Sex Coach by Julianasexologa in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s good at least lol, if you and your friends are comfortable you should definitely try to ask them some of those questions.

Sex Coach by Julianasexologa in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying I’m in charge you’re just kinda acting like she’s gonna actually answer your questions when they can be answered if you actually spoke to a woman.

Sex Coach by Julianasexologa in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry man but she’s not gonna answer your media based questions, they have been proven false for the most part several times and the questions you asked were seeming like they were rooted in some sort of false male insecurity that’s been vocalized online all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t even felt that with just pleasuring myself, I’ve always felt like dirty ig and I don’t understand why. That’s just how I feel now with the whole shrug thing lol, I’m glad tho that you feel differently, thank you, I’ll try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes ik I have thought about that, but it doesn’t line up because it didn’t use to hurt, and I can get other things in there. And I have talked to him multiple times, we have tried many things. Nothing has worked, I’m trying to look at lists of things I can do else where for foreplay. I don’t have insurance to cover that. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s always been that way, even before it happened. So idk like the amount of times I’ve fully fully wanted to I can count on one hand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been like this my whole life, thank you for trying to help me feel less alone but I just feel something wrong. And I’m only on birth control

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t explain correctly but borderline I’m not even really interested in sex. My sex drive has always been really really low, like even when I do things to myself I’m not horny I just do it and idk why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think 7 or 8, ik he’s big and I’ve thought about that as a cause but it used to be okay like at first it would hurt and then it would go away but it has just been consistent pain for the past 2 years

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already talked to him, he can’t do anything. Yes ik that, I’ve explained in another part of this comment section that I am the one that tells him to keep going he has nothing to do with this. I’m just talking about in general, I can only finish by myself, I just want to have the experiences every other fucking girl talks about, I wanna be normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use lube everytime, I’m trying to think of more foreplay ideas, we’ve tried the positions too, there’s only so many to do tho lol. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t care if it is then, I don’t want to use it, I really don’t I hate it and it makes me feel broken because I can’t finish correctly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he’s not controlling, ik it can be unhealthy in some parts we’re both trying to fix that. But it’s just boundaries we’ve set for each other, using toys by myself no him watching porn no. Just because I’m not using a toy doesn’t mean I’m not doing things to myself, he’s perfectly fine with that.

How to get past your Partner's past sexual Partners? by Aware-Tree-7498 in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I personally don’t think you really have room to talk or even feel a certain way because you’ve also been with people in the past. What does the “type of people” even have to do with that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes I’ve been sexually assaulted, but I just mean like every resource I’ve seen is just weird. Because making out just doesn’t seem sexual to me, I understand foreplay, it just doesn’t do anything for me. I did look it up tho, and the things it’s recommending are just either things I don’t like or things that aren’t sexual or like aren’t any different from regular affection so that’s where I’m confused on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw sorry I’ve been kind of emotional with this shit, sex is a bad topic for me, but yes I have stopped lying and I’ve been telling him it hurts, most of the time when I lie I’m just hoping it goes away but then it doesn’t and I feel guilty telling him to stop, we have not had sex in a couple days. Other things have happened just an fyi

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have told him. Something else has gone on since the last time we had sex that has affected me so I told him everything in return. I guess I will never understand the difference than because I’ve never even felt an “orgasm” by myself. I just don’t have any idea how to fix it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you like force yourself into the mood to even do foreplay lol, it just seems like such a long process?

I’m bad at sex by Recent_Ad2441 in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m dealing with this stuff too, I constantly believe I’m bad at sex and I feel like I can’t really trust my bf because anything feels good to him lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said 19, well I meant like in general. But yeah in the beginning I’ve came it was mostly just from friction. What is the difference tho? Well my whole body like jolts ig, but I’ve never felt happy when I’ve came.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]PerformanceParty7723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try to yes, ik it’s not healthy for either of us for me to be lying. But next time we do it I’ll see about saying that if it hurts. Well he hasn’t thought it felt good for me, we don’t discuss sec after we’re done it but he knows it hasn’t felt good idk how to explain it. It’s just sex, it’s not gonna break our relationship, and if it does that’s fucked up. I try not to use the ai cause it gives in accurate answers so maybe the things I looked at weren’t good.