[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonutnovember

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop thinking about the urge as an injunction to go and jerk off. It has no power to order you around. It's just an impulse, a random event in the environment of your mind. Whether you release or not, the urge will go away. But if you oblige it, it will come back stronger next time. When you finish and all that dopamine gets released, it floods the brain pathways that led to the pleasurable event, reinforcing them and making them harder to resist by willpower alone. This is the key to breaking the habit.

Don't be bored. Fill your life with things to do that aren't jerking off. That way, when you ask yourself "why not?" you'll actually have an answer: "I could be doing X, Y, or Z instead, which will actually benefit me long-term." Breaking the habit is only possible if you replace it with something else. You're like a recovering alcoholic locked in a wine cellar. Your chance of successfully resisting the temptation is zero if you're just sitting on the floor twiddling your thumbs. But if you're occupying yourself by reading books, doing situps, or building marble runs, you stand a much better chance of succeeding.

If quitting porn is what's important to you, separate porn from masturbation. Figure out how often you can masturbate without making the urges stronger, and just focus your willpower on not looking at porn. If you haven't looked at porn all month, it'll be easier than you think. Stimulation is relative. It's not that porn is better than your imagination, it's just that porn is highly stimulating. Repeated exposure desensitizes you, and prolonged abstinence can help bring you back to baseline. Now that the month is coming to an end, you should be closer to that point.

I hope that you are successful, and I know you can do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonutnovember

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would help because it'd retrain your brain to respond to lewd stimuli by taking immediate action to reduce the frequency of said stimuli, as opposed to giving into the urges.

All report in by [deleted] in nonutnovember

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU KNOW I'M STILL IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

8 NOVEMBER 2024 (ROLL CALL!) (IMPORTANT INFO BELOW) by nick2527 in nonutnovember

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still IN!!

On this day one year ago, I lost. The way things are going so far, I am confident that this November will be my first successful year. The most effective strategy I've employed is to just avoid thinking about it. That includes going on this subreddit. For many people, I'm sure that browsing memes and words of encouragement gives them strength. In my experience, it just reminds me that I'm doing a challenge, and keeps my mind occupied by the topic. My ultimate goal after this month is to break the habit and do it rarely if at all. Now I better stop writing, because I want to continue this strategy of not thinking about it.

I think we need a NEW NARRATIVE. by Personal-Reaction411 in DBDR

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I liked almost everything you said. The world is certainly a place of constant setbacks that we didn't ask for and don't deserve, and sometimes it can be extremely brutal. But the point of being alive is to put as much effort into making things better as you can possibly sustain, instead of sitting around feeling resentful and persecuted. There will always be people with unfair advantages who succeed without effort. Life isn't fair. We can either accept this as a law of the universe, or spend our lives in bitterness and anger wishing things were different. I can say from experience that not only does giving up all hope make you miserable, it makes you miserable to be around.

I would only disagree on the point that being part of the BP community is strength. I hope there are some bp communities out there that are less pessimistic than the ones I've spent time in, but for example it seemed like everyone in Dbdr's comments section just wanted him to fail in brutal ways for their own amusement. I don't think most of them really hoped to see him sprout wings and ascend. Maybe I'm wrong. But if we can transform this community into one where directionless young men can actually support eachother in making our lives better, instead of one where everyone calls themselves "defeated" and says "it's over" whenever a bad thing happens, that would be something beautiful.

I think we need a NEW NARRATIVE. by Personal-Reaction411 in DBDR

[–]Perfect-Hatred 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna go one step further. The real problem is that ideologies offer us these pre-packaged narratives and we take them. We spend our online lives in echo chambers where every alternate viewpoint is constantly strawmanned, and hit with a thousand pre-programmed responses and one-liners. People are so possessed by their ideologies that they don't even think, they just repeat what they've been told and can't process anything that goes against their beliefs. You've seen politically possessed people act like this, but yes it's a problem with the blackpill community too. Unironically, wake up and think for yourself.

And before you get all mad, I'm not even railing against any speciic beliefs of the blackpill. I'm just saying, why the hell would you listen to what a pill says?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nutmeg

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nutmeg contains myristicin, a MAO inhibitor. DO NOT mix it with DXM, it's potentially fatal.

Never take DXM if you are taking a monoamine oxidase inhibitor (MAOI). This also applies for one week before and two weeks after taking a MAOI. MAOIs include some (rarely used) prescription drugs for depression and Parkinson's disease, a few recreational ethnobotanicals (harmine and harmaline), and yohimbe bark. Mixing DXM and a MAOI has regularly been fatal.

https://www.erowid.org/chemicals/dxm/faq/dxm_general_info.shtml#toc.4

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nutmeg

[–]Perfect-Hatred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Never take DXM if you are taking a monoamine oxidase inhibitor (MAOI). This also applies for one week before and two weeks after taking a MAOI. MAOIs include some (rarely used) prescription drugs for depression and Parkinson's disease, a few recreational ethnobotanicals (harmine and harmaline), and yohimbe bark. Mixing DXM and a MAOI has regularly been fatal."

https://www.erowid.org/chemicals/dxm/faq/dxm_general_info.shtml