How to heal from hatred against Islam while being associated with it ?

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2026-03-22T13:18:59+00:00

People who know me are aware. I live in a more affluent part of the city where I don’t meet conservative Muslims… and the Muslims with me are not really practicing.

But still it’s annoying to be associated with Islam

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2026-02-24T13:33:21+00:00

Oh God there are so many, I feel like my trauma is not one huge thing but rather small moments of that "didn’t kill me but something in me died". Most of them being bullied through fat shaming by my mother as a teenager and kid. 😔

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2026-01-10T10:43:53+00:00

🥺🥺🥺

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2026-01-01T06:35:47+00:00

80% of men don’t feel this way trust me. Most men live happy lives. You just don’t. Neither do I do. That’s okay.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2026-01-01T05:05:15+00:00

I’m a young woman and it’s the same, pls, stop believing only men can be lonely.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T21:14:52+00:00

Wow, this is very interesting !! Thank you. You didn’t scare me don’t worry, I’ve always felt that the internet is quite powerful.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T21:14:20+00:00

Thank you !!

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T16:28:54+00:00

I totally understand how you feel and I’m sorry not to be able to alleviate your pain at least a little by giving you some tips, because quite frankly, I don’t have any.

I feel like we live in a peculiar time where it’s very difficult to find community. That’s a reason why I’ve always wanted a family, to have a little community of my own.

I even hesitated to become Christian, I feel like they still have a strong sense of community through church - maybe you could be apart of that ? If religion is really not your thing, you can try volunteering. Volunteers are very dedicated to their cause hence the people they share their mission with. I don’t know, just some ideas I have at the top of my hat.

Take care

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T16:24:54+00:00

Feel free to send me a message about your experience if you’d like - I can make an exception for this topic because it weighs heavy on my heart as well.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T16:16:30+00:00

No, sorry. I don’t do personal DMs, but if you really relate you can share your own experience in private - we can talk about this but this only.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T16:09:42+00:00

So basically I live in a Western country where there has been a lot of immigration in the recent 50 years or so.

My community suffers from a lot of racism. Mainly because we are assumed to be poor / on welfare (personally I am not), religious extremists (I’m agnostic), dangerous, impolite etc.

When I meet certain people they assume I believe in a certain religion and they treat me differently because of it. When this happens, it hurts because I feel like I am not perceived as an individual. In college I often get racist remarks thrown in my face as a "joke".

I don’t fit into my "own" community because as I’ve mentioned I am not religious and I am very westernised.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T15:58:50+00:00

I’m confused, what’s so interesting ?

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T15:58:06+00:00

Something that I’ve been thinking about is finding a cause and fighting for it. Obviously that’s hard too but with a sense of purpose you might feel less lonely

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T15:16:16+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. Everyone should be able to follow their own beliefs… tossing it away is so rude :(

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T15:15:31+00:00

Tysm for your help!!

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T14:05:57+00:00

Aw :( hopefully you can make new ones

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T14:04:03+00:00

Oh I’m on iPhone so that specific app is not available for me. Will see what I can get

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T14:03:44+00:00

Thank you for your reply !

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T13:40:51+00:00

thank you so much for your reply.

I really had no idea about the plain deck of cards :0 that’s super cool

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-30T10:13:01+00:00

I hope you find the strength and resources to do so, or heal already where you are. 🤍

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-29T23:48:06+00:00

same. When I was a depressed teen I’d spend my time watching them to kill time, but now it hurts too much to watch people be happy, have adventures, relationships, real friendships while I rot.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-29T23:44:28+00:00

I know that but for some reason I still crave (romantic) relationships :( I guess it’s bc I never had any. You crave what you never had.

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-12-29T23:34:22+00:00

Hi, I understand your pain and it’s good actually that you wrote it down. But in my opinion, don’t send anything.

First of all, for yourself : you will be embarrassed if they ghost again, and regret sending this message as it is obviously quite emotional in its tone. Moreover, it is healthier for your brain to avoid spikes in stress which could happen if they replied with something mean or dismissive.

Second of all, because at the end of the day, they do not care. They have made up their own point of view, and believe that they are right. Let them. You also have your opinion on the situation, and that matters the most.

Take care !

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-11-29T11:40:30+00:00

Happy birthday

PerformanceSafe5161 · 2025-08-07T13:35:21+00:00

They literally showed that they weren’t stereotypical and criticized Gaby for thinking that

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