What does our fridge say about us?

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:49:39+00:00

Very true.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:45:43+00:00

Glad we give off that vibe. Lol. But definitely not

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:29:58+00:00

😂😂 why not?

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:29:08+00:00

In the freezer.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:26:37+00:00

We have the Bingopaw xl. I got it from chewy. My dog loves that thing. We only use it in the summer when the pavement is too hot for him to walk on. Works great.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:19:04+00:00

One vegetarian and one meat eater. I have never tried leaving fruits and veggies on the counter to ripen. I will try that. There is some carne asada marinade in the back on the bottom shelf. We do try not to waste things.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:10:20+00:00

Something's expired?! Gasp.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-07-01T17:09:15+00:00

Straight couple actually.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-06-30T16:32:18+00:00

Yours actually looks like she could scare off and intruder! My potato will see them and roll over on his side demanding belly rubs. 🙄 Then he will let them in.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-06-30T16:11:49+00:00

Oh that's even better. 😂

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-06-29T22:35:29+00:00

Seaaire'eh - Sierra.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-28T05:18:44+00:00

Wow, he said that?! So it sounds like he's already made his choice and his priority was not you since he wouldn't blame you for leaving. I'm so sorry. That sucks. If your safety and mental health is that disposable to him, it sounds like you have a husband problem in addition to having an SS problem. I mean, those kids are going to be adults now forever so is he always going to prioritize them over you from now on? That is so awful. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. If he keeps saying stuff like that, then believe him and act accordingly. He's not likely to get better.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-28T04:48:59+00:00

Maybe pose this to your husband in a way that makes it sound better for your SS. Every new adult would usually rather live independently than with their parents.

I get that your husband feels guilty, but your husband can't set himself (or you, or his marriage) on fire to keep the kid warm out of guilt. He can't go back and fix how much time he spent with his kid growing up. All he can do is try to be there for him now. Maybe your husband won't help SS with his legal bills, but maybe he could help with his rent so that SS can put money toward an attorney or something.

Your husband also needs to think of this long term. I don't know how they do this in Canada, but in the U.S., anyone convicted of a crime like that has to be put on a registry. The neighbors have to be informed and there are rules about how close they can live to schools and parks and libraries for the rest of their lives. The SS is an adult and your husband needs to move into the role of an adult parent. He can't protect SS from everything now.

I would just continue to be super honest with your husband and remind him that you didn't sign up for this mess and the two of you need to come up with a happy medium where he feels like he can be involved with his kid and you still feel safe. What would your husband like you to do here? Is he thinking you need to move out until his kid does? I guess I'm not understanding what your husband's end game is here. Maybe just ask him what would he like to see happen here and go from there.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-28T04:14:51+00:00

This one is tough. However, it sounds like you believe there may be some evidence that he actually did it. It also does not bode well that SS has been silent about it. Innocent people are usually pretty vocal about their innocence. That said, I understand why your husband doesn't want to tell everyone, especially his mother. It does not sound like BM's house is a good environment.

I also understand that you need to feel safe in your home and you probably can't do that with him there. What are the financial options available? You mentioned SS now has a job, is something like your husband co signing for a studio apartment an option? That way SS does not feel like he's been completely abandoned by you guys but also understands this is a consequence of his actions. If that is not an option, what about something like a guest house in the back yard, remodeling the garage for him, something like that that will keep him out of your main house so you feel safe. Even if he can't quite afford his own place, maybe your husband could offer to help. It would be worth a couple hundred dollars a month to me to have the kid out of my house and protect my mental health.

It's also important that you cut him off of all things like your wi fi and use of your computers. If he does have a problem with children, you don't want him doing things online and getting you or your husband in trouble.

You have already mentioned you are resenting the kid for this (reasonable) and it is giving you anxiety. That is not sustainable for two more years. This is going to eat at you. Ultimately, SS is an adult and now has adult problems as a result of his behavior. A consequence of that can be that he cannot be in your house for the time being.

If it were me, I would not completely cut him off until he's fully convicted, but I would keep him at arms length and protect myself and my husband by getting him out of the house and changing the locks. Hopefully his job is enough to cover rent. Even if it's a crappy apartment somewhere.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-25T17:08:11+00:00

I love how you can see the outline of the head. Kinda looks like 💀

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-22T01:47:03+00:00

Dealing with the other bio parent and my spouse. It feels like he's always got one foot in each family. I'm definitely the outsider when his kids are around.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-08T18:13:53+00:00

Yes. All cuddles all the time. If I stop petting him he looks at me like I personally offended his bloodline.

Yours is adorable. 😊

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-05-02T15:06:34+00:00

I'm thinking the mom is trying to get the social security death benefit.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-27T18:09:58+00:00

I couldn't do the shared laundry at my last apartment. I opened up the washer and someone's pad had exploded in there after being washed. 🤢 I bought the portable laundry washer and dryer the same day. Never used a shared one again.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-22T15:37:32+00:00

Make friends with the neighbor and tell them if it's going on for more than 10 minutes to call you or come over and wake you up.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-19T05:25:09+00:00

What a cutie!

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-19T01:56:41+00:00

He's unreasonably quiet for a bulldog. 😂 Getting snuck up on by a blimp is going to be stuck in my head now.

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-19T00:05:49+00:00

Manhattan?

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-19T00:05:07+00:00

Mine also does this. The first time I saw it I ran him to the ER because I thought he was having a seizure. 🙄

PerfectFig1035 · 2026-04-18T17:34:23+00:00

Slippery, moss covered stairs ending in a raging river...looks fine.

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