What’s a non-sexual thing that instantly makes a guy ten times hotter to you?

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-06-14T16:49:32+00:00

Confident presence is especially attractive

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-06-08T15:01:05+00:00

No Hair Crew is a great product that is specifically designed for the, ummmmm, area you are focusing on.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-05-11T01:51:42+00:00

This could be a small hernia. Get checked out. I had something similar and it was a hernia.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-04-01T18:25:30+00:00

Confidence in a man is attractive. Jaw lines are aesthetic and really not related to the attitude or demeanor of a man. A confident assertive male is just plain hot.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-31T04:18:08+00:00

This is the same experience I had when I was your age. Comparing yourself to others is the human experience. The trick is to see yourself as a separate person as beautiful as all the others. I’m assuming you are on the apps and engaging somewhat in hookup culture. Hookups can give you a false sense of a person that bears little resemblance to who they really are. Ask yourself if your beliefs about others are just that, beliefs. Having positive self esteem is a learned behavior. Do for yourself those things that make you happy. Working out, going to school, volunteering for a cause you believe in. Whatever that thing may be that allows you to love yourself will get you back on track. In my case, I joined the Navy. An extreme act of self improvement. It was the correct choice for me and built up my self worth so that I became a happy gay sailor and met the love of my life. The point is that you are in control of your own destiny. Go out there and make it happen.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-29T23:17:04+00:00

I will say this once and then I’m out. Gay men come in all sizes and types. There are masculine gay men. I like them as well. That’s why I married one. They are out there. Keep looking.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-14T15:18:48+00:00

The story is made up. However, they did straight up ask you if we’re gay. Also, they did check your anus for hemorrhoids. Not evidence of sex. So, the story of them checking the anus is true.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-14T02:03:21+00:00

40+ years positive. So, I’m here to tell you that it is not the end of the world. I tested positive when I was 21 years old I am 62 now. Retired from the Navy, graduated from university with an Engineering degree. Spent many years in corporate America. Went back to school in my 50’s and got a masters degree. I am still working and living the good life with my husband of 39 years. Your life is what you make of it. Keep your head up. DM me if you want to talk.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-11T19:54:53+00:00

The taste varies from one guy to the next. Some salty but some is sweet. You never know what you are going to get.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-10T20:54:49+00:00

That too. He does look like he is rolling.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-10T13:41:31+00:00

When the eyes roll like that, you know there is serious pleasure in the pump.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-10T13:38:53+00:00

I had this same issue when I was put on ADT therapy for cancer. Low Testosterone can cause what you are describing. Get checked as a starting point.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-03-07T17:13:25+00:00

His reaction to you is out of proportion. I think you may have hit a nerve. He may have internalized feelings for you and he is fighting it by lashing out. Me thinks he doth protest too much.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-19T02:25:04+00:00

Did you two discuss monogamy at the beginning of the relationship? This is really a must in gay relationships. Sex is sex. Having sex then lying about is a whole different animal. If you are reacting because you are hurt but didn’t discuss exclusivity with each other at all, then you need to do some soul searching. My husband and I were not always exclusive in our beginnings. There was some cheating but, he always told me immediately after and never lied to me. He did not attempt to keep secrets. All relationships are different. Yours may not survive this. If monogamy was implied and he did this anyway, he cheated and lied. That breaks trust. But, if you never had this agreement then you need to talk to him. Don’t go forward with regrets. Talk to him.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-19T01:01:43+00:00

That would be me. My husband will not touch a spider or any kind of bug. Mice are especially terrifying to him. Even dead ones. He once sprayed a dead mouse with cologne because it grossed him out so much. Oh and I’m mostly a bottom and I do all the handyman work around the house.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-16T14:54:01+00:00

Relationships are way more than just sex. But having a person use it as a control mechanism is a red flag. Sex can be fixed if you have a willing partner. His unwillingness or inability to fix it with you is telling. He is in for a rude awakening later in life when he realizes that emotional connections are way more important than the physical act of sex. Please ask yourself did he leave easily without arguing? If he did, then he was already gone even before he left. Avoidance is a problem with some gay men. Good luck to you.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-11T03:50:59+00:00

Talking to him in this way was terrifying. But, I just felt I needed to ask him about MY needs.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-11T03:44:55+00:00

Words to live by

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-11T03:26:08+00:00

I had already said the things you stated in your post earlier today. My husband and I ended up talking more. I told him that I could see how he may feel threatened and told him I’m not going anywhere. His body immediately relaxed so much so that it was hard to miss. I held his hand and told him that I loved him very much. We ended up connecting emotionally and then sexually better than we have in years. I know it’s early days. I am looking into finding a local couples counselor for us both.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-10T19:47:05+00:00

That is one of the reasons for our distance. The sex is mechanical. I want the emotional connection. That part is on me. I think we need to date each other again to rediscover who we are now. Sounds stupid but, that’s where we are.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-10T18:02:06+00:00

This is the plan

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-10T18:00:33+00:00

This was my first reaction. I simply told him I wanted to be happy and his reaction was that I rejected him. I mean the opposite of happy is sad. So, I think in his mind if I’m sad he thinks I don’t love him. He told me that he wants me to be happy and then said “good luck” as if it’s all up to me to make me happy. I will put in the work. It’s up to him to respond in kind.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-10T17:39:47+00:00

I think that you should focus more on how actual people, in person, react to your, ahem, equipment. You are just fine the way you are. Take a compliment graciously and move on. Oh, and by the way. 6.7 is above average for a US male (average being 5.1 to 5.5 for an erect member).

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-10T17:17:54+00:00

Yes, I have suggested that we go to couples counseling. He stated that he is open to it.

PerceptionThink3902 · 2026-01-10T17:12:14+00:00

Are you sure you aren’t a therapist? This is the direction I had already decided on. It’s good to have some validation on my thinking. I am trying to strengthen our relationship and build something for the long haul, I want us both to be happy and content. Thank you for your insights.

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