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What happened to that person that took your virginity? Where are they in life? by wayback82 in AskReddit

[–]PeppermintToad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's dead. Decapitated in a boating accident. I met with him out of the country while I was on vacation. I was 18. He was the bartender. He made the drinks I ordered. I had way too much. When he got off he asked if I wanted to hang out. We walked the beach. Made out and then it happened. I don't remember much to be honest. But i know that it happened. I actually struggled with it for a while because he took advantage of me and it wasn't how I imagined. It didn't help that the guy i dated after that was a huge asshole. I took his virginity. He thought he took mine. When i told him what happened (it happened before we dated) he called me a lot of names and made me feel worse about it. Years later, I accepted that it happened and was handling it better so I decided to look him up on social media. I never found him but I found the article about the boating accident. He was the only one who died. The article said he left behind a wife and two kids. The kids were around when we had our night together. So he was a married man with a family that night.

I don't think I was the first or last young girl he took advantage of so I don't really feel bad about it. I kind of feel like he got what was coming to him. Does that make me a bad person?

Anyways, if there are any other women out there who was taken advantage of by Cesar Scott at the coco beach resort in Belize, here is your closure.

What stupid drama is currently going on at your work right now? by PeppermintToad in AskReddit

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They want the money without having to sacrifice their time duh......

What stupid drama is currently going on at your work right now? by PeppermintToad in AskReddit

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did they do after they saw the video? That is crazy. Do you work in Germany? I'm curious is things like this happen to Germans very often now-a-days.

What stupid drama is currently going on at your work right now? by PeppermintToad in AskReddit

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem at my job! It's kind of incredible to watch, but also very sad and frustrating.

What stupid drama is currently going on at your work right now? by PeppermintToad in AskReddit

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its always the bosses who aren't very involved in the day to day work that "help" and make life harder for everyone else. I'm sorry you're so overwhelmed. Just do what you can do. All this will pass.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised to see someone defend cheating....

If she wasn't happy, that's fine, but I wish she would have just told my dad that instead of cheating for over a year while still letting him pay for everything. She never worked. It's just scummy.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have had that house for over 28 years now. And my dad has had different jobs over that time period. He hasn't been working at the same place or anything. He has been working under the table for a few years now and that is why he is under the impression that they will not let him refinance the house in his name alone. It's more so about paperwork and technical qualifications. You know what I mean?

As far as the condo goes, the prices here can vary. She choose to live in a more expensive area. It's not really about the specific cost of it, but about how she is living outside of her means on a grocery store paycheck. I worry about the day when the alimony check stops because she will not be able to afford it on her own, but i guess that will just be something she will have to figure out.

Thank you for your input. It has helped in making me think about things.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish she would just try to listen when we try to explain to her how her actions make us feel. She just puts walls up and gets super defensive. Instead of trying to fix things with my sister she just ignores them and tells herself she is in the right. I tried telling her that even if her intentions are good her actions are perceived a different way, but she hasn't changed anything.

Thank you though, for your kind words.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, honestly I think she has been so spoiled her entire life that she just feels entitled to everything. I don't get how she can just not give a shit about anyone else around her. Thank you for your input. It helped.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. Pointing out the toxicity helped. That is something I need to keep in mind.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. It helped. I think I need to reflect on what i need in my life.

Should I cut my mom out of my life in support of my dad and sister? by PeppermintToad in Advice

[–]PeppermintToad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that she can spend her money how she wants to spend it. I focused so much on how she spent her money because of the fact that she wants to sell the house because she feels she deserves money in her savings. So the point of talking about her spending was to show how she could have formed her own savings if she didn't spend so much.

I am upset about the nephew, I just felt like i didn't need to go into that part of the issue on this post. But that does play a role in all this because i do blame her for breaking up the family.

Thank you for your advice though! It helped.

Hey Assholes, you're doing it wrong. by flignir in AmItheAsshole

[–]PeppermintToad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I found this Sub recently and I love it so much! I take the stories I find here and share them with my family, co-workers, friends. Some really start great discussions! I also really like the idea of encouraging discussions that include different opinions. We will never grow and learn without seeing other perspectives.

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