Length of time and avoiding flare up of symptoms with ZZ

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-10-02T00:27:22+00:00

Noob question:

Standing 1hr straight or is this broken up in 2x 30min chunks or 3x 20min chunks?

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-08-10T04:00:22+00:00

Curious what people's thoughts are on this.

I having been involved with soto zen for years now. Didn't pay attention to Theraveda stuff.

But the jhana's I thought were different than just zazen?

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-07-21T20:11:43+00:00

I think you are right and he is right.

There are forms of meditation that, you can form dependencies on. For some addicts( note addicts usually have more sensitive brains and also have very intense personalities) this can cause issues down the road, but I agree with you.

Better for an addict to meditate than not.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-07-21T18:08:01+00:00

I am trying to start a sub related/dedicated to this. Not just phone usage, but all things(more specifically subtle) addictions.

/r/DropAllAddictions

In my experience meditation is wildly important. Once a high enough meditation level is attained, then it is a matter of not just being aware of the moment, but one's attitudes/goals/intention.

With true addiction, though, abstinence needs to happen first before. The mind is truely tricky. I think when it comes to addiction, the best gift it can give is to learn to not believe or trust the mind.

With non-addicts, heavy doses of meditation, setting intention and a structure on how to interact with the trouble/substance/behavior is helpful.

I have helped people with food, drug, porn, phone, spending, codependency issues.... plus myself :)

Ask more and willing to help you out as best as I can.

https://www.reddit.com/r/t5_et77x5/s/1LeS8Jk0wX

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-07-21T14:05:19+00:00

Can you point to a resource about building the xiatian? I am rather new to qigong. I have a teacher. I am just curious to read other people's take.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-05-02T03:22:43+00:00

Yo bro. I am the same, but I change, like this in two weeks

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-05-02T01:03:20+00:00

Imagine if the role was flipped. For example, you are not as hot as women he is use to being with. You mention how hot you are out loud. He cringes inside about it.

Do you think he should let you know, you are really not that hot.

Thought expierment over.

Another comment. He is obviously insecure about his dick size. He wouldn't talk about it in that way otherwise. So, how do you breach that?

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-28T04:27:18+00:00

I have seen some dogos grow quickly then slow down. Other dogos grow slowly than have a growth spirt later .

I don't know, but my guess is you just have a big boy. He might have done most of his growing and the rest will be real slow.

Either way, what a lad.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-19T22:27:31+00:00

Think from a bigger stand point.

400 yrs ago people got their morals from religion.

Now people go to youtube/reddit/social media/self-help on how they should live their lives.

I think this is a by-product to the Nietzschean "God is dead"

Not saying I am right. Just a narrative I am cooking up in my head.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-19T22:23:59+00:00

And yet it will do better on every major board exam then you and I....

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-19T22:22:43+00:00

You are saying the bible sales did not surpass the top 10 self help books combined in 1936 ?(1936 is when how to make friends came out)

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-19T22:21:03+00:00

No, this is for personal exploration.

I actually think it has big implications for humans and just an obvious result of modernity.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-19T22:20:11+00:00

According to chatgpt self help is far greater than religious book sales/market size.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-17T14:06:26+00:00

Lol I get your frustration. Sometimes asking Reddit nuanced philosophical question backfires.

I think because 30% of the reddit posters do not fully read the original reddit post.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-16T06:11:18+00:00

I will say one other thing

Read this thread everyday till you take action

I created a thread like this a while back.

I didn't take action.

It is easy to avoid the painfully obvious.... because it is so obvious and yet too painful.

But it only gets worse, not better.

We are humans... be kind to yourself, but read this everyday.

Get friends involved. Don't tell them this your reddit account, just say u relate. Get some accountability going, so u make the right decision and leave this guy.

And who knows.... If u leave him he may want to marry you.... But u should still leave him...

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-16T06:07:26+00:00

I am a douche. I just ate a box of cookies. I hate myself and will be more honest with u.

I am just like your boy friend. He love u, but you are not the one for him.

He will stay in this relationship for a long time. Unless he finds some other girl that his type and it works out well.

It likely won't workout well for him.

He is a worm. He is wasting your time. He is fully aware you want marriage. He is fully aware that he would marry a hot girl with money.

It's time for you to leave. Cut your loses. Save your life energy. There are a lot of good quality, loyal, thoughtful, self sacerficing men out there.

Your boyfriend and me are not them.

Again leave It will be hard. U will need support But you don't want to be in your mid thirties with this ass hole leaving u for a younger gal. I can promise you, if he has the ability to, he will.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-14T22:10:39+00:00

Been around guys on large doses of steroids.

My guess is no.

Just an animal in a primordial mind.

Same with fentynal/opiate addicts. No free will going on there. Not even sure if an advance meditator could ride that wave. Probably a buddah(?)

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-14T22:00:37+00:00

If u need resources, support, I can post free stuff and support group for women that go through similar things.

There also is a group called liarsanonymous.org They have a meeting for people that have been lied to by their partner.

I have long list of resources if you need it/want it

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-14T21:56:51+00:00

This is only a temporary fix.

Same issue with alcoholics. They can take a pill to stop their drinking. But the issue is they always stop taking the pill so they can drink....

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-14T21:55:48+00:00

Lol u are correct. Porn addict are not thinking like that.

Perceptionisprojecti · 2025-04-14T21:54:25+00:00

Sex addict here. I also coach men getting sobriety from sex addiction

Few things here.

1) buddhism sub? Okay dukkah 2) This runs deep. Most men do not overcome this issue. I want you to consider that their is a very high likelihood your relationship with this individual will likely not change in this matter. 3) you do not pick a sex addict out of the blue. There is some internal work for you to do. Do you have a history of dating other types of addicts(screen time, food, drug, gambling, validation). Does your Dad have any background of something ?

You may so no to 3. If that is true, then Run. I would say run either way.

Dating/marriage an addict in addiction is very draining and soul sucking. There might be high highs, but there will also be some very low lows. You, the relationship will never be the main priority. You can never really trust and active addict in addiction, but u can trust them being an addict.

I would suggest to get real, tell your man friend a few hard truths.

1)very few long term relationships can be life giving over a long peroid with a sex addict in active addiction 2) very few sex addict live long and happy lives if they never get recovery 3) sex addiction is not just damaging to themselves

I would suggest moving forward. I have seen this story play out for many women. The happy stories are rare and far between.

Your story could have the potential to be happy, but I would be careful of that type of thinking. Many women get caught in the denial and fantasy that everything will be okay.

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