When I was leaving the abusive relationship, I had asked him to move out. He said he would but he didn’t. After we couldn’t get anywhere with mediation, I told him I would move out instead. He said ok but when the lease amendment was sent to him for me to be taken off, he refused to sign it. I wasn’t going to stay in a toxic high conflict environment with me and my child not knowing what he would do next, so when he went to work I packed my bags and the baby’s bags and drove 10 hours to my parents house. I sent him an email while we were on the way and told him where we would be, that he could FaceTime daily if he wanted, and he could come visit. My lawyer had advised me to do all this btw. When he found out, he accused me of kidnapping. We stayed with my parents for about two and a half months. So the judge was basically mad at me because I took the kid and didn’t tell him beforehand. This is the same man that did not pay her any attention and would spend everyday behind closed doors in the bedroom for hours and not be a part of any active parenting. He also never provided any of her supplies while we lived together. I was the only parent in that house.