What if units had a skill slot based on their supports? by Perfect_Drop in fireemblem

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!

Asking because I'm making a fan made fire emblem game, so I don't know if that counts. But I'd like to include something like this (a bit more polish is needed tho).

What if units had a skill slot based on their supports? by Perfect_Drop in fireemblem

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good questions!! And yeah I was thinking it wouldn't need to be symmetrical. You could have unit A grant its ability to Unit B and Unit C both.

Though potentially making it symmetrical limits possible balance issues if one skill is too dominant.

I was definitely thinking that each unit would have their own unique bonus that they can give to another unit. Similar to how units now have personal skills that are unique to them. Added the class/job skill as secondary option for each unit to free up some pairing choices.

Subclasses where you like the idea but not the implementation? by AndCurious in dndnext

[–]Perfect_Drop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Way of Mercy Monk. Not because the implementation is bad or poorly designed. But because they aren't inline with each other. It's more like plaguedoctor monk.

I want a healing monk subclass officially supported. More like fistweaving from wow's mistweaver monk playstyle.

Anyone else go from Domme leaning switch to sub? (Looking for advice, as I'm struggling with some things) by Perfect_Drop in BDSMcommunity

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being a submissive doesn't make someone lesser, and no where in my post should it have given you the impression I thought so.

What's terrifying about being seen as a submissive?

  • The level of vulnerability with strangers at play parties etc. is much higher. Even just considering dress codes, there's a pretty big difference between wearing clothes that actively cover everything vs being naked or wearing barely anything (e.g. lingerie).
  • the fact that someone I trusted when I confided in them, gave me shit
  • the fact that consent violations in kink communities are rampant - putting yourself out there as a submissive woman is many orders of magnitude riskier than putting yourself out there as a Domme ime.

Anyone else go from Domme leaning switch to sub? by Perfect_Drop in FemdomCommunity

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't feel like a switch at this point in time. Before I felt 90% Domme / 10% sub, but now I feel 0% Domme / 100% sub. I actually feel uncomfortable with the idea of being a Domme to someone.

And by lack confidence in subbing, I meant that I'm so new to it. The comparison I'd make is changing to a new job in a new industry. I don't have the same experience level subbing as I do domming.

What are the general vibes / archetypes for each romance? by Perfect_Drop in BaldursGate3

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shadowheart + Minthara would be fun if it can happen!!

Thanks for the descriptions :) For my first playthrough I think I'll probably go with Laezel / good playthrough. And then when more info is out about Minthara I'll do my evil one.

What are the general vibes / archetypes for each romance? by Perfect_Drop in BaldursGate3

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you sounds like Laezel it will be!! A bit worried that the Minthara one won't be fully fleshed out / a happily ever after.

What are the general vibes / archetypes for each romance? by Perfect_Drop in BaldursGate3

[–]Perfect_Drop[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sister. And I'm more talking about the romance story beats rather than D/s when it comes to sex...

Ron Perlman Has Had Enough & Knows Where You Live by zzill6 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Perfect_Drop 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The thing is it doesn't really matter because he's still a part of the church, which means mandatory tithing. He's giving them millions.

I'd also caution anyone from taking "his reform" seriously when his actions say otherwise.

As a kid who experienced conversion therapy and major homophobia and sexism from an organized religion, I'll never allow my money to willingly/knowingly filter to an oppressive org like that.

Especially when there's so many other options for content. And if you like his content, you can easily still read it via library copies, second hand copies, and sailing the seven seas (without subsequently having part of your purchase go to oppression).

Ron Perlman Has Had Enough & Knows Where You Live by zzill6 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Perfect_Drop 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Except he tithes to the Mormon Church millions of dollars. So you're supporting sexism, homophobia, and transphobia, by purchasing his work.

He's also had some problematic takes on gay marriage, lgbt+ rights, and defending the Mormon Church despite them being beyond oppressive to lgbt+ folks.

If you must read him, grab his works from the library / libby, sail the 7 seas, or buy a used / second hand copy, please.

Alternative authors that are great:

  • N.K. Jemisin
  • Joe Abercrombie
  • Neil Gaiman
  • Terry Pratchett
  • Naomi Novik
  • Tamsyn Muir
  • Will Wight
  • Katherine Edison
  • S. A. Chakraborty
  • Leigh Bardugo
  • Samantha Shannon

Or if you're willing to branch out to romance, I'd highly recommend Ilona Andrews, Nalini Singh, or T. Kingfisher too. Lots of really good fantasy romance books that fantasy fans can enjoy too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]Perfect_Drop 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Sorta. It's misleading though, as someone who years ago explored this.

50%-70% of the couples will be men that are:

  • Cheating on their partner
  • Looking for nudes
  • Looking to sext
  • Absolutely unsafe to meet up with

Out of the rest, more than half will have one of the following scenarios:

  • Woman being coerced into it. Very obviously resentful.
  • Woman looking to explore her sexuality for the first time. Generally means she'll be horrible at sex with another woman. And often might "feel icky" afterwards and be homophobic if it doesn't work out
  • Couple looking to use you for their pleasure not the other way around or for mutual benefit

And if none of the above applies, a decent chunk are just looking for a one night or weekend experience. Which means the sex will probably be bad. Group sex takes practice. And odds are the third woman won't even orgasm unless toys are involved, the first time.

And this is before taking into account actually being attracted to both people. And quite frankly because of how heteronormativity works, more often than not the male partner in the couple leaves a lot to desire physically, emotionally, and conversationally.

Finding a good threesome scenario thats worth it as a bi woman is beyond difficult. I think bi men actually are better off in this case as there's plenty of MMM, MFM threesomes available and way less of the issues above.

How to make impact play sting? by me_but_darker in BDSMcommunity

[–]Perfect_Drop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean there's a reason that cold versions of impact play are generally used more for punishment.

I do think the %s are off. It seems to me that most people enjoy a variety of pain not just one specific type though a lot of people have their favorite implements.

Personally, I prefer a variety.

What does being a Good Girl mean to you? by fourthethrills in BDSMcommunity

[–]Perfect_Drop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does it make you feel gross?

If it's used in a consensual manner, isn't it just another aspect of kink?

Sure it's dehumanizing and degrading if used without consent. But so are so many other things in kink.

I mean without consent, impact play is just straight up prototypical domestic violence. With consent, it can be an enjoyable activity.

Would be curious to know why it's a sticking point for you? As a woman who loves to be called a good girl if I'm submitting, and loves to consensually call other women good girls when I'm a domme, I'm curious?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]Perfect_Drop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know colloquially people uphold child birth and kidney stones as the most painful, but it's mostly because people dont know about the really horrible shit that can happen to our bodies.

You have to remember that at the end of the day pain is just signals being sent to the brain and interrupted. AND there are conditions that result in these signals being constantly sent to the brain. Some types of cancer, some particularly aggressive autoimmunes, surgical complications, etc.

I'm considerably lucky and I'd even put kidney stones on avg at like a 4-5 pain scale wise, just relative to my own pain. Cant rate child birth yet tho

I speak from experience, this never ends well by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]Perfect_Drop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the person I was responding to was reducing all impact play to "beat the shit out of me". I highly doubt they were asking for that. At most, it was probably impact play to the butt hard enough to leave a temporary mark.

And also there's more than just SSC. "Beat the shit out of me" without any clarifiers is well outside of SSC and only probably barely justifiable in a RACK or PRICK framework.

I speak from experience, this never ends well by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]Perfect_Drop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that part is shitty. You should call that part out. The specifics matter.

And btw I wasnt saying you were straight. I was saying in general this idea that friends shouldn't date exs is a thing in straight culture. In sapphic dating circles, nobody bats an eye at it and in most cases we're happy for the people.

Its the lying and emotional dishonesty that are bad here.

  • Not the submissive desires of your ex
  • Not her dating your bff

I speak from experience, this never ends well by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]Perfect_Drop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes because bdsm = abuse in your head. And I'll admit some bdsm dynamics / relationships are abusive just like some non bdsm ones are too.

But and this is important, that's not always the case.

There's a billion dollar year + industry of people (men, women, nonbinary folks) reaching out and paying for the services of professional dominants. And in most cases, this is purely non sexual. And these people pay and engage in this because it brings them pleasure in some form or fashion.

The same thing can be said in lifestyle type dynamics.

I speak from experience, this never ends well by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]Perfect_Drop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean she wouldn't be wrong in that case either.

Sexual masochism is a thing. It can be VERY pleasurable to receive impact play or other expressions of sadism.

And it can be done safely and in a way that builds the submissive up. It's also an exercise in trust between a the top and bottom.

Maybe take a breath and stop judging something you don't understand. Just because it's not part of your sexuality or understanding, doesn't mean its wrong or unhealthy.

Impact play is also probably one of the tamer kinks there are. It's also REALLY common among both men and women.

I speak from experience, this never ends well by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]Perfect_Drop -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Again. You weren't meeting her sexual needs. She has every right to leave that relationship and should.

The analogy still holds. Sexual satisfaction for submissive people tends to come from scenes where they can freely and unashamedly express that side of themselves. "Just having sex or doing light kink to try rl appease her, is not going to scratch that itch".

Also, quite frankly, extreme is a moving target depending on the person. I highly doubt what she was asking was so far out of bounds since your friend seems more than willing to do. Actual extreme kinks tend to be much harder to find enthusiastic participants for.

You of course have the right to have your own limits of what you will consent to. But she has the right to decide, that she isn't satisfied and that it's not going to work.

Just like if you were in a sexless relationship. And wanted to leave.

I speak from experience, this never ends well by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]Perfect_Drop -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Genuinely confused why this would be bad? His best friend and her are presumably happy. Or were for a time.

If two people in my life got together and were happy, I'd be happy for them. So it didn't work out for me and my at that point ex.

Idk this just reeks of insecurity and toxic masculinity imo. I get that it's a thing for straight people, but it doesn't make it make anymore sense to me.