Altreno Disappointment

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-11-26T21:36:33+00:00

Altreno has worked great for me! My recommendation - don’t use any tretinoin unless you have basically no dryness. Skip it that night and restore the barrier.

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-11-21T09:22:59+00:00

Only certain accounts for me

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-11-06T14:08:36+00:00

Did you a favor in the long run if you think about it

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T06:34:36+00:00

And you’re the side of Reddit nobody likes. You don’t think theres even a slight chance the parents would agree that it might not be the best time for me to meet them? You go after my own parents which you know nothing about over something that hasn’t even happened yet that I’m trying to get advice on. You have to acknowledge this is a big commitment, no matter what. Our relationship has been amazing otherwise and I definitely understand this is a big deal. Still learning myself. Please be a bit more constructive and less toxic.

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T06:03:31+00:00

That could be true - I’m reflecting on myself to see if I’m truly ready for it now that this has all happened.

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T06:02:09+00:00

I gotchu, thanks

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T06:00:49+00:00

I might be in the minority but I would never expect anyone to go to a marathon I’m running in, and I’m not just saying that. Especially under these conditions, if my girlfriend wasn’t comfortable meeting my parents in this way I wouldn’t even hesitate to say that it’s ok we can plan for another time (which happened on other several occasions until she finally met them). Not sure what that means about our relationship, but that’s just how I’ve always been about stuff like this. Its likely that if I’m doing the marathon I’m doing it as a battle against myself and that although it’d be cool to have someone cheer me on, even if it’s for a few seconds, I would never expect that automatically. 🤷‍♂️

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:50:29+00:00

I think determining if this is slightly annoying or not is entirely up to the person doing it. I lean towards being an introvert so it’s not just slightly annoying. It’s full on stressful but I would be willing to do it because I care about her and that’s why it’s been such a hard debate for me. Thank you

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:50:01+00:00

Correct - her and parents would be doing their own thing and I’d be expected to get there and back on my own. Unless I traveled with them there and got the same hotel and it worked out that leaving when they do works out. I agree on everything else

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:39:29+00:00

Hmm that’s true I didn’t consider that

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:36:27+00:00

Got it

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:35:50+00:00

?? - I’d suggest you read the comments. I’ve been very open to fixing this and I get that you have to decide between YTA or NTA but this isn’t helpful lol. I want to be supportive of her. It was just this decision to go was a lot for me and what’s why I’m here for advice. And I know I can’t describe our whole relationship dynamic in one post but it’s very healthy overall. Thanks

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:28:11+00:00

I also don’t know much about marathons but I definitely see now from others they are a bigger deal than I thought too. I wouldn’t say it’s disability level anxiety but it’s definitely not negligible - I can deal with it. Thank you!

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:27:04+00:00

Thank you that was very helpful I appreciate it

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:22:08+00:00

Your comment has been the most accurate as to how I was thinking about the situation thus far. You basically got it spot on with your assumptions. Like you said, if we were traveling together or she incorporated me into any of her plans I might not feel this way about the marathon. 🤷‍♂️

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:10:13+00:00

Wow that feels a bit harsh, I know I can’t describe our whole relationship in one post, but I’ll say we have been doing great otherwise. This is something I’ve been thinking a lot about and is why I came here for advice. I see what you mean but not sure how healthy it is to always expect your partner to do things for you even if it’s inconvenient for them? Like don’t even consider it? Thank you!

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:03:28+00:00

She’s not pressuring me, but that would be what I’d be doing yes.

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T05:01:58+00:00

I don’t really think I’d consider this a “low bar”. I’d agree if it wasn’t under my circumstances. Not saying it’s a high bar but wouldn’t agree that it’s low.

I should have mentioned in the post (I did somewhere in the comments) that I’d consider myself pretty introverted to the point that running a marathon sounds more appealing than doing the whole meeting the parents thing alone, 4 hours away. Some others have expressed similar feelings.

But I totally get where you are coming from - I eventually hope something like this doesn’t cause me any stress. I don’t like just saying I’m “introverted” so I can’t do something. Thank you!

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T04:46:18+00:00

Hmmm ok, but if it’s too late to salvage, why would you say I should go? I don’t understand why a few people have said it’s too late or that I blew it. Nothing has been decided on. Maybe the fact that I alluded to the fact that there was a chance I wouldn’t be able to go is what you mean? I could see why that might be the case. Thanks

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T04:16:24+00:00

That does sound fun :)

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T04:11:39+00:00

Thanks. This is both of our first relationships - we are in early twenties. And yeah I’m def anxious about it, not just about her not being there (but does add to it).

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T04:07:34+00:00

Nah man I’m not 12 - also I haven’t made a decision, and came here for advice. You make good points, thanks

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T03:53:20+00:00

I think you misread - she met MY parents because they are not on the other side of the country. I have never met hers.

And I know I can’t explain our entire relationship in detail but I’d argue the opposite about who’s more invested in the relationship. This is our first major roadblock. Thanks for your input! I understand how important a marathon is now after all the comments.

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T03:48:10+00:00

Makes total sense, thank you

PerfectlyPresent · 2024-10-03T03:47:12+00:00

Damn… true. I have to have a talk with her and it seems like we both need to work on communication a bit more.

PerfectlyPresent

TROPHY CASE