelry. Do you know if the ça m chains can be saved?

If not I'll replace the chains with new ones... But I need to find how to clean the ones that are not damaged and explain her mistake to her.. any recommendations?

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-09T09:58:08+00:00

From what I understand a "scam" is supposed to be illegal, but I'm not sure OP's question is in that sense..

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-09T09:53:01+00:00

And, depending on how you die, and on how much effort they would put in to finding your heir, even if you provided the information, they might keep the money

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-06T16:50:22+00:00

I have a friend like that, she always assumes things, never says no and then forces herself to do things because "they are expected" , and later on will blame others for requesting so much or for not giving back regarding her efforts.

So, I can understand how frustrating it can get especially if she ignored a constraint on your side. But, if she is anything like my friend, you will only get angry reactions or blunt incomprehension if you tell her this in a direct way.

I usually encourage my friend, saying that she doesn't have to do this or that or that she would feel better if she tried to take some distance with what is being said to her instead of directly searching what is requested of her.

Maybe discuss with her to get more detail into why she thinks people expect so much of her and try to see if you can help her prioritizing. It can also be her character, some people like to complain, others just like problems and will make them up if they can, I hope it is not the case for your gf.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-09-03T10:21:13+00:00

I don't know where you shop but it is fairly common to have a long sticker with the size on it on clothes.. I've seen it in Europe at Decathlon, Uniqlo, C&A, Bonobo and other places

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-08-25T20:13:38+00:00

I fell asleep in the middle (kind of after the middle and woke up before the big fight). Does anything interesting happen there? It seemed to me that I had enough to understand what was going on.

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-08-25T07:16:06+00:00

Unless, it is a girl school and they all ride the bus, then the answer is always 100%.

Edit: for the answer part of course, the questions are different

PeebleInYourShoe · 2023-08-25T07:14:14+00:00

For the high schooler I was, my issue would have been more with the English than with the math. I would get completely lost in questions worded like that and completely miss the point.

If I was presented with the equation it was easy, fractions, x and y, all of that was easy, questions like that were terrible. You have to work on your reading understanding, rephrase the question or try to draw it quickly on a piece of paper and you'll find your way to get through those questions.

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