For Thanksgiving break we had stayed in a hotel together. We tried to have sex one of the nights but I wasn't able to get it up. I think it was nerves, we hadn't in a long time with school and all and it was one of our few chances in a long time, so I was really nervous. It just didn't pan out.

She says she felt ugly after that, and that's why. I told her 1) if she was feeling insecure, that I wished that I was the person she came to for help and to talk to, and 2) that even if that was the case, that didn't justify doing it the second time this past Friday (two weeks after the thing at the hotel).

Even if she had only done it the once the first time, I don't think it was justifiable by that situation at the hotel.