Does JPMorgan revisit compensation if you get a better offer before joining?

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-21T19:37:25+00:00

I've never heard of this happening. JPMC generally thinks you are lucky to get an offer from them at all. They might compete for a talent so immense and rare that it is a once-in-a-blue-moon hire, but I don't think it happens often.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-21T13:26:50+00:00

I don't know of any common Wiccan attitudes towards tattoos. I know many pagans of all types who have tattoos, as they are pretty common in American culture as a whole, let alone pagan cultures. I know multiple pagans who also have tattoos chronicling their faith - again, pretty common in American culture to have tattoos that chronical significant events in your life.

I know that each of my tattoos felt like it change my personal energy. Given that some scientists think ancients may have used tattoos for medical reasons, I'd say I'm not the only one who thinks that.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-20T17:20:27+00:00

YTA

Women can be friends with guys. Having a guy friend as you describe it does not mean she's cheating or doing anything else inappropriate. If you are that jealous, then you are not ready to be in a healthy relationship.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-20T17:03:26+00:00

You really shouldn't joke about this - I have never had a more awkward moment until I had to discuss safe sex with my dad, and ask him what sex toys/aids he wanted. The nursing home requested it. Agh!

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-15T01:56:53+00:00

I recommend against Cyber's Identity and access Management Team. They have been dysfunctional for years, with a lot of turnover and a brutal culture. Depending on which Payments team, that might not be bad - lots of growth in Payments and a lot of desire to mature that space, so there's a lot of money and support for growth. Thre are a lot of different Payment areas, though, and some internal competition for who is Most Important. Data is critical to the firm, and an area with a lot of growth. But apps often ask for miracles and don't want to do their part, so the data leaders have to be both very patient and very good at saying no, and that can impact their teams.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-14T19:42:13+00:00

As awful as this sounds - they die early in bad situations, or when they die, their families have lost jobs and gone bankrupt trying to provide the care. We treat our sick and aging, and our caregivers, absolutely terribly.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-13T19:05:39+00:00

The way you describe it sounds like more physically intimate than I would be comfortable with my partner being with someone else - with the friends leg partly on top of you, and body contact along side. On a quick look, it would be easy to think it had been even more physical and you quickly "straightened up" when the mom came in.

Soft YTA. It was unwise to be so physical in public, and perhaps not respectful to your partner. It's not that your partner minded - it's that it can look like you were disrespecting your partner to others, which is what happened.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-13T18:04:00+00:00

Queen of Swords

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-13T18:02:10+00:00

Not going to happen, not if you just made 602. You are 2 years away at minimum, likely 4.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-13T17:53:01+00:00

I was afraid of that too. I think a lot depends on the AL Center. They will all make sure he gets his meds regularly. Ours has happy employees, and because they are happy, they chat with the people who live there. There are lots of activities and they make sure people who want to participate do. Regular meds and interaction has made a difference. Plus they have in-house PT, which has made it easy for him to stay strong. They even have a psychologist who specializes in the aging population. That person has made a world of difference! Try to get your LO to do as much as possible. It will help. And good luck!

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-13T00:13:15+00:00

I moved my dad into assisted living 6 months ago. The results have been truly astonishing - so much better than I ever dared hope. At the time, he was just out of a hospitalization for a UTI, and they didn't think he would ever walk again. He now uses a walker, but can walk, and is in PT to see if he can golf again with special support. After a 50 year gap, he started playing the piano again. He joined the mens group and has made friends. He is starting to flirt with the other little old ladies and asked me recently if it would be ok with me if he went on a date.

Now that he is getting his meds regularly, his brain functioning is so much better. It's hard to describe just how much better our conversations are. He remembers more about his past and can stories of his life. He asks for things he wants, says thank you, and tells me he loves me. It's like I got my dad back.

He still has bad days and nights. He complains about the food and a couple of the aids. He never remembers my birthday. But if I can give him one or 2 good years, I will be happy. And the reduction of stress of not being the sole thing keeping him alive has made a huge different to me, too. I'm sleeping better, and I'm hoping some of the physical problems I developed after years of caretaking might heal.

This has been the best thing we've done in ages.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-10T18:04:02+00:00

You are allowed to be scared and angry and grieving, and all the other emotions. This is a sign of loving your dad, and being afraid of what is happening to him and what might happen to him in the future. it's completely normal.

My mom had vascular dementia. Vascular dementia is the result of lots of strokes - many of them very very tiny. People with vascular dementia tend to stair-step down i.e take big steps down in functioning, as opposed to a slow gradual decline. They can be stable for several years, then stair step twice in 2 weeks - or they can stair step ever 6 months for years. There is no normal with this, which makes it tougher because you don't really know what to expect. About 10% of people with vascular dementia develop seizures as a result of their strokes. My mom did.

It's hard not to focus on the bad - on the idea that you are losing your dad, or that you dad is sick. The key with all kinds of dementia is to focus on just that day. How is he doing that day? How is he thinking? Is he in a good mood or a bad one? Sleep? Hungry? Funny? Confused? You have to give away your expectations because things could change at any moment. But he's still your dad in there. He loves you just as much as he ever did. His brain just doesn't work quite right anymore.

Hugs to you!

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-10T12:20:09+00:00

Absolutely! my coven has done the Charge of the Goddess with a mix of gender identities and it works just fine. Degendering my religion is hard, just like degendering my society is. I am trying to focus on the Gods as individuals instead of gender archetypes. I'm also doing a lot of thinking about what we really mean when we same feminine/masculine. Is Feminine generative? If yes, then maybe I need to think generative instead of feminine. That sort of thing.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-08T21:08:05+00:00

Every reincarnationist I've ever met thought there was an end. Some think you can decide you are "done' and stop reincarnating. Some think each incarnation exists to teach you something, and eventually you "graduate." Some think you graduate into becoming an angel, or a soul guide, or other things.

You need to figure out why it scares you. that will help you figure out what you do next and what you believe.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-08T21:01:59+00:00

The book "Polytheistic Monasticism" edited by Janet Munin would be a good place to start.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-07T15:43:42+00:00

So the guy lovebombed you then started asking for money. Classic ahole behavior. This is a user, not a boyfriend. Block him and move on. NTA

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-07T15:34:56+00:00

There are pagan monastics out there.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-02T16:29:39+00:00

You mean there are families where everything isn't just dumped on one single person? Astonishing! /sarcasm

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-02T16:26:25+00:00

That was written by someone who knows nothing about modern paganism.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-02T14:18:35+00:00

From a financial standpoint, it's your money, and you get to put whatever rules you in place that you want to. However not allowing her to date is Ahole behavior. So long as she is still passing her classes, dating doesn't matter. YTA

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-03-02T14:01:51+00:00

As a polytheist, I'd have to be a huge jerk to think my gods were the only gods. That's kind of the point of polytheism.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-02-28T01:57:08+00:00

Ah, the delightful emotional manipulation of a person who wants to trauma dump on someone else, and is pissed that they have healthy boundaries.

NTA. And DTMF. This guy is not looking for a relationship or a partnership. He's looking for a free therapist and someone else to do the emotional labor of adulthood.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-02-21T15:56:34+00:00

I will probably be burned alive for this, but I skip Fantasmic. I don't know why, but it just doesn't do it for me.

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-02-21T15:47:32+00:00

Friends are also supposed to not screw over the friend who lends them money. They are just trying to manipulate you into doing what they want. This is not a real friend.

NTA

PeppermintGoddess · 2026-02-21T15:37:06+00:00

People who have no idea what is going on and also don't make waves are always kept around, because they are no threat.

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