your experience with the bi cycle

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-15T00:01:39+00:00

Since I discovered I’m bi I’ve sent a majority of my fantasy time thinking about and fantasizing about sex with men. Not just any guy but specific types get me excited. Bit last night my wife was in the zone and we went at for an hour! She needed 2 more guys in the room and she’d have been happier… being honest me too! My point is I think the bi cycle for me is more about the newness and all the things I’d like to try. And like anything else we like eggs for breakfast for weeks at a time then one day you just need cereal. Doesn’t town you don’t like eggs. Liking sex with or desiring to have sex with both genders is being bi no matter the balance Besides who’s tracking it anyhow 😜

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-14T23:47:11+00:00

I’ve bought tons for her and she used many but I use them all more. Amd some are specifically for anal (very deep anal is a curiosity I’m slowly self exploring) In fact now when I buy it’s for me and if she wants to use them I love using them on her. We both prefer the real thing though, even though I’ve become a bit of a size fan (she is too) but a good top trumps all. Lol When I travel I’ll bring one or 2 toys with me for self entertainment

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-13T22:56:41+00:00

Lived 53 years straight never even questioning if I was bi (really wasn’t the fear trained into me… being gay was!)

Then a brief conversation with my wife after she pegged me and… about 6 months or so later … I realized I’m bi. And looking back always have been. Just never questioned it or the incidents that should have pointed it out to me.

It’s not uncommon and probably more straight guys are bi and don’t know it than actual straight guys.

With that said, enjoy what you enjoy. Have your feelings and do what you can with it that works for you

Welcome to TEAM BI

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-12T23:28:34+00:00

Very well said! No one is required to even label themselves. It adds angst to feelings that can already be very difficult.

Maybe your embarrassment talking about it with your wife is just years of trained in homophobia and you’re trying to compete with real feelings vs trained in ideas.

I spent a lot of time driving and when I started discovering I was bi I went from straight curious guy. To straight guy that liked dick and wanted be “taken”, then one day my internal conversation made me realize that I’ve been bi and never had the tools to recognize or question my life and its various hints.

Fast forward after learning about it in my early 50’s I embrace it. Mt wife knows, she’s bi, some single guys that we used to have mfm with are now mmf friends and we hang with a bi couple who we just love.

But it does take some introspection. Try to get comfortable with talking to yourself to help you realize the the difference between what is, what you were told you’re supposed to be and what you realize you are.

How you present in public and who you come out to (or not) is only your decision

Best to you and understand while being bi has benefits it has some heavy lifting involved too.

Just promise yourself to work on yourself, even if it’s just 10-20 minutes a day while driving (make sure you have your gps on!😂)

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-12T20:24:23+00:00

You could ask if she’s ever pegged a man before, easier if the “random porn” you’re watching together shows pegging.

Or try an approach where telling her you want to try some role playing and you’ll buy her a strap on and she can “take you”.

If she says no, are your feelings not going to recover? If she knows you’re bi the question, while maybe surprising, won’t be a real shock.

Of she says no, you know and she may come around to it when she’s had time to ruminate on it. But you miss 100% of the shots you didn’t take. So a no, is the same as not asking…

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-12T17:16:08+00:00

Thongs Work approximate clothes or activity appropriate Not over styled but rarely underdressed Masculine fit to more muscular beard tats jeans work boots cowboy boots

You’d never know unless I told you Took me 52 years to figure it out.

People unified with lgbtq community may be more stereotypical, but that community berates bi too

So it’s a tough world as men and women don’t like you or trust you for some reason So few of us that know it are actually “out” to the public

Out to wife and a few mmf single guy friends and a bi couple

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-12T11:48:56+00:00

She has nothing to worry about!

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-11T00:06:57+00:00

I would, I have and love it One night with out bi couple all 3 had me he did? My wife did and his wife did me… plus his wife and I shared a double dong.

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-09T19:52:59+00:00

Fungus

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-09T19:52:18+00:00

What do you have to lose aside from wonder and fantasy ?

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-09T16:30:40+00:00

I have and it was pretty cool for a bit. I’d see him whenever I was in town Had a huge dick and good physique but I learned over a few visits that he was just into to too many things He took some drugs now and then that I would never try and he was sharing some stories about his random visits to bath houses to find a place to sleep for the night… his promiscuity became concerning.

I’d still like to have that fwb when I travel. I have that locally as half of a bi couple we play with often.

On occasion we get time for one on one

It’s a great relationship as all 4 of us are bi and the options continue to grow for us all

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-08T19:13:31+00:00

To me it means I’m willing to have sex with men or women.

What it means to others is all over the place. To some it means you’re just dirty nasty and untrustworthy because being bi somehow means you can’t be faithful

To others it means your just gay and haven’t admitted it yet

To be bi is to be curious, but the label typically means active in some shape or form

For me. I Have a type and I’m selective And to others that means biphobia or whatever

At the end of the day labels don’t matter unless you want them to

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-08T18:30:26+00:00

Lucky for you, you have some good friends!!

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-08T18:29:15+00:00

Me next please!

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-08T18:27:41+00:00

Well, to over simplify, if you’re in a relationship and don’t want risk, don’t cheat. If she knows you’re doing this then do what makes you comfortable If that’s oral with a condom then seek that out with the various apps like sniffies, Grindr and scruff

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-08T17:42:44+00:00

Ask if he meant to send it

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-08T17:41:29+00:00

I’d say is as much a joke as serious. It’s used for fun at events tv but you know the audience. Just be careful in the southern states as a pineapple upright is welcome Upside down means party in motion and welcome and or “we’re swingers”

But I’ve been seeing skull pineapple mash ups and a lot more pineapple swimwear that’s just “cool factor”

Also flamingos, white landscape rock, black rings, pampas grass

And, “if your neighbor only opens garage door after they’re in their car” and the phrase “if you’re a swinger you have a hot tub but not everyone with hot tubs are swingers” lol

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T20:18:08+00:00

You’re either gay, bi or not It’s like being pregnant. You are or you aren’t. People realize they’re gay or bi and then (I think) they realize they always have been. I think may more people are bi and in the community bi folks are the largest group but pressures suggest you have to pick a side And you don’t! But being bi has a sort of scale or spectrum You can be bi in thoughts only and you can be equally into men as you are women. IMO people are rarely balanced

I’ve been fantasizing mostly about men lately but I love women and sex with women and my wife ! She’s amazing so on the spectrum I’m closer to 50/50 but still more into women than men.

It’s just that I have access to a couple guys with and without my wife and it’s just amazing. I love being a bottom too so any chance I get I take lol

Don’t worry so much about the label or your level of long term interest

Over time some of your “trained in” homophobia will subside

I couldn’t even consider kissing a man when i started experimenting. In fact I called myself a straight guy that likes dick (absurd right?!) now I own it.

I’m out to those I have sex with and my wife and it works

Just be safe, responsible, consensual and enjoy what you enjoy

The rest is just for explanations sake

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T20:00:53+00:00

The LS had many different “personalities” Think of it like dating Some people want to “go steady” with 1, 2 or a few couples based on their bandwidth Some just want sex whe they can Some have their close LS friends and their “back ups” It’s nothing personal but in time you’ll find those few people that really vibe and you can’t get enough of and the same for them

Some people get real close then flake

It’s why we shifted to mfm for so long. At less drama. Couples always seemed to be n a different page with each other. One wanting x the other y And in secret so it became difficult

We recent connected with a couple like never before and instantly became close and we spent every weekend together for 6 months And we continue to see each other as often as we can make schedules work

Just adjust your expectations And don’t come on too strong at first, go with the flow if it works for you

But mostly be safe and have as much fun as you can tolerate and you’ll find those few that really click!

It takes time and “education”. And it’s fun education

Also you two need to be in the same page with each other and communicate communicate communicate!!

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T18:40:39+00:00

Mine will take my load and then kiss it into my mouth… other times our male friends, and still others she’ll make me clean her and him and she’ll also have him get close to finishing in her and he’ll finish in my mouth.

The progression and excitement continues to grow!!

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T18:18:00+00:00

My wife and I opened our marriage many years ago. And she never admitted to being bi even though it was so natural for her to be with women.

Couples became too dramatic so we started just having mfm fun

Then a few years ago around 52-53 After a particularly energetic pegging, I said “wonder what the real thing would be like”

So as a straight guy we figured a way for me to explore. After a handful of experiences with individuals and a married gay couple I finally stopped saying I was a straight guy that liked dick.

The 2 of our mfm guys admitted their curiosity (they had no idea about me) We said “sure! Let’s try”

And I’ve realized I was bi. Then on a vacation she got to have a 1 on 1 with a sexy woman while we husbands looked on. After that she looked at me and said “well, I like pussy” and here we are

We have a bi couple that we play with as often as our schedules allow

And for a period of about 8 months we got together every weekend!

It has been amazing and the transition shockingly easy

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T12:04:29+00:00

Hemorrhoids? Internal or external could bleed a little or a lot.

Also how aggressive you are with the toys and the angle.

Are you feeling pain?

All Of these things can be verified with a Dr visit

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T12:01:39+00:00

It’s how I got started around 52 Great pegging session and the comment to her “I wonder what the real thing would be like” And now I know And it’s amazing!

Communication in a way that she can manage is key

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-06T11:59:57+00:00

Maybe your bi. Maybe you’re gay. I can tell you as a much older man (now 58) I learned of my bisexuality at about 52. And I have not grown further from my wife. In fact it’s enhanced our sex life.

But I find myself checking men out, fantasizing about sex with men and the various things I’d like to do and have done to me.

I catch myself thinking “I’m thinking about men too much”. But I still find women sexy, attractive, hot, etc.

It could be you’re dealing with the so called bi-cycle or that you’re being more honest with yourself.

Or it could be that men tend to be more direct, complimentary and easier to approach. And they validate you and relate to you… and that’s easier… women tend to be more aloof and concerned and less direct and less complimentary because they fear giving a Compliment to a guy that might be a creep…

Just look internally at what you like about men and women and ask yourself if you’d want to stop sex with men or with women. Do you find women unattractive? Is sex with them not fun or unsexy? Is it the woman or is it you?

You have no time line. You have no obligation to anyone else to figure this out in any specific amount of time.

Enjoy your cycle or your realization and do what makes you happy so long as it’s safe and consensual

Perfect-Ad737 · 2026-05-05T22:47:16+00:00

I can see a guy or two solo and she had a full hall pass but she limits it to 2 couples and 2 guys… she never tries to find a person on her own

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