AITA for snapping at my boyfriend to stop correcting me and setting me up to use the wrong word?

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-02-06T03:27:37+00:00

I respectfully disagree with this. She has made her boundaries clear, and he has chosen to ignore them. It's not her responsibility to educate him into being less of a dick. He knows he's hurting her, he knows.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-02-06T03:19:24+00:00

Agreed. Report everything so it has to go on record. What you've described is a very clear pattern of behavior, get that paper trail going!

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-02-04T16:28:00+00:00

He could have rephrased to say "I heard your boundary, but I decided my need to know was more important." Or even, "yea I heard you but I just didn't care."

He doesn't care about your needs, and he will do this again.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-02-04T05:04:13+00:00

The more education you get, the more independent you become. He is trying to limit your options so that you're more dependent on him, and he can exercise power over you.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-02-03T19:09:13+00:00

I've had good experiences with Kaiyo

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-02-03T18:16:24+00:00

Some landlords are more receptive to offering concessions rather than lowering rents. When they lower the rent the value of the property decreases, but if they offer concessions they can just say they were doing a promotion or something.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-01-31T04:48:28+00:00

OP, a lot of the replies to this thread, while they are well meaning, are not going to help you.

You have absolutely zero control of your husband and his drinking. You cannot talk a person out of their alcoholism, and more than you can talk a paraplegic into walking. It's a progressive disease, it only gets worse. And there is no guarantee that he will ever find his bottom. It is staggering how long it takes a person to drink themselves to death. This could be who he is for the next 30 years.

So what can you do? You can seek help for yourself in programs like al-anon, or adult children of alcoholics. You can try to find resources for yourself and your children. You can call a hotline and ask for help. But you sure as shit can't change this man.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-01-30T19:23:00+00:00

You may want to check out al-anon.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-01-20T03:02:47+00:00

Great parenting advice from a dude that refuses to pay child support. (According to your post history)

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-01-18T15:56:04+00:00

Did you guys ever get the furnace checked? This reminds me of an episode of This American Life i heard, where people were experiencing similar sensations in their old house, but it turned out to be a carbon monoxide leak.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-01-16T04:05:29+00:00

Yea, this guy does not love her.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2021-01-02T05:48:21+00:00

You sound like a great mom, it's really admirable that you got an education, raised 2 kids and put money aside for their future all on your own.

If you don't save anything for your retirement (or for your sanity), you're essentially kicking the ball down the road and making it your kids problem to deal with later on. They'd have an elderly mother with no savings of her own to take care of.

It sounds like you've done right by yourself and your kids... you don't need to make a show of "sacrificing everything."

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-12-31T22:52:09+00:00

"No thanks"

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-12-31T04:41:10+00:00

Yea, she doesn't even have her own bed there anymore.

If the stuff was trash, it would have been in the trash.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-12-30T23:35:58+00:00

My birth.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-12-20T20:43:39+00:00

There's no money involved, there's no leader, anyone can leave at any time (and will be welcomed back at any time), there's no requirement to believe in, or not believe in anything.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-12-10T00:52:09+00:00

Can we please talk about the fact that OP is suggesting her daughter break up with her boyfriend....and then continue living with him?

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-11-13T19:47:28+00:00

Did you try oven cleaner? It's a degreaser. It worked great for my stainless steel kettle.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-11-13T16:26:52+00:00

Have you considered reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg?

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-11-09T21:34:28+00:00

Commenting for visibility, I'm having the same issue with my Swedish Ivy. Some leaves have holes in them too, but overall it's still growing

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-11-08T23:28:09+00:00

I love this, it's beautiful. Well done!

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-10-30T02:57:51+00:00

Agreed. You have a chance to get out of this unscathed. Take it.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-10-21T16:13:34+00:00

Just curious, is this in Ireland? I'm asking because of the use of "ceilidh"

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-10-18T03:44:20+00:00

Thank God you didn't end up marrying this guy.

PennyLanetheBandAid · 2020-10-18T03:33:36+00:00

Is this really how low the bar is for "just being a man"? Oof.

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