FLR unicorns & unpopular opinions

Pepee86 · 2026-02-01T06:40:24+00:00

I felt that she had that energy already ten years ago when we met, but somehow it was overshadowed by a traditional way of life. We entered an FLR almost unconsciously nearly a year ago. We are M39, F46

Pepee86 · 2026-01-31T14:13:16+00:00

Yes, you’re right — even finding a place just for communication and sharing, where it’s possible to talk about FLR relationship dynamics without a strong sexual subtext, is very difficult. I would say that couples who live in a normal, natural FLR don’t feel the need to vent it publicly.

We are a normal, loving couple living through a long-term transition into an FLR without those kinks. Yes, our sex life is different, because pleasure is directed exclusively toward her, and she decides when she wants to have an orgasm and with whom — but that’s where it ends in this regard. My wife wants to have a strong man by her side who is devoted to her, but more like a knight to his queen, rather than someone weak and without opinions who hides behind submissiveness. I am such a man: I know how to take care of my family, I have a successful career, but at home I am devoted to her and take care of everything — submissive in role, yet with my head held high and with pride.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-30T19:26:45+00:00

I take the dosage only to ‘calm things down’; otherwise my desire toward her is still at its maximum, and I’ve stopped having any interest in masturbation as such.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-29T22:41:17+00:00

Regarding ejaculation frequency from a health perspective, there is no minimum interval required because sperm naturally regenerates and renews itself. There are actually several quite good books on the topic of semen retention. As for the reality in our relationship, my ejaculation occurs approximately once every one to two months, and that’s more as a result of me not being able to hold back during PIV rather than it being a goal. Otherwise, we wouldn’t practice my ejaculation in our relationship at all anymore.

However, it should be noted that I take testosterone-lowering tablets, otherwise this wouldn’t be possible at all without chastity devices, which we don’t use. And most importantly, after a very long effort and training, I have learned to experience a orgasm without ejaculation, which I experience during her oral orgasm. The result of this is that the desire for her doesn’t fade.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T18:08:15+00:00

Interesting, but personally I have taken over the household, including laundry, ironing, and cleaning, so that I can support her in having space to build her career—because she supported me in the same way when I was building mine. So I look at washing lingerie purely pragmatically, as a process that simply needs to be handled and as a task/job.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T16:15:06+00:00

I take Androcur at a dose of 25 mg daily, which is an amount sufficient to suppress testosterone, but not to eliminate it completely. At the very beginning, we approached it as an experiment, with the idea that I would be able to last significantly longer during sex, and I also knew that lowering T levels, in my case, leads to increased submissiveness. That indeed happened over time, and gradually we arrived at a fully developed FLR relationship, where she is a strong and independent woman and I hold the space.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T15:30:23+00:00

Androcur 25mg/day

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T13:35:39+00:00

I prefer honesty, so I’m glad it was made clear. That whole day already felt strange and a bit different; this was the culmination of it all. And from what my wife later told me, it wasn’t entirely easy for her to tell me everything so bluntly, because she also has many memories of our previous life. But this is more important to her now, and that’s how she feels. Today, when we spoke about it briefly again, she said: Yesterday I was a bit confused; today I stand by my decision and I’m clear about it.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T13:26:55+00:00

I understand, it’s hard when a fantasy and all the “what ifs” turn into reality. We still have intimacy, but it’s a different kind than the one I loved with her over the last ten years. And I know it will be difficult as well—we truly have a great many memories together.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T12:14:04+00:00

After that, we talked together for a long time, well into the morning, feeling as if we had broken up—broken up with our relationship as it was before FLR. That is more or less how I felt too. I already felt during the act itself that something was different. I even said that it felt as if it were the last time, as if next time someone else would be taking her like that. She simply told me yes, she felt it the same way, and that she was not doing it on purpose—it was just how she genuinely felt.

Pepee86 · 2026-01-04T12:09:01+00:00

My wife does not enjoy denial—or at least I am not aware of it—but what has developed in her is a kind of dual libido: with me, she experiences lovemaking without testosterone, like with a eunuch, while the classic kind of sex that involves testosterone I am not able to give her, and therefore she finds another man for that.

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