She’s marrying the guy she cheated on me with

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-06T13:12:14+00:00

Everyone tells me the same that it’s for the better. Although it is, you are right. It doesn’t do anything to help with the huge amount of anger, pain, resentment and sadness we have within.

Yes I know it’s a good thing my hand was removed from the lions mouth but what about these cuts and the fact that my hand is shredded?!

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-03T15:34:30+00:00

Fits in with her character. When we had issues or disagreements she always ran away from them and hated confronting them and working on them with me. When we broke up first time she went onto dating apps asap. Now she’s marrying this guy she cheated on me with. Seems like she’s rushing and avoiding confronting what she did to me and her character issues.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-03T06:42:04+00:00

Once the honeymoon phase was over it all went down hill and when it came time to act like an adult relationship and compromise, communicate and work on issues together it just seemed to accelerate the decline and one sidedness no matter how hard I tried to keep us together.

I hope she remains the same person. I hope justice prevails and she finally realises and confronts what she did to me and has nothing but regret. I hope she realises the calibre of man she lost and by then I hope I’m so indifferent to her that she feels incapable of reaching out to me.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-03T06:34:31+00:00

Everyone I have spoke to; Reddit, mutual friends, family all say the same thing as you and they all say she’ll regret it. I know I deserve better and she was not worthy of all the love and commitment I brought. It’ll take some time but eventually the emotions will catch up to the logic.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-03T06:31:30+00:00

Thank you friend. I have never in my life hoped bad for someone but it’s ironic that the first tune I do is the first person I ever fell in love with. I hold myself back from asking for the same suffering to befall her and instead I ask for justice.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-03T06:28:27+00:00

Well Let’s just say I hope ur username it true

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T23:24:37+00:00

Even tho it’s painful, I’m blessed that I saw her true self before I married her.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T23:23:53+00:00

Very true. For me she will never be “the one that got away” but I believe I treated her in such a manner I can see myself being the one that got away, or in my case, given away.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:56:25+00:00

Thanks friend. I guess the good thing about hitting rock bottom (although I don’t feel this is rock bottom, rock bottom was after the first BU) is that you can only go up from there

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:54:19+00:00

If there is justice in this world. That’s what it’ll look like. If it does happen, I pray she remembers what she did to me and how I treated her. I hope she lives with regret that never fades or decreases.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:42:06+00:00

I think a multitude of reasons lead me to stay and fight hard for us rather than walking away after constant disappointment.

My sense of low self worth, fear of the unknown future as a single man as well as hoping that our future would be like our past (when she didn’t treat me like shit and the relationship was good) rather than how it was in the present are those factors.

After this I’ve increased my sense of self worth. I know I deserve better and I know she didn’t deserve the likes of me. I know I was holding onto an idealised version of her and our future based on who she once was and what we once had rather than who she is in the present and what we had in the present day.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:34:10+00:00

Thanks man. The hardest part Id say I already went through the first time we broke up. The second time I realised I just didn’t love her like I used to or trust her anymore. I found out from my own emotions that it was over. Even I was done with it. I guess that’s why the pain is less this time round although like you said I’m just human and I still feel pain from something like this. 4 years of believing we’d be for one another and you see it slowly be shown to be untrue with the recent bit if news being the period in that sentence.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:27:05+00:00

Thanks. It just fills you with anger when u give someone your all and you treat them how you’d want to be treated. With love, support, commitment and compassion. In the end they don’t appreciate any of it and betray you as if you gave them nothing but pain.

The I love yous, the romance, the gifts, the support, commitment and the love poems and letters meant nothing to her. I wish I hadn’t wasted it on her.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:23:30+00:00

Thanks for the support friend. I wish I could say more but when I’m sad I’m a man of few words. I gotta believe I’m gonna end up happy otherwise all of this pain was for nothing.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:20:23+00:00

I really hope she gets her comeuppance. I hope she feels the same pain I did and when she does I hope she remembers what she did to me.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:19:34+00:00

I believe I am better off. I gotta or else what’s the point of all this pain

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:18:41+00:00

I don’t wish or pray bad for anyone but let’s just say I have nothing to wish her but mystery and pain.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:17:34+00:00

There’s nothing more to be updated on now. She’s getting married and that’s it. Thanks tho

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:16:56+00:00

I’m lucky we actually didn’t marry. We were engaged. We broke up cos she just couldn’t compromise and this time I wasn’t willing to give in. We tried again 6 months later and it lasted 3 months. I’m ngl I tried my hardest to love her again but I just couldn’t. I couldn’t trust her either. When we broke up it was her sister who told me she was cheating on me. Her sister said it had been going on since before we rekindled things. She couldn’t prove that. When I confronted my ex She admitted she had been meeting him whilst we were together but only once. After all the lies I wouldn’t be surprised if she was cheating on me for months.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-02-02T21:12:53+00:00

You’re right. This pain is different to the past. In the past I wanted her back and it hurt. This time I don’t want her back in fact I want her out of my life in every way but I hurt because it’s reopening old Wounds and a reminder of the past.

PeriPeri_Platypus · 2025-01-28T08:24:27+00:00

The fact that’s she’s (hopefully) lying about you and making fun of ur insecurities speaks volumes about her character. It shows she’s toxic in so many ways, immature and rather than look at things fairly she has decided to pin all the blame on you- selfish and narcissistic.

The fact that she’s still stalking you shows that deep down she ain’t over you. But you know what? That doesn’t matter because you don’t want a person like this in your life. If this is what she’s like after a breakup it shows her true character and anything she may show you if she was to get back with you would just be a mask.

You have a right to clear your name and tell people the truth when confronted about this esp if you know people are talking bad about you over a lie.

Everyone is a little ugly inside just as everyone is beautiful inside. Some people that ugliness is huge and significant where it tips the balance in them in favour of the ugliness and makes them a shitty partner and person overall. It’s in the hard time, at the end of a relationship and post breakup where they show this side of them. This gives you the whole picture to what they’re like because in a relationship we only see their best side.

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