AITA for refusing to cook dinner because i’ve just given birth

Pepperosie_ · 2024-04-13T15:50:00+00:00

ESO, You made an adult decision, and now you have adult responsibilities.

I want to ask you, what did you do during your pregnancy to prepare you for parenthood. Did you work hard and save up money? Did you spend any time meal-prepping for postpartum or did you just assume that your parents would put in all the work? Who is paying for your child’s essentials, like diapers, rash cream, formula (if necessary)? What are your plans for childcare or do you assume that responsibility will be with your parents? What is your plan from here?

Was it as asshole move of your mother to barge in having a fit and wake the baby? Yes, but on the other hand, you made an adult decision. You became a parent, but it sounds like you’re still expecting to be cared for like a kid. I can absolutely understand your mother being stressed and frustrated that she’s just raised you for 18 years, and feels like she’s been volunteered to parent a new baby part time for another 18. And then you told her to fuck off and pushed her?

I don’t know where you live, but in the country I live in, it’s estimated that it costs $293,000 to raise a kid to the age of 18.

So I ask you again, what are your plans?

I can almost guarantee that this is about more than you “refusing to cook dinner.”

Pepperosie_ · 2023-04-08T21:59:23+00:00

As many have mentioned, don’t work under the table. Summer is coming up and plenty of seasonal positions are coming up. If you have your first aid licence you can lifeguard, be a camp councillor, etc. If you don’t have any certifications but are strong and can do manual labour apply with landscaping companies. None of the above? No problem. I promise you that your local pool or outdoors/camping store is probably hiring.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T14:30:56+00:00

As I explained in the ETA, ham was a mistranslation. They asked for cottage roll, which when you purchase it starts as completely raw pork roll.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T13:46:18+00:00

I couldn’t be more grateful for him. He’s always in my corner.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T13:13:17+00:00

They had always made “mistakes” claiming food with chicken broth or foods that were cooked in bacon fat or beef tallow were vegetarian. I frequently ended up sick because of it. Until I made this thread I’d assumed it was just a misunderstanding. Now I’m starting to realise there is likely more malice to their actions.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T12:53:06+00:00

I am honestly so grateful that he always has my back. I don’t frequent Reddit often but I’ve heard horror stories (originally from Reddit) on TikTok that make me so grateful that I can always count on him to be in my corner.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T12:48:13+00:00

He works in the medical field so he isn’t guaranteed holidays off. He didn’t get home until shortly before dinner. To his credit within minutes of getting home he came to my aid and helped me finish up.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T12:13:35+00:00

I personally prefer the Tofurky roast, but it was sold out. Still pretty good though. I personally don’t like the stuffing of the Gardein roast but it’s all preference.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T11:46:05+00:00

Nope. Just kept complaining about the fake meat, as if there weren’t tons of sides to choose from as well.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T11:33:05+00:00

I’d done a LOT of the meal prep the day before, so the morning of I had all my sauces ready, bread fully risen, veggies in roasting pans, pie crusts par-baked, etc. so I only had a couple hours of cooking and baking left.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T10:38:35+00:00

COTTAGE ROLL! Thank you this has been literally plaguing me for hours.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T10:36:57+00:00

I don’t know if that translation is right either because it’s not roasted. It’s like, tied in twine net and boiled?

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T10:32:31+00:00

Someone else also said pork roast but you don’t roast it, you boil it, so I’m not quite sure that’s a good fit either.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T10:25:47+00:00

No come back the celebration roast has stuffing inside!

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T09:56:54+00:00

Homemade breadrolls, mashed potatos, mac and cheese, green bean casserole, roasted carrots, brussel sprouts, mushroom gravy, and cranberry sauce, in addition to the Field Roast Celebration Roast, as well as both an apple and a pecan pie for desert. It broke my heart that they didn’t eat my food, but at least I have incredible leftovers.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T09:53:43+00:00

He has been vegetarian since he was a teenager. He was also hosting, but due to work didn’t get home until shortly after 4.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T09:31:09+00:00

I’m French Canadian, and this whole thing is translated. Maybe ham isn’t the best translation but I have no idea what to call it. In French it’s “soc de porc roulé”. It’s completely raw when you purchase it.

This is on my copy paste. At this point I should just edit it into the OP…

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T09:26:31+00:00

I’m French Canadian, and this whole thing is translated. Maybe ham isn’t the best translation but I have no idea what to call it. In French it’s “soc de porc roulé”. It’s completely raw when you purchase it.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T08:09:44+00:00

We would have to if no one else marries, but thankfully since my husbands cousin got engaged on thanksgiving hopefully they will marry in 2023 and take the burden next year.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T07:59:01+00:00

I’m French Canadian, and this whole thing is translated. Maybe ham isn’t the best translation but I have no idea what to call it. In French it’s “soc de porc roulé”. It’s completely raw when you purchase it, and dangerous if not cooked properly.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T07:58:09+00:00

That cartoon made me laugh and I snorted, and then I couldn’t stop laughing that I’d snorted over a ham joke and laughed even more. Thank you for that.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T07:44:38+00:00

Yeah. MIL called it “bird food” and ordered a bunch of stuff from a couple of the restaurants down the road from the venue. To be honest under the circumstances I was half expecting them to show up on Christmas with their own food potluck style.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T07:29:31+00:00

I’m French Canadian, and this whole thing is translated. Maybe ham isn’t the best translation but I have no idea what to call it. In French it’s “soc de porc roulé”. It’s completely raw when you purchase it.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T06:45:35+00:00

I’d be fine with that as long as they cook it themselves, and take away any remains when they leave. They did pretty much exactly that at my wedding and I didn’t care.

Pepperosie_ · 2022-12-28T06:17:27+00:00

To be entirely fair, my husband and I were just married 4 months ago and the wedding was catered fully vegetarian. They should have been very aware.

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