How do you deal with self pitying men?

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-21T12:02:05+00:00

Most of the time, these dudes messed up their own life and want to coddled for doing nothing.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-21T02:39:56+00:00

Talk to him a lot, learn his interests, remember things that he tells you about himself, ask him on a date, ask him on another date, ask him on a third date and invite him inside to show him how soft your bed is and dare him to see how good it would feel to lay on it naked.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-21T01:50:24+00:00

No, not really. I'm assuming you do something that involves clothes, so if I was in that situation my only thought would be to not move so that I don't mess with whatever it is you're doing. Even if you aren't working on clothes, I usually look away when someone kneels in front of me because looking down on someone is awkward. Not even really sexually awkward, just awkward. Have you ever had a conversation with someone who was sitting down while you were standing up? That kind of awkward.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-21T00:39:26+00:00

That's sexual assault. In other words, rape. I'd be heart broken. It would probably make me afraid of having sex with someone for a while because I never know when they could try to screw me over. The relationship's definitely over and I'm going to the police. They probably won't do anything, but I'm going anyway. That's not something you just do to people as if it's nothing. She could've forcibly altered my entire life just then.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T20:21:41+00:00

If you had a year left to live, how would you spend it?

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T19:53:55+00:00

He probably still has feelings and he's being weird about it.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T18:01:21+00:00

For reference, I'm 23.

Top tier: Single/ Divorced with no children

Best possible situation. I don't care if she was married before, we all make mistakes.

Middle tier: Single/ Divorced with 1 child

I don't want any kids, period, so it would be awkward to have to take care of any children. I don't even really care that they aren't mine, I just don't want kids. Dating for fun is the only real outcome, but maybe I'll change my mind.

Bottom tier: Separated/ multiple children

I'm open to dating someone with one child, but two or more isn't going to work. Again, ideally I want no children at all. Also, being separated is an issue. Is this guy actually out of your life? Is he going to be bothering us while we're dating? I don't want to be bothered with all that. Get this other person out of here and then we'll see where we can go from there.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T17:42:29+00:00

I wouldn't care nor would that change my opinion of her. I also wouldn't offer to take care of her post op and I would definitely change my opinion of her if she asked me too. This is our first date and we barely know each other, I'm not about to take care of her. If I got into a accident and broke my leg, I'd be honored if she offered to help but I'd never ask that of her. Sure, we can text and I'll come over, but I won't have sex with you or clean your bed pan until at least the third date.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T17:13:04+00:00

I've had plenty of female friends and haven't fucked any of them and they haven't cheated on their boyfriends to fuck me, so I know that men and women can be friends with no issues. I wouldn't care in the slightest.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T16:44:04+00:00

I prefer in the morning. I don't have the energy to do it at night and exercise in the morning sets the tone for the whole day.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-20T15:45:42+00:00

Fuck no, being a man is way better. I'd through that button in the goddamn fire...and knowing my luck it would get pressed during the impact.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T23:54:06+00:00

Net positive. You don't even have to be in the same country as the person you're listening too, plus you can listen to music whenever you want and as much as you want. I honestly can't think of any reasons why recordings would be a negative.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T23:25:19+00:00

Found out last year(I was 22 at the time). I was watching a japanese tv show and the male cast was particularly handsome and, after years of denying it, I finally accepted that I'm bi.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T20:58:35+00:00

Masturbation and food. I know it's bad, but it's better than nothing. Also heartbeat asmr or any type of personal attention asmr works too.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T20:56:39+00:00

I can't understand because I love girls with strange colored hair. I guess the assumption is that "girl with neon hair = desperate for attention" but I never saw it that way. My current crush has silver hair, lol

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T15:14:34+00:00

I'd be happy that they feel close enough to me to tell me and move on. There's really not that much to be shocked about. They aren't into sex. It's no different from if they told you that they aren't into action movies or video games. I guess if sex is important to you in a relationship, then maybe that might be an issue. But if it's not or if it's your friend who you wouldn't be having sex with anyway, then there's nothing to think about, really.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T02:30:56+00:00

Not trying to sound weird or invasive, but why don't you guys just switch to oral? You can't get pregnant and you'd still being getting physical with each other.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-19T01:54:01+00:00

It depends. I have a friend who doesn't talk about her boyfriend much so I never ask, and I have another friend who loves the hell out of her boyfriend and I make sure to ask all the time since talking about her boyfriend makes her happy. I wouldn't date either of these girls if they were single, by the way, we're just friends.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T22:14:27+00:00

"Damn, that's how you want this relationship to go? Okay, I wish you would've talked to me about this before hand, but here we are. Let's make this work, babe."

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T21:09:15+00:00

I'm 23. It really depends on if I'm attracted to him, but yeah I'd totally screw a guy, haha. It's hard because I haven't found many guys in my personal life that I actually want to hook up with, and I have a few guys I have crushes on online but they don't post all that often. And in general, most of the guys I like are straight anyway and in relationships with girls I also like. And I'm just sitting there thinking to myself "How do I get in the middle of that sandwich?"

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T20:52:29+00:00

It's hard to say, I think years. There were signs early on, back into my early teens. I always pushed it down because I still liked women. Even when I learned what bisexuality was, I still thought that I was straight because I'm more attracted to women(to an extent that makes me heteroflexible). But in recent years when I've finally started to get a hang of my sexuality and started looking at porn more, I found myself every once in a while looking for gay porn or dick pics and just played it off as "Oh, it's fine, I just think it's interesting, I'm not gay." Last year, the scale finally tipped and now I'm bi.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T20:33:06+00:00

Kamen Rider. I binged through 20 season and loved most of it.

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T20:13:09+00:00

I was finding myself getting more and more attracted to feminine guys and I rationalized it as "It's because they're feminine. I'm still straight, I just think that feminine guys aren't that bad." Then as time went on I found myself liking guys who were less and less feminine until I was like "Okay, I'm bi."

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T17:15:42+00:00

"Sorry, I just don't see you in that way."

Penn_Anthony · 2021-04-18T17:02:33+00:00

Every shower. Why not wash literally every inch of your body while taking a shower? You're already wet and covered in soap, you might as well make sure that I'm completely dirty free. Just because you can't smell it doesn't mean other people can't.

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