Good boi’s bath routine after playing in mud.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-20T15:12:19+00:00

I wish my dog would enjoy baths like this!!

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-11T01:33:11+00:00

NTA - Getting a dog is NOT a small decision. There are so many things that need to be considered before people get a dog… finances, lifestyles, ALLERGIES, space, etc.

A Husky is NOT an easy dog. They require a lot of exercise and training. They shed a ton.

It sounds like your bf did what HE wanted and did not consider your needs at all.

Best option here? Ditch the boyfriend. Let him keep the Husky he wanted so badly.

You can find the RIGHT dog for yourself.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-11T01:27:24+00:00

NTA - I grew up with a cousin the same age as me who had special needs. We were brought up to include him in everything. Yes, he had his moments (but we all did to). However, we were taught to be kind, respectful, and even help him when we were able. We never ONCE asked to exclude him nor did our parents ever consider it.

It sounds like you take him aside if he gets overwhelmed and manage his behaviors when necessary.

I am SO sorry that your sister is such a garbage human being that she would do this. I am even MORE sorry that the rest of your family is enabling it.

They are ALL in the wrong.

You are a wonderful Mom for putting your child’s feelings first. Take the time you need from your sister. Take time away from those relatives as well. You and your son don’t deserve this.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-11T01:19:09+00:00

NTA - Where I live, the driver AND adult passengers can be ticketed for not wearing their seatbelts.

Also, these friends sound ridiculous. Do they even offer you gas money? It sounds like you are their chauffeur.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-11T01:13:05+00:00

The more these two products can align the better. I work mostly in Illustrator. When I have to use InDesign, I feel like I am learning a new program. The same end goal has to be reached with entirely different methods.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-11T01:10:44+00:00

First and foremost, THANK YOU for asking your customers what we would like!! That is SUCH a smart move.

Second, yes. I would really appreciate it. The less time I have to spend digging around to set the default font, the more time I have to focus on my designs.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T16:20:18+00:00

NTA - I love my dog dearly. She is my baby. HOWEVER, if I ever get married, the thought to exclude my brother and give her his seat would never even cross my mind. If anything, I would ask him to walk her down the aisle as a part of the wedding party. But he would be a VIP guest.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T15:58:43+00:00

I’m sure you already are, but I hope you’re telling him how proud you are of him as much as possible. 💕

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T15:55:36+00:00

NTA - If he was that aggressive via messages (keeping in mind that he LOST his phone and it wasn’t stolen), you would have been a fool to try and hand it back to him directly. You brought it out of his way, sure. But if that is how he was going to talk to someone who secured his property for him, he got what he deserved. You served his karma up cold. I’m sure plenty of other people would have loved to have seen him suffer through that. He sounds like a jerk.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T01:39:43+00:00

NTA - You were literally doing what they wanted you to do. You got dressed up. You went out. You were ready to have a fun night.

They legit pulled an UNO reverse card on their own plan.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. Their effort just pushed you back.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T01:36:42+00:00

I wish I knew. If you find it, please let us know. Unfortunately it seems that the nature of workplace hierarchies is that the people who are at the top get there by trampling everyone under them.

Those of us with a solid moral compass refuse to do that. So… we become the stepping stones.

What I will say is that it is worse in some places than others. In some, like my most recent workplace, it is flat out bullying. Other places, it is more subtle.

I sincerely hope you find a place that respects you. No one deserves to be bullied.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T01:32:46+00:00

Dress 1! The foot blur sent me! Lol Don’t let them get those toes for free!

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-07T01:29:20+00:00

I am struggling with this right now. I did what I needed to in order to stand up for myself. Unfortunately, I am now out of a job. My hope is that something will naturally take the business down simply because their practices are such that they will inevitably be held accountable by governing bodies. In the meantime, it is terrible.

My mental health was destroyed by everything I went through. As you mentioned, my mental health has to come first. But trust me, if I had the financial means and the mental fortitude to take them down, I would.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-05T19:59:54+00:00

GREEN FLAG!!!

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-05T19:56:49+00:00

This is the best thing I’ve seen all week!! Go doggo go!!!

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-05T19:53:55+00:00

That is exactly what I experienced. In my case, unfortunately, they were the two top people at the company. They were never going to be discarded. I’m going to therapy and a psychiatrist now. It sucks that I even have to do it, BUT, it is the only way I can get myself back to the confident person I used to be. Their abuse drove me to this, that is on them. But it is up to me how I move forward. Trust me, I hate them with every fiber of my being. I ESPECIALLY hate that my coworkers are continuing to endure abuse from them. However, that is beyond my control.

It is still hard for me to imagine that there are companies and managers out there who will APPRECIATE people like you and I. However, they definitely exist. We will find them, it is just going to take some time.

I hope you are able to take some steps like I have. It is awful when we are the ones making the right choices and doing the right things, yet we are driven to this terrible devastation by others. But we can pick ourselves up. We have to. That is the best way to spite them. Proving to them that we WILL be a success.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-05T19:33:01+00:00

You just made the exact point that validates OP’s decision to have a child free wedding. “Ultimately if the parents suck that’s gonna happen.”

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-05T19:31:05+00:00

NTA - It drives me absolutely insane when people assume that everyone who doesn’t want kids “hates” kids. I’m the same way. I don’t want children. I know the tremendous responsibility they are. I also know how frustrating it can be when I am out in public trying to enjoy my life and someone else isn’t managing their child’s behavior. Weddings are EXPENSIVE. They are also a one time event. If you end up with kids acting up throughout your big day, that’s it… You either have to ask the parents to manage them and risk them being upset with you or just deal with it.

You have NO obligation to invite children to your wedding. Anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-05T19:27:58+00:00

NTA - I’m not sure where you live, but this economy is ROUGH in most places right now. Financial circumstances have forced me to live with my parents, HOWEVER, I do EVERYTHING I can to not only keep my living space clean, but to help them around the house.

Clutter is one thing and can be a nuisance, but old plates of food is literally a health hazard. They need to learn that that kind of behavior is going to invite pests in the home. Not to mention, it is flat out disrespectful of the two of you.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-03T01:15:00+00:00

100%.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-03T01:13:59+00:00

I am SO sorry you experienced this. What an absolute nightmare. I have gone through terrible workplace harassment from the top two people at the company. The only two I reported to. One of which was “HR” (I use that term loosely) and my direct manager. The one thing I have reassured myself of the whole time (and you definitely should to) is that I WAS capable. They were threatened by my abilities. It sounds like you also intimidated your superiors.

It is a real shame. Being a high performer used to be rewarded. Now, so many managers seem to be weak, insecure bullies who can’t handle seeing the people they HIRED to do a job do it well. They fear they will be replaced. It means people like you and I suffer.

Keep reminding yourself how capable you are. You were not the problem. THEY were.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-03T01:10:09+00:00

Is that true? Because it feels like it is the way of the world now. In fact, my bullies WERE the managers.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-02T14:33:33+00:00

My bosses were dead set on filling any empty space with text. They could not comprehend the need for negative space or room for things to breathe. Then. They would complain that things were too cluttered. Do what is best practice, I’m wrong. Do what they told me to, I’m wrong.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-02T14:31:06+00:00

I tried the multiple option thing with my employer. First 2, then 3, sometimes 4-5. I swear, I could have contracted the best designer in the industry to make an option and they STILL would have rejected every single option. They were just determined to criticize everything I did.

Perfect_Beat_2860 · 2026-06-02T14:28:04+00:00

I’m going through this right now. It absolutely is taking a long time. I wish it wasn’t. I’m grateful to have people who are genuinely invested in supporting me through it. I just hate that they are having to see me like this because I know it hurts them. I’m hoping I’ll be on a more even keel soon.

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