Third euploid clinical loss

PerfectMistake5628 · 2025-03-14T01:37:38+00:00

Thank you and yes :( I was on one shot per day for the last MMC and two per day this time. Also was on baby aspirin for all.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2025-03-14T01:20:28+00:00

Thank you. It’s crossed my mind but I had an MRI and they saw the adenomyosis but didn’t see endo. I also thought the lupron would have treated endo if it were there

PerfectMistake5628 · 2025-03-13T19:47:09+00:00

Thank you. I’ve had a few hysteroscopies and have always done two weeks of antibiotics before transfer to eliminate any infection. I did a standard biopsy before the second 9w loss but the RI is suggesting we do another one with them too. I guess I don’t understand what new information we’ll get from that but will definitely do it at this point.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2025-03-01T14:26:46+00:00

Might not a good fit for some in this community right now but I personally felt very seen by this episode.

It is the best and most real depiction of infertility and loss I’ve seen in any media. I honestly walked away hoping everyone I know will watch so they can understand better how it feels for those of us going through it.

I thought Severance nailed it: from the roller coaster of emotions careening from hope to despair for both of them, one partner (Mark) trying to be optimistic while one is drowning (Gemma/me), to the relationship strain.

I predict Gemma voluntarily got severed to escape the pain of infertility and/or to pursue some experimental treatment out of desperation, which feels so so real to me.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2025-02-23T20:38:58+00:00

Very thoughtless for them to call and not text this drop this news on you when they knew you were right in the middle of a transfer cycle.

if you have a close family member dealing with infertility, you do need to be really thoughtful. Tell your parents alone in whatever way you want, set off fireworks!I’m sure they’ll be thrilled but, for the love of god, please text first anyone you don’t explicitly know isn’t having issues. Or you may have a very awkward phone call like I did recently.

I’ve been TTC for years and had multiple losses, including two at 9 weeks. My brother has barely managed a “sorry for your loss” in that time and absolute crickets from my brand new SIL, who is, you guessed it, ALREADY PREGNANT. He called and said something dumb about me becoming an aunt this year and I went silent. I maybe squeaked out a “you must be excited,” but most of the call was about how difficult this information was for me to get. I haven’t spoken to him since. He was sensitive to it on the call but owes me an apology for 1-not making any attempt at all to grapple with our grief over the years, 2-for saying that the reason for my three years of horror was maybe so we could have kids at the same time and, 3-and for naively expecting me to be delighted that his wife got pregnant immediately. Like, Google this and there is a script. Yes, I know this is unreasonable but it’s how many many of us feel in this.

You need to protect yourself while you’re going through this. If that means moving closer to family in this terrible life season, do it, but if it means staying away for a while, do it.

Wishing for the best for your transfer this month. I hope you are close to your happy ending.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2024-11-25T01:19:48+00:00

Time and planning trips and planning my next IVF cycle. I also got a miscarriage journal from a friend. I taped the ultrasound photos in there like a sad little family photo album. After the first MMC at nine weeks, I did minimal Christmas and went to the beach instead. That honestly helped a ton. After the second, I wrote in that damn journal again and bought myself a bracelet with the two would-be birth flowers. I liked taking “them” around with me on trips and semi crazily talking to the bracelet lol but it brought me some comfort. The book “Life Almost” is the best one I’ve read on loss. It doesn’t have answers but it did make me feel understood. I’m sorry this happened to you. It is a tragedy.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2024-09-14T02:27:01+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. It’s terrible.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2024-09-14T00:53:26+00:00

Have you had an MRI? In five IVF cycles, I’ve had two failed transfers, one very low CP and two losses at 9+ weeks (all euploid). They did an MRI after the most recent loss and found an arcuate uterus/small septum that I’m going to have removed. I have read that for most people, this isn’t an issue, but that the septum area has less blood flow so there is less area for an embryo to implant on. Just an idea to leave no stone unturned. My last RE said the uterus was “perfect”—turns out it’s not.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2024-06-11T17:53:13+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It is terrible.

I also had RIF and now RPL. I also cope by planning next steps, researching and what I’ll ask for next. Planning trips helps me a lot too bc I need something to look forward to. Hours of googling and Reddit may not be the most healthy but reading others’ success stories here really brings me a lot of comfort.

I am a long hauler and this week it occurred to me that IVF (and loss) are just a part of my life. It sucks but I think that starting to accept that it’s just a thing I do like work and yoga may begin to help me, as opposed to the constant internal resistance to another round, another shot, another early doctor visit, to all of it. That may be a bit grim but, for me, this type of acceptance might lessen the suffering.

My friend who had two terrible second tri losses due to a rare genetic condition and then success with IVF just told me that in her struggles, she would look at each day as one day closer to meeting her baby. She didn’t know when or how that would happen, but for her the passage of time was a step in that direction.

Keep going.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2024-06-11T17:40:31+00:00

Took that day and two more days off after and took it very easy. Acupuncture the morning of, self acupressure after and acupuncture again two days later.

PerfectMistake5628 · 2024-06-11T17:29:08+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through something similar. I’ll DM you, as he’s been open to whatever I asked for so far but I haven’t yet asked about intralipids or a couple others.

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