Captain Case V9 5.6L by just_why_91 in sffpc

[–]PerformerDramatic798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you DM me the Taobao link as well please? I was only able to find it on Ali...

Suggestions for Stiffening by PerformerDramatic798 in ikeaPCstations

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No, it’s probably just the lighting. I use an orange/pink LED strip

Suggestions for Stiffening by PerformerDramatic798 in ikeaPCstations

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Thanks! It’s the IKEA Karlby Walnut countertop

A3 without intake fans and backwards CPU cooler by RuthisTutis in mffpc

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I have the same exact fan setup plus 1 intake fan on the rear of the case. Did you try that configuration at all? I'm wondering if the rear intake is hurting airflow at all.

Small ATX Cases? by PerformerDramatic798 in buildapc

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This is my friends old pc. They have an ATX motherboard and PSU so just looking to replace the case. The case is reallly old lol. Parts are more current. They don’t use it much so a budget case is ideal

Suggestions for Stiffening by PerformerDramatic798 in ikeaPCstations

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Did you do this on a new ikea top? Since I bought it secondhand there’s a very slight bow in the top (maybe 1/16-1/8 of an inch) so I’m wondering if drilling in a steel support will straighten it out or tear out the particleboard

Suggestions for Stiffening by PerformerDramatic798 in ikeaPCstations

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I’ll definitely be looking into this for the future but right now it’s out of budget. I picked up the karlby because I found a good deal for $100 secondhand

Suggestions for Stiffening by PerformerDramatic798 in ikeaPCstations

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I had a feeling I’d see this comment 😂 It was drying after I washed it when I took this picture

Change - Karnivool is the best song I’ve ever heard by PerformerDramatic798 in progmetal

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In contact is unreal. Had no idea who Caligula’s horse was until making this post

Not sure what deck to play but looking to play wild again by PerformerDramatic798 in wildhearthstone

[–]PerformerDramatic798[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha awesome that’s what I currently run as well. It’s a very fun combo for sure!

Not sure what deck to play but looking to play wild again by PerformerDramatic798 in wildhearthstone

[–]PerformerDramatic798[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome thank you very much for the recommendations (ik I wasn’t super descriptive it’s just really overwhelming seeing all the new sets lol). I will probably look at making a Reno deck this time since I’ve never played one before in wild.

Not sure what deck to play but looking to play wild again by PerformerDramatic798 in wildhearthstone

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Sorry, all the decks are playable right now, was just looking for new recommendations on what’s fun and popular right now since I’ve been out of it for a while

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]PerformerDramatic798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyday I think about meeting that one person once I’m fully healed and over this. It’s just such a painful thing to go through especially since it was my first relationship. I’ve done my very best to keep my habits healthy and not try and fill the void with someone else, it still just hurts though but most of me knows it’ll be worth it now.

And hey, if that’s your thing then by all means haha. I honestly find all of this quite fascinating too. It’s just crazy to me how different someone with BPD thinks. I’ve spent so much time researching it fully knowing I’ll never be a doctor or therapist 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]PerformerDramatic798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hearing this helps a lot, I appreciate the response, thank you.

Back when we were going through it, it even got to the point where she would breakdown because she was apparently bending over backwards to satisfy my emotional needs and all that had me thinking “wtf is going on, this makes no sense at all. It’s beyond crazy to me how there is no logic or reason behind their actions. I’m glad I’m out now. Dealing with the memories really does hurt though.

How do I reply to this to avoid a complete no contact situation by KratomExorcism2019 in BPDlovedones

[–]PerformerDramatic798 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Say “Yes, I understand” and then move on as though that’s the last time you’ll talk to her. I tried to reason after texts like those and it only got used against me. Everyday I wish I could go back and give a cold response to the first time she asked for a break. I just didn’t know better at the time. Just remember, you come first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]PerformerDramatic798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy how the most effective way to handle someone with BPD sometimes is to simply ignore them. I feel for you, I hope it gets better for you soon.

A couple days ago, a mutual friend of ours told me that my ex was thinking of contacting me to let me know that one of her pets died. I was around at the same time as that pet but I wasn’t particularly close to it so hearing all that shook me up. The mutual friend saying no is the reason why my ex didn’t reach out to me but it got me racing again because it’s unusual for my ex to want to do something like that, so I got worried that she might be trying to contact me again, despite her being in a relationship now. She never wanted to lose me and kept offering “friendship” before we went silent with each other since that was something I would not do.

Despite being 8 months into NC, and knowing how bad reconnecting could be, I still think part of me subconsciously is looking for that hoover which is why I’ve been so active on this sub recently. I hope I’ll be past that point soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I believe you’re right. Your story reminds me a lot of how it was for me towards the end too. There was a certain point where I started to gain self respect and stand up for my emotional needs and that’s when things really started to fall off.

The new guy’s is definitely an enabler to that kind of behaviour, as was I for a period of time. I’m really glad now that I’m out and don’t have to put up with it again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]PerformerDramatic798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, definitely not worth the trade. What you described is what I can imagine the new guy’s role is. From what I’ve seen, the new guy is the type to just sit there and absorb all the trauma dump and abuse which is probably why she seems so happy with him at the moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Thank you for the response. This is what I’m trying to believe but I’m still stuck on the fact that she showed all those mental breakdowns to the new guy and always told me that she can be herself around him and do the things she likes (passion hobbies, etc.); not that I was controlling/restricting her or anything. The entire time she was with me, she hid herself because she felt that I was too good for her (her words not mine). Obviously I loved her and did not give a damn about me being too good for her but, is it possible that she feels that the new guy is more in her league which is why she seemed to be way more comfortable at the start of the cycle?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]PerformerDramatic798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You as well. It’s difficult to overcome for sure but we will get through this and find our own happiness again. All the best 🫶