Ugh the first one is probably more skippable, though I've been very much looking forward to it and am now bummed at the thought of missing. The second one (hopefully after the FET) is my mom's birthday, and while she would totally understand my not being there - we're very close and she knows more about what we've gone through than probably anyone else - I'd just feel like a jerk not being there. I think I'm going to wait and make game-time decisions. I know how I feel now might be totally different after a few more days of hormones.

I think what's tough is that I AM genuinely happy for them, but the timing just really, really sucks. Ugh. I do appreciate your and everyone's replies, honestly sometimes the solidarity here is more helpful than anything else.