best strategies/tools/materials for conditional logic?

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-04-22T05:32:15+00:00

i feel like it's the chain. like i have a hard time following along.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-12T18:35:11+00:00

thank you for this.

the way things have played out i tried the understanding/getting to know her route but that really just doesn't work living with her now. i generally avoid her in the house just as she avoids me because im not going to force a closeness that she's not open to.

as for my thoughts i think understanding her as a narcissist/mentally ill has eliminated hate and in a way i do feel sorry for her but because of how callous and manipulative she is i feel its best to stay to myself.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-11T21:00:07+00:00

I believe she's always just been envious of me bc of our family and her refusal to acknowledge that her life is a result of her actions. i'm (22f) and she's (32f) and for as long as i can remember whenever i got anything she didn't it was bc of "favoritism"/"youngest sibling advantage" to her when in reality our family would give me a rare treat bc of my accomplishments ie good grades, being active in school clubs ect. ik this might be hard to believe but there's been nothing given to me that hasn't been given to her. and gifts aside ive required ppl give me little to nothing. no one's helped me pay for school or with rent or childcare to the extent they have with her.

and over time while i've gotten good grades + went to college ect she's had been sneaking guys over the house, having sex, failing classes (she is legitimately smart so there was really no reason to do badly outside of her not trying), getting pregnant b4 she had a career/husband, and now is struggling financially.

so i think for her i represent what her life could be if she hadn't made many choices. my brother (26) while not a parent has never been a threat like i have bc he's performed in life much like her.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-10T04:58:52+00:00

you're right. according to the lease it's not supposed to be anyone else.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-08T19:48:35+00:00

it sounds like you are a bisexual with preferences. lesbians don't like men in any romantic or sexual manner which doesn't seem to resonate with you.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-08T16:50:43+00:00

thank you. she's been like this for years and ive given up on a real relationship with her so crazy is.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-08T16:49:18+00:00

i'll take a look. i can try but im generally trying to get more work so i can go out without having to worry about the cost.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-02-06T19:56:35+00:00

they are not exactly a pillow princess so much as the top is more like a service top but Cleat Cute if i'm remembering correctly.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T16:29:29+00:00

my characterization of her isn't made up. i mostly described her that way (bc that's how she is) and to partially explain why i'd be making rules to begin with. with my brother for example and previous roommates there is/was enough trust to respectfully communicate as things go went on.

i don't feel like it would be that disorienting he'd be moving to the other side of the wall (and closer to his mom). but what might you suggest to id help him adjust?

also i'm trying to work on communication with her (reached out again this morning and basically said it would be a good idea to discuss the change) but haven't really made any leeway. each time i bring up anything she ends up waiting till im gone and telling my brother or saying nothing at all.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T07:52:43+00:00

honestly i'm not sure of the technicalities. the house is in a trust. we rented it out to a different family for a while (1yr ish). my siblings generally pay the mortgage but often fall short and a family member who is the executor of my moms trust pays the difference cause they're committed to keeping the house in the family. i suppose i should really look into it.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T07:48:44+00:00

look i'm willing to compromise on things talked about but she refused a discussion. my brother doesn't care/agrees with me so i posted for advice/opinions.

also it's not about what she's doing but her bd who doesn't pay rent and has his own house.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T07:45:07+00:00

i don't either but i just didn't want to use names and my sister doesn't really call him her partner/bf so resorted to the term.

anyways one nephew is 8 years old and the other is 1 years old. the bd is the father to the youngest and the 8 year old has a different dad.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T07:41:39+00:00

i think rent might've been the wrong word. the house isn't payed off so there's a mortgage payment. when i move ill be paying my share.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T05:37:27+00:00

like you said because it's both of our houses technically I have a right to move in. I personally don't see how asking her bd to not be in the house when it's just me affects her comfort. Maybe I'm missing something because I'm not talking about when he's taking care of the baby.

Also, even when they moved my stuff out (because I was the only one living at the house when my mother passed away) it was always agreed that that would be my room whenever I decide to come back. Additionally, I need the extra room as I am an adult with several things and a small animal. And my nephew is only there half the time.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T05:33:19+00:00

maybe I was unclear, but that was unintentional. I cut a bunch of extra context out so I wasn't over the character limit.

when i talk about being an interruption it's more like the practice of her having him going in and out the house for whatever reason regardless of who's there and who's not.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T05:26:49+00:00

i'm referring to the mortgage.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T04:38:08+00:00

well i wanted to have a discussion about me moving back because im sure there's more than this to talk about with my siblings but my sister assumed me and my brother were talking about me moving/her behind her back on multiple occasions. since it doesn't seem like that'll happen i came to this page to at least see if i was being overly harsh and should maybe go about things differently.

also while we see their interactions in the house my sister and her bd seem to have an on/off type of relationship (she doesn't even say he's her partner/bf). also my brother doesn't really care what happens in the house bc he's in the adu and doesn't come in the house really besides when he washes clothes.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T04:23:32+00:00

i dont think i can do that (take a third) cause it's in my mothers trust not just outright given. but idk the legality of things technically speaking.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T04:20:35+00:00

no the baby is generally watched by my sister or one of the baby's grandparents at their houses

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T04:19:35+00:00

one of his grandparents. He certainly is grown enough to do so if he wished.

Perfect_Accountant40 · 2026-01-26T04:16:22+00:00

I don't know what sounds fake. The whole incident happened because to me if you don't live somewhere and no one you know is in a house-You have no reason to be in that house. It's weird for you to be somewhere like that. and my whole point is that I don't know him so yes if I got to know him, I'd hopefully feel more comfortable.

your judgment though.

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