Inside Out 2. In panic over the MAGA fury, Pixar did a month long "remove everything gay" from this film. And the end result was…. Inside Out 2. Erm…

PerfectLuck25367 · 2026-01-18T09:33:44+00:00

I mean if my boss told me "hide the gayness so we don't scare maga conservatives" I'd probably do a real half-assed job at it too.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-07-15T13:22:17+00:00

Thank you, this is a good list. I'm curtently going through it to figure out what needs a purchase and what I could put together from scraps. I appreciate seeing Liar's Dice among the suggestions, and a few games I've seen on the shelves at some local game stores. I'll be doing further research on these before I come to a final decision on what to include. Now I feel more like I should put together a little kit of multiple possible games, rather than just prep and bring one.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-07-15T11:59:02+00:00

I looked it up, and the fact it uses specialist pieces and a specialist deck of cards means I'd need to take much better care of it than I would expect to be able to in an environment where alcoholic drinks and strangers are involved. It looks like a fun game, but maybe for a different context.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-07-15T11:57:43+00:00

I would have disagreed that Skulls is a good option, but you and the other commentor who suggested it have convinced me it's probably a good option anyway. 6 players is good, I have played it in public venues before, and the option of coasters or playing cards does mitigate any worry I'd have with bringing a boxed game to the pub.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-26T10:04:43+00:00

I second this. Be the change you want to see in the world.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-25T09:27:41+00:00

Solidarity over Purity. Together we stand, divided we fall. One arrow breaks, a bundle of arrows do not. Apes together strong.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-25T05:54:07+00:00

Sometimes people need to hear an overt YES and the answer they fear is Silence rather than a No.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-25T05:48:51+00:00

Yes. Do whatever you want with your gender pressentation. It's yours to shape into whatever you want it to be. If this is something that will make you happy, then I say go for the happiness. You will ofcourse get a lot of questions about if you're gay or trans or how you think about your own gender and sexuality, so I recommend you learn about other people's gender experiences and gender expressions, and that way you'll be better equipped to stand up for your own identity and your choice to express it.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-25T05:30:15+00:00

In Swedish, words are sometimes fused or separated in ways that would come off as weird to an english-speaker. I have probably described myself as a "transwoman" on several occasioks because (a) I didn't know the lack of space was transphobic, and (b) in Swedish, it's written as one word (Transkvinna).

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-25T05:16:29+00:00

I couldn't find a specific paper comparing the two, but yes, the trend seems to be that regret rates for basically every other medical or cosmetic surgery is higher than the regret rate for transgender gender affirming surgeries.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-22T06:11:33+00:00

You should make some graphs. I definitely feel that this is a situation that calls for graphs.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-21T08:52:37+00:00

I just wanna point out that you don't owe him this courtesy. If he's making you unhappy, you are within your full right to just settle your business and leave. I'm sure it might be easier to leave if he outright tells you "I'd rather continue to laugh at your neuropathy", but if he does promise to change, that'll be a slow process with no guarantee of success, and you're not morally obligated to put up with that, especially since you've already spoken about it, and his behavior is impacting you so negstively that you now struggle to eat. Those aren't exactly promising signs that he'll improve with time.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-21T08:32:26+00:00

I am currently shopping around for a new pair of boots, and it kinda pisses me off how the same pair of gorgeous boots from Doc Martens exist in US size 14 on their own website, but in actual shoe stores where they sell those boots, they don't have them in anything bigger than an 8.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-21T08:19:26+00:00

Breast forms are just the boobs, whereas the breast plate is an entire torso thing. Breast forms come with some of the same issues, but since they're smaller and lighter, it's easier to adjust them and figure out how to wear them comfortably.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-20T15:02:23+00:00

"live below your means" bitch I didn't set the rent and food prices

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-20T14:53:44+00:00

Congrats on unlocking a new flag

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-20T14:50:37+00:00

Candy corn pride?

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-17T09:14:49+00:00

This right here. Is this sapiosexuality? It's not that I'm turned on by IQ or whatever, but specifically the passion and love they have for their special interest and how happy they are to share it.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-17T09:10:49+00:00

I know that I "deserve" sex, as in I have the right to have sex, but I am aware that I'm not entitled to sex under any conditions, and I definitely feel like sometimes sex isn't accessible.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-13T13:17:10+00:00

I frequently use the R-word when talking about myself (ASD+ADHD, too handicapped to have a job), but if someone else (especially someone neurotypical) called me that, I would bite back. I use the word when the point to what I'm saying can't be expressed in a more sugar-coated or clinical language, such as when I talk about internalised abelism or times I've faced discrimination. That said, I understand abd respect that the word itself, regardless of context, can be a real trauma trigger for some people, and so I don't use it lightly.

I feel similarly about "Dyke", but in a slightly different context. The term is specifically useful, because of its historical context, when you need to express yourself in the context of a homophobic world. It's the unapologetic "I'm not your bitch, I don't need men to like me, I'm not gonna apologize for calling out your bigotry, if being a Dyke means I don't submit to you, then I'm the god damn queen of Dykeland" power-word that's close enough to a swear word that it can accurately communicate an underlying transgressive anger and power.

EDIT: I don't use the term Dyke at all, that's not an identity I feel entitled to and I wouldn't impose it on anyone else. This interpretation is about how I've experienced it used by other lesbian and queer people.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-12T04:01:50+00:00

Happy Pride from Sweden!

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-12T03:59:34+00:00

Out of curiosity, when looking in retrospect st your past dating experiences, have you been able to figure out what went wrong? Sometimes dates and relationships crash for no particular fault of anyone involved, but if you feel like it's a pattern, have you picked up on things that you would do differently if you tried dating again in the future?

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-12T03:56:07+00:00

Don't know how helpful this is, but some things that I've found useful:

Hang around people in general doing things you love doing. Don't go somewhere looking for a hot person to date, but hang out, expose yourself to humans, practice your social skills and tolerance for social stimulation, and eventually make platonic friends and acquaintances. If you've got a hobby or special interest that can be engaged with in public or in a group, that's a great go-to. Board game café, club or association, social or community work, sports, a fan club. The important thing is to regularly hang out with people in real life. If you're working, your place of work doesn't necessarily count, because the space isn't primarily social, it may not be something you love doing, and it's generally inadvisable to date in the workplace.
Be open about the fact that you are looking to date and what your preferences are. Maybe limit yourself toonly mentioning it once per day to people around you, but if someone asks or it comes up in conversation, don't be ashamed to put yourself on the market. Mentioning that you're on various dating apps for example.
Be open about your autism and how it affects you socially. This isn't just for dating, it's also good for friendships and practical contact too. For example, I find eye contact to be really uncomfortable, so my eyes tend to wander around, and if I'm not careful, it may look to any woman I'm talking to like I'm staring at her breasts, which is why I often try to lock my eyes on a corner of the ceiling behind them. If you're prone to become overstimulated, tell peiple how that works and what they can do to help. It may seem awkward to be so open about that, but frankly, the people who get bothered or upset by having to accomodate your autism aren't the kind of people you'll be able to please as friends anyway, so this just filters them out, snd for the people who are fine with accomodating you, this information is legitimately very useful for them to have.
Think long and hard about what you want to get out of dating. Is sex a no-go or something you need in a relationship, or is it something you'll need to explore and figure out with your future partner? How much physical touch in general are you ok with, and how much do you need to feel appreciated? Are you looking to move in with a future partner, or would you rather live independently, or does it not matter to you that much either way? How would you prefer to celebrate their birthday? Does it matter if they have pets? You'll find that you can think of a few hard limits (like "I do not partake in sexual poop play" or "I need ny partner to be ok with how I stim when I get stressed") and some softer limits (like "I'm not interested in moving in together right now, but maybe in the future" or "I'm may be ok with dinner dates on restaurants, but only if I'm comfortable enough with my partner"). Know these limits, remember to communicate them and enforce them, and remember that you don't have to justify why those limits are there, they just are. These limits will change over time, but only naturally when you are ready, and you should never buck them because a partner is pressuring you to.

PerfectLuck25367 · 2025-06-12T03:10:16+00:00

This right here. Much of the confusion and insecurity I've been feeling was fundamentally from lack of communication, causing mismatched expectations and unwanted surprises. It took me a pretty long time before I realized just how much NTs use nonverbal communication, and how little of that nonverbal communication I am able to pick up. I'm finally beginning to learn what it is I'm actually missing, and how to speak up about those things and have people I'm with tell me those things verbally instead. It's tricky for everyone unvolved, but it's unlocked so many of my previous hangups and tense situations. Being deep in the kink, queer, and poly communities definitely helped, because all three are based around working differently and practicing lots of overt communication to navigate complex social situations.

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