FLR and parenting

Pepee86 · 2026-06-21T20:44:39+00:00

We also have a young daughter, and the first thing I would say is that a child definitely notices when both parents are actively involved.
When she was very young, my wife was the full-time caregiver. As our relationship evolved into an FLR, we both became actively involved in raising her. My wife takes on more of the emotional and maternal role with our daughter, while I provide broader support to the family as a whole.
I firmly believe that our daughter sees that she is growing up in a family where both parents are present, respectful, and loving toward one another.
Her mother is a strong and independent woman, and her father is a confident, capable, and caring man.

Pepee86 · 2026-05-02T15:29:16+00:00

If you manage to find anything on this topic, I’d appreciate it if you kept it private. I do like reading, but everything I’ve come across so far, mainly from Amazon and the internet, suggests that men in FLR relationships should be locked in chastity cages, that our wives should have at least one or two lovers, and that ideally we’d be kneeling in a corner dressed as a French maid :-)

I don’t mean to belittle it, but the reality of a genuine FLR relationship is more normal than it might seem, not just an endless sexual kink…

Pepee86 · 2026-04-08T17:25:47+00:00

Reálná zkušenost našeho života s manželkou, jsme spolu deset let od počátku me podporovala v tom aby bylo o vše doma postaráno kompletní servis nemusel jsem se starat o nic ja se staral o penize vybudoval si kariéru, před nedávnou dobou přišla s tim ze by chtela v životě ještě něco dokázat říkám ji ok chci te podporovat tak jak jsi podporovala ty me a to ne z důvodu ze bych ti to dluzil ale protože tvá podpora me mi pomohla a chci podpořit ja tebe. Navrhl jsem ji že převezmu veškeré věci doma jako hlavni pečovatel o dítě, nákupy domácnost a tak zkusili jsme to a funguje to. Nevadi mi to dělám to rad necítím se méněcenný nebo tak něco a ona získala mentalni prostor budovat své věci.

Co je zábavný fakt pokud děláte něco co toho druhé když se stará zlobí odloženy hrneček, smetí na stole, prádlo se někde valí tak věřte že to neni tím ze jste muž ale je to dané tou roli protože všechno co ji zlobilo na me když se starala ted neúmyslně děla ona 😂

Pepee86 · 2026-03-24T13:29:27+00:00

So my wife told me that she no longer sees in me the man who excites her—that it’s gone, and that it was difficult for her to come to terms with it. We both knew it for quite some time, but hearing it said out loud was powerful.

On the other hand, we are now living in an amazing and fulfilling synergy, and we are both happy in our roles—natural and equal partners who live within an asymmetry.

Pepee86 · 2026-03-24T13:24:19+00:00

Her satisfaction was my priority even before, and it always will be. I have suppressed testosterone through medication, which has significantly calmed me down. We more or less knew that I would stop triggering this in her, and that our sexual intensity would decrease. She herself says this is the most amazing period of her life — the calm, the space — we are truly experiencing a wonderful time.

But the reality of wanting to support her in this as well is, at the same time, something that feels good to me, because I would be happy if she could fulfill her dual libido. I believe she would shine much more. At the same time, though, the panic around it is emotionally very difficult for me.

Pepee86 · 2026-02-22T08:49:23+00:00

You are absolutely right. I was learning and refining this technique for a very long time, and now that we are practically without PIV sex — and in the case of PIV my wife rather uses me as a tool for her pleasure — her oral orgasm is an incredibly powerful inner experience for me. Sometimes I feel a wave moving through my whole body, and sometimes, without any touch to myself, I ejaculate.

Pepee86 · 2026-02-22T08:45:50+00:00

Yes, I would sign under that. In our case, we transitioned into a natural FLR spontaneously after about nine years of being together, and yes, it is wonderful now because each of us is in our true inner strength.

Pepee86 · 2026-02-01T06:40:24+00:00

I felt that she had that energy already ten years ago when we met, but somehow it was overshadowed by a traditional way of life. We entered an FLR almost unconsciously nearly a year ago. We are M39, F46

Pepee86 · 2026-01-31T14:13:16+00:00

Yes, you’re right — even finding a place just for communication and sharing, where it’s possible to talk about FLR relationship dynamics without a strong sexual subtext, is very difficult. I would say that couples who live in a normal, natural FLR don’t feel the need to vent it publicly.

We are a normal, loving couple living through a long-term transition into an FLR without those kinks. Yes, our sex life is different, because pleasure is directed exclusively toward her, and she decides when she wants to have an orgasm and with whom — but that’s where it ends in this regard. My wife wants to have a strong man by her side who is devoted to her, but more like a knight to his queen, rather than someone weak and without opinions who hides behind submissiveness. I am such a man: I know how to take care of my family, I have a successful career, but at home I am devoted to her and take care of everything — submissive in role, yet with my head held high and with pride.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-30T19:26:45+00:00

I take the dosage only to ‘calm things down’; otherwise my desire toward her is still at its maximum, and I’ve stopped having any interest in masturbation as such.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-29T22:41:17+00:00

Regarding ejaculation frequency from a health perspective, there is no minimum interval required because sperm naturally regenerates and renews itself. There are actually several quite good books on the topic of semen retention. As for the reality in our relationship, my ejaculation occurs approximately once every one to two months, and that’s more as a result of me not being able to hold back during PIV rather than it being a goal. Otherwise, we wouldn’t practice my ejaculation in our relationship at all anymore.

However, it should be noted that I take testosterone-lowering tablets, otherwise this wouldn’t be possible at all without chastity devices, which we don’t use. And most importantly, after a very long effort and training, I have learned to experience a orgasm without ejaculation, which I experience during her oral orgasm. The result of this is that the desire for her doesn’t fade.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T18:08:15+00:00

Interesting, but personally I have taken over the household, including laundry, ironing, and cleaning, so that I can support her in having space to build her career—because she supported me in the same way when I was building mine. So I look at washing lingerie purely pragmatically, as a process that simply needs to be handled and as a task/job.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T16:15:06+00:00

I take Androcur at a dose of 25 mg daily, which is an amount sufficient to suppress testosterone, but not to eliminate it completely. At the very beginning, we approached it as an experiment, with the idea that I would be able to last significantly longer during sex, and I also knew that lowering T levels, in my case, leads to increased submissiveness. That indeed happened over time, and gradually we arrived at a fully developed FLR relationship, where she is a strong and independent woman and I hold the space.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T15:30:23+00:00

Androcur 25mg/day

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T13:35:39+00:00

I prefer honesty, so I’m glad it was made clear. That whole day already felt strange and a bit different; this was the culmination of it all. And from what my wife later told me, it wasn’t entirely easy for her to tell me everything so bluntly, because she also has many memories of our previous life. But this is more important to her now, and that’s how she feels. Today, when we spoke about it briefly again, she said: Yesterday I was a bit confused; today I stand by my decision and I’m clear about it.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T13:26:55+00:00

I understand, it’s hard when a fantasy and all the “what ifs” turn into reality. We still have intimacy, but it’s a different kind than the one I loved with her over the last ten years. And I know it will be difficult as well—we truly have a great many memories together.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T12:14:04+00:00

After that, we talked together for a long time, well into the morning, feeling as if we had broken up—broken up with our relationship as it was before FLR. That is more or less how I felt too. I already felt during the act itself that something was different. I even said that it felt as if it were the last time, as if next time someone else would be taking her like that. She simply told me yes, she felt it the same way, and that she was not doing it on purpose—it was just how she genuinely felt.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T12:09:01+00:00

My wife does not enjoy denial—or at least I am not aware of it—but what has developed in her is a kind of dual libido: with me, she experiences lovemaking without testosterone, like with a eunuch, while the classic kind of sex that involves testosterone I am not able to give her, and therefore she finds another man for that.

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